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Old 08-08-07, 06:24 PM   #1
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How do you uninvite someone to a party?

My friend invited someone I explicitly said not to invite. His excuse: "I didn't think you were serious"

Well, that's just ****ing dandy.

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Old 08-08-07, 06:26 PM   #2
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Reschedule the party and don't tell him or be home that night.
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Tell the guy you are sorry but it's a private party. No. Make your friend do it. Then un-invite HIM too.
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Let it slide.. Get sloshed early so that you can forget about it and start hitting on random ladies..
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My friend invited someone I explicitly said not to invite. His excuse: "I didn't think you were serious"

Well, that's just ****ing dandy.

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Arrange for some large gentlemen to give the undesired element a "ride"
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Old 08-08-07, 07:12 PM   #7
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Kick out both the friend and the unwanted guest.
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Old 08-08-07, 07:37 PM   #8
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My friend invited someone I explicitly said not to invite. His excuse: "I didn't think you were serious"

Well, that's just ****ing dandy.

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Easy answer - you don't. The facts of the case don't matter. Someone was invited and they should not only be welcome, but welcomed cordially.
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Or, just e-mail him this thread. Things will kinda work themselves out naturally.
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Is it likely to become violent? Why is the un-invitee and un-invitee? If you have a valid reason, and the party is at your domicile, you can uninvite anyone you choose. That is not necessarily an easy or comfortable task. Better advice with better details.

Oh, a sudden house fire would probably keep the unfriend away!
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yeah..exactly why don't you want that person there??

if it's a really serious thing like violence,then when he shows up, don't let him in. Otherwise, forget it...just let him in and go on about your business.
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who's holding the party? you or your friend? that makes a difference.
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Easy answer - you don't. The facts of the case don't matter. Someone was invited and they should not only be welcome, but welcomed cordially.
Huh? The facts DO matter. It's Crono's party. His friend invited someone he had no authorization to invite. The friend should have to go back and tell the guy it was a mistake. Or... if the friend is a true friend, he'll take his buddy out somewhere else and neither will be at the party.
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is it crono's party? didn't specify in the OP... i don't want to assume but it would make a difference. if it IS crono's, then i'd have his pal uninvite the 'uninvited' - as gracefully as possible. if it weren't crono's party i'd just give my graces and avoid it.
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Huh? The facts DO matter. It's Crono's party. His friend invited someone he had no authorization to invite. The friend should have to go back and tell the guy it was a mistake. Or... if the friend is a true friend, he'll take his buddy out somewhere else and neither will be at the party.
The facts don't matter. The friend of the party thrower (1st friend) had implied authority to invite the friend of the friend (2nd friend). The party thrower can take that up with the first friend, but don't punish the 2nd friend. However, I would agree that one resolution would be for #1 to see to it that neither #1 nor #2 show up.
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The facts don't matter. The friend of the party thrower (1st friend) had implied authority to invite the friend of the friend (2nd friend). The party thrower can take that up with the first friend, but don't punish the 2nd friend. However, I would agree that one resolution would be for #1 to see to it that neither #1 nor #2 show up.
i am completely lost now, but that's no huge achievement on anybody's part.
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The facts don't matter. The friend of the party thrower (1st friend) had implied authority to invite the friend of the friend (2nd friend). The party thrower can take that up with the first friend, but don't punish the 2nd friend. However, I would agree that one resolution would be for #1 to see to it that neither #1 nor #2 show up.
You need to re-read the OP:

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My friend invited someone I explicitly said not to invite.[emphasis mine]
Friend #1 did not have authority - implied or otherwise - to invite the unwanted guest. So, it's his responsibility to uninvite or otherwise make sure the unwanted guest does not attend.
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Are there going to be hot ladies at this party?
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Invite me and give me a few beers. I will strip down to a thong and start to hit on the unwanted visitor as soon as they arrive. Male or female, I can probably have the unwanted one gone in minutes. At least that is how I remember it happening back in my single days. You gonna have hors douvres? I like the little weenies in BBQ sauce.
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Invite me and give me a few beers. I will strip down to a thong and start to hit on the unwanted visitor as soon as they arrive. Male or female, I can probably have the unwanted one gone in minutes. At least that is how I remember it happening back in my single days. You gonna have hors douvres? I like the little weenies in BBQ sauce.
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ITs easy. Tell `em straight to their face that you don`t want them at the party. If you don`t have the stones to do that then suck it up, pretend to like them and hate yourself for being a noodle.
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Well, here are the details.

