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Old 09-14-07, 11:23 PM   #1
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i cant do this

im pathetic

oi cant do this anymore
she talked ane we talked tonight and i love her
but already there are guys talking to her on faceobok, like roaches they com e out of the woodwork and she is there waiting for the bait,t hese ****ing creeps

there is no point to it alll...whatsthe pint
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Old 09-14-07, 11:24 PM   #2
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You had a little to drink tonight didn't you?
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Old 09-14-07, 11:25 PM   #3
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youd think it would erase it all
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Old 09-14-07, 11:28 PM   #4
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Timmy, cheer up bro, there are so many other fish in the sea. So many more people to meet, and new love to experience. I know it hurts right now, but when you went in you knew it may not work or last, right? Your glad you did it anyways, right? Hold your head up man, and take some time to heal. I know, you're going to feel like a steaming pile of horse dung for awhile, but it's ok, you'll find someone new. Best thing to do is ignore her, and all the facebook pervs that are flocking. I know it doesn't seem like anything matters right now, but after time you'll feel better, you'll bounce back.
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Old 09-14-07, 11:36 PM   #5
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i called my own mother, as a lkast resort, she ahd nothing to say....


i'm a fish in an empty sea....
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Old 09-14-07, 11:51 PM   #6
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What's her facebook ID?
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Timmy, believe it or not, Jon makes a good point. Seriously.

But, I know you still have early infatatious feelings, and these are hard to "let go." I promise you that you will feel this way at least once or twice more before you finally feel that it's "right" and decide to "pursue" very vigorously a particular relationship. And she will likely be quite receptive to your efforts, for that's when you know it's "clickin'" all around.

Timmy, it might "happen" at your age, but it usually really "clicks" best around 25 or so. <shrug>

Others for whom it's worked much younger will disagree. And that's ok. But they might just have to admit that they are in the minority?
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Old 09-15-07, 12:46 AM   #8
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Eh, Timmy, it's not about fish. It's about humans. It's harder than just baiting a hook again. And yeah, you can have a very serious love affair at your age, and it sounds like you've had one. I'm not going to belittle your loss.

Rather than look toward the next woman, maybe you should work at mourning your broken relationship in a thoughtful way. Don't drink too much now that you've had your achy-breaky drunk. Spend time with friends. Really ramp up the bike rides, set some mileage goals. You ARE going to think about her and grieve, but try to think and grieve while you're riding, not while you're drinking or sitting around in your room. Also, give yourself permission NOT to think about her, to drop the torch when you're ready.

I'm not surprised your mom has little to say, though she's likely worried about you. Ever thought about telling the whole story to a counselor of some kind? Telling the story to a stranger may help you see it as a story. You begin to direct the drama, not just react to it.

By the way, I understand your hyperbole, but your ex has a right to break up with you. She has a right to talk to and date other men, and it's quite likely the men interested in her are not cockroaches, creeps, or pervs. Don't be a creepy voyeur to her facebook conversations, not good for you or her. Let it slide.
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Old 09-15-07, 01:15 AM   #9
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Seriously if she's as dumb as you lead me to think she is by "being baited by guys on facebook" you can find someone much more intelligent and worth your time.
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Old 09-15-07, 01:39 AM   #10
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The guys were always there, Timmy, you just notice them now. And they'll always be there, no matter which woman you are with. Unless completely you trust the woman you are with these men will always be in the back of your mind, love or not.
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Stay off of Facebook.....
it will just draw out the misery indefinately.
Not to trivialize your suprmeme hurt, but wut yer peepz say
is true.....Another person will come along eventually ( in their
time, not yours, unfortunately) and you will wonder why you ever got
so upset. Time really, really does heal. As a grotty grumpy old jaded
kurmudgeon, When my relationships eneded, I came to enjoy the anticipation
of the ineviatable new beginning more than mourn the old.
It'll happen...patience grasshoppah.
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Stay off of Facebook.....
it will just draw out the misery indefinately.
Not to trivialize your supreme hurt, but wut yer peepz say
is true.....Another person will come along eventually ( in their
time, not yours, unfortunately) and you will wonder why you ever got
so upset. Time really, really does heal. As a grotty grumpy old jaded
kurmudgeon, When my relationships ended, I came to enjoy the anticipation
of the ineviatable new beginning more than mourn the old.
It'll happen...patience grasshoppah.
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Old 09-15-07, 04:54 AM   #14
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i agree with ziemas and lem

when me and my g/f of 6 years broke up i deleted my facebook account and avoided her as much as possible. it helped. so did my bike.
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Old 09-15-07, 06:48 AM   #15
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Get friends.

Seriously.

Best thing for me was a certain female friend who REALLY wanted me to get over one girl. Of course, I'm 99% sure she had a motive for that.
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Old 09-15-07, 07:34 AM   #16
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i agree with ziemas and lem

when me and my g/f of 6 years broke up i deleted my facebook account and avoided her as much as possible. it helped. so did my bike.

Yep....Good advice !
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Bike to a coffeehouse and hangout tonite.
Get out of your apartment.

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i agree with ziemas and lem

when me and my g/f of 6 years broke up i deleted my facebook account and avoided her as much as possible. it helped. so did my bike.

Yep....Good advice !
Bike = guitar !

Bike to a coffeehouse and hangout tonite.
Get out of your apartment.

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Old 09-15-07, 08:26 AM   #19
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Yeah, the binge drinking didn't help me much.
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Old 09-15-07, 08:34 AM   #20
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Yeah, the binge drinking didn't help me much.
Never does, Bro! Like others have said, get out and about! Hit a coffeehouse and totally embarrass yourself in an open mike night or something like that Have fun! It's the best medicine as well as the best form of revenge....to live well.
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Old 09-15-07, 08:43 AM   #21
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Never does, Bro! Like others have said, get out and about! Hit a coffeehouse and totally embarrass yourself in an open mike night or something like that Have fun! It's the best medicine as well as the best form of revenge....to live well.
This is good advice....do it, and soon!
From what I've read about this young lady through your posts, your better off if you move on. Get out on the town with some freinds, go for a long bike ride, a weekend backpacking trip, karaoke night at the local comedy house, or something to have fun and get away from your thoughts about her. It hurts like hell now, but in no time you'll realise that you're better off without her.

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Old 09-15-07, 08:46 AM   #22
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I haven't gone on a bikeride all week...i think now is a good time, cold though :-(
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1. Lose the avatar.

2. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

3. Grow a pair and move forward. You are not the first person to lose a love. In fact many people on these forums have suffered FAR MORE than you are right now. Yet they moved on and lived life with courage.

4. Bookmark this thread so you can re-read it someday. Never let somebody have so much control over your happiness. A spouse/girlfriend can disappear in an instant for any number of reasons. You have to be able to move on. You need to learn to be happy alone before you can be happy with someone. I don't think you ever have. (Trust me on this one.)
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Roll down here to Fl !!
My House is right on the beach and I fall in love/lust
at least 5 times every 1/2 mile ! A lot of natures
beauty to take your mind of of anything....Work, the
rent....the bent rim...the test, etc...nothing matters !


Im talking about the giant Bufo Toads mind you, lest your
young, fertive imagination thinks otherwise
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I am not meaning this to be as cruel as it is going to sound.

If you aren't happy being around yourself by yourself, why should she be happy being around you? Don't let any person "complete" you - be complete in and of yourself and you will be plenty attractive. And you will be happy when you are alone too.

Portis is right - time to move on.
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