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Old 09-11-07, 02:17 PM   #1
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Rude Awakening in the Online Dating Thing

So I ventured out and responded to an online ad....

Which led to a back and forth of emails, all of which was interesting and stimulating. Finally, we agreed to meet for coffee.

5 minutes in and the gal stands up and says she's leaving. Thanks but I'm not right for her. Seems she has an intuition for these things (who doesn't) and doesn't want to waste my time.

Good for her. While at first I felt a bit hurt, I can't help but respect someone who knows what she wants - even if its not me.

I guess I have some catching up to do....

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Old 09-11-07, 02:19 PM   #2
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Did you show her your guads? That's pretty much step one for me when I introduce myself to ladies.
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Old 09-11-07, 02:19 PM   #3
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You didn't start naming off all your steeds did you?
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Old 09-11-07, 02:21 PM   #4
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Please tell me your opener wasn't:
"It rubs the lotion in the skin, or else it gets the hose again"

cause trust me, I've tried it, and it never works out.
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Old 09-11-07, 02:22 PM   #5
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5 minutes?! that IS rude, no question about it. i went on lots of online dates and met lots of women. even when it was clear that we weren't right for each other, we at least finished the drink/coffee/meal first and parted ways politely.
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Old 09-11-07, 02:22 PM   #6
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wow, cant feel good to get shut down but on the other hand there is more to people then what you can see of them in 5 minutes.
If she doesnt get that by now, no wonder why she's alone.
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Hey, at least she was actually female. Consider yourself ahead of the game.
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Old 09-11-07, 02:25 PM   #8
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this is really reassuring
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Maybe she was rehearsing for MTv's Next

Not that I watch the show or anything ..
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You should've told her you didn't want to be her 5th husband anyways. With an attitude while flicking your hair back.
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Old 09-11-07, 02:29 PM   #11
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Not that I watch the show or anything ..
just the fact that you know the name of it sends alarm bells ringing.
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you sure you weren't being Punk'd?

gee...you look okay to me...i'd give you at least 15 mins....LOL
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My sister told me she did something like this a few months ago. I honestly couldnt believe she could be so rude. Generally she is a very nice person, but I think the feeling of anonymity and general lack of politeness on the internet may have crossed over into the date she signed up for using it.

Edit: In case you were wondering, her reason for leaving was that the guy was talking about what he liked in relationships and it creeped her out.
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Edit: In case you were wondering, her reason for leaving was that the guy was talking about what he liked in relationships and it creeped her out.
Lesson learned: Never discuss diapers and maple syrup at the first meeting.
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well...that is a little much for the first date. NEVER go into what you like in relationships or anything like that...you're just getting to know each other. It would give me the willies...but i wouldn't just jump up and leave. I'd just find a way to let him know somehow...it's just not appropriate.
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You have a good outlook. You are right that it is a good thing of her to make that realization up front and not waste both of your times.

I have that situation happen to me before, and I've initiated that situation myself before.
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I still think you should ram your shopping cart into other women's carts at the grocery store.
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I still think you should ram your shopping cart into other women's carts at the grocery store.
Is "shopping cart" innuendo?
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Is "shopping cart" innuendo?
That's no innuendo. That's a great way to meet women - as long as you don't make it look intentional, or do it repeatedly to different women on the same shopping trip. I've heard the produce section is the best place to do this.
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That's no innuendo. That's a great way to meet women - as long as you don't make it look intentional, or do it repeatedly to different women on the same shopping trip. I've heard the produce section is the best place to do this.
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I still think you should ram your shopping cart into other women's carts at the grocery store.
I wasn't aware this was a pickup approach. I have done this the last 2 times I went grocery shopping. Both times it was a mistake. Both times the girl was not someone I would be attracted to. Both times I said sorry. Both time I got an eat-**** look and no reply. Made me want to retract my apologies.

Back to B-Rad, dude that girl seems like a big flake. There are alot of flakes in online dating, mixed in with the "normal" ones like you and me. They are flakes (and single) because they are extremely picky to the point of being neurotic, and this particular gal probably couldn't manage more than 5 minutes of genuine human contact before flipping out the way she did. Move to the next one.
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That's no innuendo. That's a great way to meet women - as long as you don't make it look intentional, or do it repeatedly to different women on the same shopping trip. I've heard the produce section is the best place to do this.
Preferably right next to the cucumbers and zucchini, while audibly muttering "All these things are so damned small! Where's the REAL produce?"
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5 minutes does seem a bit short. However, as you state, she must know what she wants. She may have just saved you a few weeks/months of pain.

Get back out there, Rad. You'll find her.

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That's no innuendo. That's a great way to meet women - as long as you don't make it look intentional, or do it repeatedly to different women on the same shopping trip. I've heard the produce section is the best place to do this.
my roommates in college used to push each other into women at bars to try to pick them up. i gotta hand it to them though, it actually did work sometimes.
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55/Rad - Online dating in general is very frustrating. I tried it twice, including signing up for a fitness/singles service and the "advice" I was given was that you have to go on 10 "face-to-face" dates to find even one potential. Those are the so-called odds. I met a few nice men and never left any date after 5 minutes (unless you were exposing yourself, drunk or dropping the "f" bomb in every sentence, that is just plain RUDE of her to do. Anyone deservers at least 20-30 minutes over a cup of coffee!). But I did not find a potential partner as I just lost interest after a particularly foul experience.

I met a man for dinner who had yellow teeth (really, really yellow as if he had eaten a bag of Cheetos with mustard), had a broken toe and put his foot up on the table to show me in the middle of dinner, was loud, rude to the waitress and didn't ask me one single question for the entire hour I suffered through listening to him talk about his dirt bikes and excessive debt. I still stayed through dinner. I was in shock and, hey, it provided me with the "this-one-date-I-had-was-sooooooo-bad" story.
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