I've often explained to people that I can't deal with them because I need the time to get my head right. This has resulted in a few rather traumatic breakups and other issues related to relating. Does anyone else have this issue? I just often feel that I can barely deal with my own problems, nonetheless the problems of another. Recently, this has effected my relationship ability because I seem to be too preoccupied with doing the things I'm about (largely nothing) to feel I'm able to commit to being emotionally involved with another person. The answer I always want to give of "I'm just not in a spot for that right now" satisfies me but doesn't seem to satisfy my friends who have told me that "you'll never be in a spot where you feel comfortable with a relationship."
Do any of you have any thoughts on the issue? Lately I just feel too much of a burden to place on others, something which has resulted poorly in the past, and don't really feel responsible enough to engage significantly in such matters. That said, this has been a rather long going process. In my experience, things happen as they are meant to happen and there's little I can do about it. This conflicts with my personal philosophy of self control but, as you can see, one seems to control the other.