This basically became official last week, but it was on the cards for a while. A girl I work with is very friendly, kind, caring, very attractive, laughs at my jokes, just about everything I could possibly want, or so I thought. As time went by I found out other things. She's still living with her parents at 25 (soon to be 26) and deeply religious. Ordinarily this wouldn't be a problem, but her parents are South African (she was born there, but didn't grow up there).
I'm not trying to sound racist, but the fact is, a lot of the South Africans I've met over the years have had controlling instincts, and there have been signs of it in this girl's personality recently. The last thing I want is some girl's parents trying to run my life, telling me exactly when we should be getting married, having kids etc, but I'm pretty sure that's what would have happened here. I don't want to have kids, I want to travel and see the world, to experience different things. I could see that if I hooked up with her, it just wasn't going to happen that way. We would have clashed on this eventually, and I think she realised it too.
I'll probably always wonder about her, and I'll probably feel something for her until I find someone else (there are few genuine, decent people in this part of the world) However, I can see it just wouldn't work. I guess there's an old saying, "If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is".