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    In this thread, describe the girl that got away


    This basically became official last week, but it was on the cards for a while. A girl I work with is very friendly, kind, caring, very attractive, laughs at my jokes, just about everything I could possibly want, or so I thought. As time went by I found out other things. She's still living with her parents at 25 (soon to be 26) and deeply religious. Ordinarily this wouldn't be a problem, but her parents are South African (she was born there, but didn't grow up there).

    I'm not trying to sound racist, but the fact is, a lot of the South Africans I've met over the years have had controlling instincts, and there have been signs of it in this girl's personality recently. The last thing I want is some girl's parents trying to run my life, telling me exactly when we should be getting married, having kids etc, but I'm pretty sure that's what would have happened here. I don't want to have kids, I want to travel and see the world, to experience different things. I could see that if I hooked up with her, it just wasn't going to happen that way. We would have clashed on this eventually, and I think she realised it too.

    I'll probably always wonder about her, and I'll probably feel something for her until I find someone else (there are few genuine, decent people in this part of the world) However, I can see it just wouldn't work. I guess there's an old saying, "If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is".
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    **** vs madonna

    I was thinking of this while pedaling home from work.

    My first was this amazing girl, she had her quirks but all and all she was amazing. Or at least I think so now. We started dating in high school, and it carried on until we both entered college. Part of the reason we didn't work out was I entered an experimental phase and got bored and started to sleep around. Plus our schools where 6+ hours apart. We tried for two years to make it work, but eventually things fell through. And when I had my big falling out with my family, I fell out with her as well. It wasn't her fault It was my own need to escape.

    At the time what I wanted was a **** and what I had was a madonna. Now I would like a madonna and since i work in a bar all I can find are ***** who are empty replacements for the few girls i miss.

    The reason this came to me tonight is because I had a different partner working security than usual. He is married her, and knows I was her first. At first I was afraid things where going to be more weird than they were, because last i checked she was still pretty pissed at me. for the most part things went really smoothly. but then we started talking about the weather of all things and he brought up how she keeps the house to cold. and i mentioned "yeah her parents did that to, but what i hated was the fact she will put her cold nose between your shoulder blades." we went back and forth for a bit, but after a few minutes along that thread of conversation i interjected with. "you know this could get really awkward, really quickly, how about we change the subject?"

    He agreed and we moved on.

    I don't regret losing her, because had I stated with her. I never would have gotten to see Europe, race motorcycles, or get into any of the other stupid stuff I have done. She was definitely more of a white picket fence goes to church every sunday kinda girl. But every now and then, she is one of the few I really miss.
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    She was 5-6, an aspiring model, a beautiful walnut shade of brown hair, hazel eyes....and was the closest thing to a soulmate I ever had.....we got along so well that we had an agument about not having any arguments.

    Yeah, I screwed it up...I can't exactly put it into a paragraph how it went down, but I was too much of a p***y at the time to deal with some side issues that got big enough that she just got pissed off at me and went to find a shoulder to cry on....sadly one of my friends took advantage of that....that screwed me up real bad, so when we tried to patch it up, I became a pretty cold b*****d.

    In the end I sabotaged the entire thing, and I realize it....I don't blame myself for the cheating part, that's on them...but prior and after, I acted like an total d**k. I found out recently she's doing well, if she's happy, then that's great, she deserves it.
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    She didn't get away.
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    Quote Originally Posted by c0urt View Post
    **** vs madonna

    I was thinking of this while pedaling home from work.

    My first was this amazing girl, she had her quirks but all and all she was amazing. Or at least I think so now. We started dating in high school, and it carried on until we both entered college. Part of the reason we didn't work out was I entered an experimental phase and got bored and started to sleep around. Plus our schools where 6+ hours apart. We tried for two years to make it work, but eventually things fell through. And when I had my big falling out with my family, I fell out with her as well. It wasn't her fault It was my own need to escape.

    At the time what I wanted was a **** and what I had was a madonna. Now I would like a madonna and since i work in a bar all I can find are ***** who are empty replacements for the few girls i miss.

    The reason this came to me tonight is because I had a different partner working security than usual. He is married her, and knows I was her first. At first I was afraid things where going to be more weird than they were, because last i checked she was still pretty pissed at me. for the most part things went really smoothly. but then we started talking about the weather of all things and he brought up how she keeps the house to cold. and i mentioned "yeah her parents did that to, but what i hated was the fact she will put her cold nose between your shoulder blades." we went back and forth for a bit, but after a few minutes along that thread of conversation i interjected with. "you know this could get really awkward, really quickly, how about we change the subject?"

    He agreed and we moved on.

    I don't regret losing her, because had I stated with her. I never would have gotten to see Europe, race motorcycles, or get into any of the other stupid stuff I have done. She was definitely more of a white picket fence goes to church every sunday kinda girl. But every now and then, she is one of the few I really miss.

    Word.. I feel ya. I've got a girl like that. I'm going to find out if she's pregnant (with mine ) this week.. if she's not - then I lose her forever since I'm not ready to settle down and quit my 'explorational phase' just yet.. if she is - then I'm stuck with a loyal companion who puts up with all my **** and loves me w/all her heart and soul.. God save me.

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    Really a quick story. It was my orientation for college. I went to Univ of Connecticut so we had at least 4000 people in my class. There were maybe 1000-1500 at my orientation session. They had us all go into the basketball arena on campus for relationship building drills.

    One of the exercises was everyone formed a big circle on the floor of the arena, maybe 100-150 feet in diameter. There were a lot of people there. Then what they'd do is this announcer would say, 'ok all people born in july," and all the people born in july would run to the center screaming and quickly hug or introduce themselves to a random person. Other categories included things like 'people from new jersey,' or ' all singles to the center.' Anyways, this cute little girl of about 5'3" 5'4" was next to me. She had dark hair and a thick Bronx, NY accent. We talked briefly, cracking jokes about some people screaming and what have you. When they called out the singles to the center I didn't go because I was an idiot and still was with my hs gf who was 400 miles away. So I didn't go out. I could feel that she was waiting on that one to see if I was going to the center.

    Throughout the course of the night we got split up as they did more relationship building exercises. Everyone eventually went outside for ice cream. I had no friends at the time so I was just randomly walking around. My hair was buzzed at the time, and she randomly walked up to me and ran her hand over my head like a lot of my gf's did.

    I just laughed it off and smiled, being the pus*y that I was. I really wish I had gotten her name and number to start a friendship at the least. She was my type though. I never saw her again after that night.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ritehsedad View Post
    She didn't get away.
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