Edit 2: Moar updates. You were all right. Note to self: this was a bad idea.
Edit: This is an old post. You're seeing this because I finally got around to posting an update - it's on page 2. Original post follows:
Here's the deal.
I've got a female friend that I've known for a few years now. She's probably my closest friend, in fact. We've got a LOT in common, we've got a lot of the same issues (mental issues, that is... *sigh*,) and we seem to understand each other on a very deep level. (enough with the sappy crap, eh? )
And, for most of the time that we've been friends, I'm almost certain she's been interested in me, and I've been interested in her. In fact, she came VERY close to telling me that she would dump her BF for me. Unfortunately, I didn't quite realize what she was saying until it was too late, and also, I wasn't really ready for a relationship.
About a year and a half ago, she got pregnant, and had the kid.
As soon as I heard she was pregnant, I backed WAY the hell off, for obvious reasons. We were still friends, though.
Once, when we were talking (I think she was interested in me again, but I was still staying away, trying to find someone else,) she had mentioned that her BF took out his anger towards their kid on her, verbally, and her house (they do live together, though, but it's HER house) physically. (Apparently she's had to have some drywall replaced because of him... ) I told her that wasn't right at all, but...
Now, in the interest of full disclosure, I should mention that she IS a coworker. Our jobs are completely different, though, no matter how many times she gets a computer to work that I can't (she gives me crap about that now and then. Oh, and it was just ONE computer. ) (I'm the computer technician, she's the bookkeeper.)
Anyway, our company moved locations this summer. So, both of us took the opportunity to talk with each other more. Anyway, she started SERIOUSLY flirting with me. And, we found out a lot more about each other, became even closer friends.
Now, here's the seriously tricky part. They hired her BF on as maintenance staff. But, that hasn't really presented a problem, yet.
Anyway, one day, I hadn't stayed hydrated, and it was 95 F out, and we had very little air conditioning at work (and none, where I was working.) I was going around, and this flashing spot formed in my eye, like I had just looked into a bright lightbulb, except I hadn't, and it was getting bigger, not smaller and going away. I got some water, and told her about it, and she told me to go sit in front of a fan for a while. I also closed my eyes for a while.
She kept checking on how I was doing, too.
After about, oh, an hour or so, the spot was going away.
Instead, the worst headache I ever had came on. (I was later told that this was a hydration migraine.) I tried to find some Tylenol, but failed.
A few minutes later, she came in, and asked how I was feeling... I told her, "well, I can see now, but I feel like ****." The pain was so bad, I was tearing up just trying to talk.
She told me to just call it a day, and go home, and get some rest. I told her, I couldn't drive in this state... so I guess I'd just sleep in my car. So, she instead arranged for me to be taken to her mom's place, with COLD air conditioning and a comfy couch. THAT did the trick, an hour later, the headache went away. I called her, and she came and picked me up. She told me that she had unloaded all of the computer stuff that I was moving from the old building for me, and that she had even gotten some stuff moved herself. Damn, the girl even did my job for me when I was sick!
Anyway, a few days later, the stress of the job got to me, and I handed in my resignation. NOBODY there wanted me to quit, but... I had to, there was too much stress. I told her I was going to do it, about an hour before I did it, and she didn't think I was serious. (She had talked about it some before, but because she doesn't have a college degree, she knew she couldn't get a similar job easily. I could get a BETTER paying job rather easily.) The next day, I came in and told everyone when my last day was, and she was extremely shocked, and worried (I didn't have another job lined up or anything...) I can't prove anything, but I *THINK* she might have pulled some strings to get them to offer me an extreme raise, and try to convince me to not quit. (It worked, FWIW.)
Also, a couple weeks ago, she told me that her BF got caught driving under suspension, and that she'd now have to be his personal taxi service (because if he got caught again, he'd get 60 days in jail,) and she seemed EXTREMELY unhappy about that. And, half of the time I see them together, they're fighting. A lot of the time, she's telling me about the latest crap that he puts her through.
The other day, I was in her office, talking with her, and she had her kid in this little car walker thing... he kept bumping it into me (hmm, should I post in A&S, saying a car hit me multiple times on purpose the other day? ,) and she said that he liked me. And, that's the first kid that I've been around that I didn't hate.
Anyway, basically, she's everything I've been looking for. Great personality, we connect on a very deep level, physically my type, and god damn those green eyes just pierce right through me.
Anyway, I had talked with some other friends, and they suggested that I tell her (when she's complaining about her BF) something along the lines of, "you're awesome, and you don't deserve to go through that crap..." and just walk away. And, I don't think I actually want her to dump her BF for me - I want her to dump her BF, get used to being single for a while, THEN go for me - I don't want to be either a rebound **** or a drop-in replacement for her BF.