It's my birthday soon. I brought up to my friend "I think I'd like to have a party that day"
He said, "I'll take care of it"
I said, "Sure, as long as Matt's not there"
Both: *LOL*

For the next week or so we both brainstormed about how to deceptively not invite him to the party. Once the evite was sent, I saw Matt on the list.

Me: "Why's Matt on the list?"
Him: "I thought you weren't serious"
Me: *slaps forehead*

I'll pause right now to explain why we hate him. In short, he's fake. His generosity exists only if there's something in it for him, or to impress someone. We got the shaft from him one time at the bar when he offered to buy a round of drinks. The bartender took a while, and by the time the drinks came out, the girls had left. When it came time to pay he just walked off, leaving my other friend to front the tab.

He's also a creep that has a tendency to grab girls in their naughty no-no places and quickly retort with "But I'm drunk!" when he gets smacked in the face. One of those girls is my close friend whom I actually want at the party. The last time they encountered each other he tried to greet her with a hug and she pushed him away, calling him a "****head."

Lastly, he's a pathological liar. His favorite pickup line is something like "I'm in a band that used to tour with Fall Out Boy." I'm not kidding. At the end of the night when he obviously struck out, it used to be pretty funny to hear about what he did in the privacy of the bathroom stall with some girl, but that got old REALLY quick. His boastful stories would even contain an element of degradation towards the person he's telling the story to. ex: "She was sucking it so well in the stall. I think it was the same girl you tried talking to earlier, haha. She barely even LOOKED at you!"

I'm a non-confrontational person, so my solution is to just detach him from my life, and that works out pretty well except that I keep on running into him at the club. That's not all, he's a room mate of 2 of my closer friends, as well as a coworker to one of them. That means that in order to not mess up their living and working situations, we all have to try to reduce the friction that exists between him and our circle of friends.
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Well, here are the details.

It's my birthday soon. I brought up to my friend "I think I'd like to have a party that day"
He said, "I'll take care of it"
I said, "Sure, as long as Matt's not there"
Both: *LOL*

For the next week or so we both brainstormed about how to deceptively not invite him to the party. Once the evite was sent, I saw Matt on the list.

Me: "Why's Matt on the list?"
Him: "I thought you weren't serious"
Me: *slaps forehead*

I'll pause right now to explain why we hate him. In short, he's fake. His generosity exists only if there's something in it for him, or to impress someone. We got the shaft from him one time at the bar when he offered to buy a round of drinks. The bartender took a while, and by the time the drinks came out, the girls had left. When it came time to pay he just walked off, leaving my other friend to front the tab.

He's also a creep that has a tendency to grab girls in their naughty no-no places and quickly retort with "But I'm drunk!" when he gets smacked in the face. One of those girls is my close friend whom I actually want at the party. The last time they encountered each other he tried to greet her with a hug and she pushed him away, calling him a "****head."

Lastly, he's a pathological liar. His favorite pickup line is something like "I'm in a band that used to tour with Fall Out Boy." I'm not kidding. At the end of the night when he obviously struck out, it used to be pretty funny to hear about what he did in the privacy of the bathroom stall with some girl, but that got old REALLY quick. His boastful stories would even contain an element of degradation towards the person he's telling the story to. ex: "She was sucking it so well in the stall. I think it was the same girl you tried talking to earlier, haha. She barely even LOOKED at you!"

I'm a non-confrontational person, so my solution is to just detach him from my life, and that works out pretty well except that I keep on running into him at the club. That's not all, he's a room mate of 2 of my closer friends, as well as a coworker to one of them. That means that in order to not mess up their living and working situations, we all have to try to reduce the friction that exists between him and our circle of friends.
Be honest and tell him that you don't like his behavior, and that he makes women nervous to be around him. Tell him that you don't want him in your house or at your party do to his past actions.
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