Anybody ever join an online dating site? What was your experience?
Keep it clean kids.
Grandpops wanna join a dating service? ooooh...
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I have had a very good experience with Match and in fact found my partner there, although I also had some less-optimum encounters. I did not find as many good candidates on eHarmony, even with their greater cost and relationship matching methodology. Match apparently has more subscribers than eHarmony. The interesting thing I found was that the demand for men in their mid-40's, college educated, professionally employed and with the kids grown up, greatly exceeded the supply. There seems to be considerably more females in this demographic looking for partners then men in this demographic. I am sure there is a sociology thesis in there somewhere.
Last edited by MillCreek; 09-06-07 at 10:15 PM.
Snohomish County, Washington USA
I actually met my wife on match.com, so I guess it worked out ok....
Just be prepared to accept a certain, um, "failure rate..." While it definitely helped to find a great match, one must be prepared to endure several awkward dinners or trips to the coffee shop.
A brief list:
1. Be prepared to accept that someone's match profile picture is quite possibly the best photo taken of them. EVER.
2. Any woman who actually describes herself as "fun," "laid-back," or "easy-going" is most frequently none of the above.
3. Always have an escape route on the first date. Day hikes, for instance, are a BAD idea.
4. Be brutally honest in your own profile, and I'm talking borderline self-deprication. It'll scare away the wrong ones and pique the interest of the right ones. Lay it all out there.
Good luck, Rad-- I think your tagline should be "Willing to wait 5 years to get me some Tete."
"Unless he was racing there was no way he could match my speed."
A good friend of mine from high school met her husband on eharmony. They are both economics professors (U of Chicago and Northwestern), lived near one another, had mutual friends, but didn't meet until using an online service.
I think my wife has a college friend who met her husband on match.com, but I'll have to verify that one.
eHarmony isn't any better than the rest. I was quite surprised by some of the people I got matched with, because in the real world they wouldn't have been anyone I would have chosen. Unfortunately even though you pay for the service, you still get the crazy kinds of folks you find on Craigslist.
There can be only one.
If a pic is bad, it just may be a bad pic, they may be much more attractive in real life (I've "taken that risk" and been pleasantly surprised).
one of the clients that works out my business was telling me today that she is a member of match.com and has met tons of people on that site. She's a very attractive 36 year old and she's currently seriously dating someone she met on the site, so I suppose it works for some folks.
It worked well for me because me and the woman could get to know each other a bit through email before meeting. Needless to say I'm very happy with the end result.
Out of cyclingsingles.com, fitness-singles.com, OKCupid and Match, Match has the most to 'choose' from. I learned that 'athletic' and 'cycling' on Match can mean they manage to bike around the block a few times once a week. 'Average' body may very well mean 40 pounds overweight. Be wary of off colored photos - they're usually decades old. If they send a novel on their first contact, it means it was saved, copied, and sent to about a dozen others.
Those of us from the Women's forum and the 'internet dating' thread agree that bad spelling does make a bad impression. And pics of your naked torso, unless you're at the beach or poolside, got an 'ew'. As are pics of you and your ex girlfriend or wife.
I've only been on Match for about a month. It's just hard to meet people these days, I've kind of given up on the idea of 'running into the love of my life' and leaving it up to Fate. Especially cycling when everyone is in motion at about 20mph, heading in different directions...lol!
When I think of my own experiences and others I have spoken with, there are certain things both genders seem to lie or shade the truth about:
Physical or psychological issues
This is not unique to the online dating world by any means. I was always honest in my online profile, but I was astonished as to how many were not. And if they could not write an articulate sentence or spell properly, they went to the bottom of the pile.
The other thing that surprised me about Yahoo and Match were the actual prostitutes with free profiles trolling for clients there, and the number of foreign nationals whose first email to me said they were in love with me just from my picture and profile, and could I send them $ 1000 USD so they could come visit me or marry me. Amazing.
The best thing about the Net dating sites, in my view, is how you can use search filters to find people that have a better chance of meeting your criteria. It is far easier to do this on the Net than in real life. If I was looking for someone within 25 miles, a college graduate, professionally employed and making at least $ 50K per year, there was no practical way to conduct this search other than via the Net dating sites.
Last edited by MillCreek; 09-06-07 at 10:21 PM.
Snohomish County, Washington USA
My brother met his fiance on Match.com, they aren't married yet, but it looks promising.
Like Dr. Pete said, lot of people put old pictures up there so be prepared, and someone's description of themselves is more likely to be completely off base.
I see these sites as just another place to meet people, like an online bar, basically what Ebay is to your local paper's classifieds. In a bar, you don't really get to know people besides their fake personalities they put on for the night, and with the exception of knowing exactly what they look like, provided there's ample lighting, a bar is just like Match.com et al.
I tried the eHarmony thing for a bit. I think that I was not really looking for anything permanent at the time because I set my geographic preference as "the whole world". I spent a lot of time e-mailing and did get to meet with a few of my matches. These fellas were nice enough, but not right for me and not people that I'd want to put a lot of energy investing in a long distance relationship with. Shortly after I unsubscribed, I met my current bf through the cycling group I ride with. go figure.
Where am I going?......
....and why am I in this handbasket?
say that reminds me.....
my college room-mate's dad was an accountant or cfo or something and was sent to prison for embezzling from his company. my roomie told me about his dad's first day in the joint. they put him in a cell with some big bubba. bubba says to him, "see'n as you and me is gonna be livin together for a long time, that sorta makes us a family. now, in families, they's a husband and they's a wife. so, which one you want to be, the husband or the wife?"
my roomies dad thought about it for abit and decided 'no way am i being this dude's wife' so he says, "i...i...i'd like to be the husband." bubba said, "well that's just fine, now get on over here and suck yo wife's ***."
Your exact opposite is the Televangelist.
Other personalities you would probably get along with are the Capitalist Pig, the Smartass, and the Sociopath.
I don't have a clue, but best of luck!
Time to Ride...
My sister met her current financee (fiance) on Yahoo Personals. As well I met my current girlfriend of 2 1/2 years on Yahoo Personals. I recommend them highly. I was also on Match.com and wasn't too impressed. Some more words of advice. If you see a picture and they say they look a little different now, they look really different now and have a distorted self image of themselves now. Anyone who doesn't have a picture online doesn't mean they are ugly (current girlfriend is beautiful and she had no picture). As well I met many girls that were gorgeous but hid themselves online. Test people on what they tell you, I had many girls tell me they loved playing football but they were lying.
P.S. There's a lot of guys/girls looking for different things out there. You're gonna get a lot of replies or messages from young girls looking for that sugar daddy bs. Just an FYI. Girls get the old perverts.