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Old 10-13-07, 01:36 PM   #1
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The; 'share your experiences of your psycho ex & mother of your kid(s)' thread. :P

Hi, does anyone here have a child with someone who behaves in a completely irrational and vindictive way towards you - and is hell bent on making your kids hate you and/or driving you from their life? Please share you experiences and how you coped.. or are presently coping.

*(unless you are currently a drug addict/out of control alcoholic or a kiddy fiddler, - then pls, keep your experiences to yourselves).
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told her i wanted a vasecomty. she daid no, i said condoms, she said no, i said abstinece, she cut her self till i would have sex with her again. she got pregnant and had to stay off of her bi-polar meds to keep the kid

not sure how the kid feels about me, i have been debating moving back to that part of the country and trying to be a positive influence. but not sure if i could stand being that close to her again. i do miss that sparkle of insanity in her eyes, but i am not sure if the pain is really worth the fun.
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Old 10-13-07, 01:48 PM   #3
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^Wow.. how old is your child? When is the last time you were able to see him (or her)?
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16 months. aside from pictures i havent ever gotten to see him, she never wants to see me again. there were some messy issues before he was born and she ended up back with her parents.

I was told by my mom to choose her or the girl. i chose neither and left and left the country to think.


my mom and i have patched things up since then. granted it took me spending a month in the hospital and someone else calling her to do it.

I have really mixed feelings towards her, and i didn't have to cope with them till had my seizures. Threy were effectively buried. Now that my memory is screwed up I have to deal with those feelings all over again. A few people think it is part of the reason I have occasional bouts of depression.


on the one hand I still really like her and sometimes when my mind wanders or when I have one of those rare quiet moments i think of her and I ask myself what if? once or twice I have found myself part of the way into composing an email to her, my fingers on auto pilot almost. then I realize why that might be a bad idea. because I know what she is capable of. and nothing has ever left me broken the way she did. I miss her, but I dont want to make things more difficult for her.

in her flickr account he smiles, I cry but thats good enough I guess.
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Old 10-13-07, 02:18 PM   #5
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that sparkle is a rush, isn't it?

No kids, but I once had an ex that said when we had sex she had nightmares. I dont know if that meant it was really good or really bad....
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16 months. aside from pictures i havent ever gotten to see him, she never wants to see me again. there were some messy issues before he was born and she ended up back with her parents.

I was told by my mom to choose her or the girl. i chose neither and left and left the country to think.


my mom and i have patched things up since then. granted it took me spending a month in the hospital and someone else calling her to do it.

I have really mixed feelings towards her, and i didn't have to cope with them till had my seizures. Threy were effectively buried. Now that my memory is screwed up I have to deal with those feelings all over again. A few people think it is part of the reason I have occasional bouts of depression.


on the one hand I still really like her and sometimes when my mind wanders or when I have one of those rare quiet moments i think of her and I ask myself what if? once or twice I have found myself part of the way into composing an email to her, my fingers on auto pilot almost. then I realize why that might be a bad idea. because I know what she is capable of. and nothing has ever left me broken the way she did. I miss her, but I dont want to make things more difficult for her.

in her flickr account he smiles, I cry but thats good enough I guess.


I don't quite understand.. your mother told you to choose her or your ex? Have you considered trying to have a relationship with your son - irregardless of any relationship you may choose to have with either one of these women? What kinds obsticals do you think these women may put in your way if you were to try to do that?
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oh.. I didn't see his picture in your post before.. he's adorable
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I don't quite understand.. your mother told you to choose her or your ex? Have you considered trying to have a relationship with your son - irregardless of any relationship you may choose to have with either one of these women? What kinds obsticals do you think these women may put in your way if you were to try to do that?
the details of what mom did and what she did are all fuzzy. one of the perks of my memory loss is alot of the memories i repressed were the first ones to go (which has affected several ofer interpersonal relationships as well). So i know she did something bad, or i did something bad, or we both did something bad (the logical answer) and when i think about it or i think about her it hurts. it hurts alot really. but i have these feelings that feel like a copy of a copy of a copy and these vauge memories that tell me i miss her, and these other vauge memories that say run away.


the major obstical is the fact we live in different states. she has basically said she never wants to see me again. I once got an email asking me to please die quietly so the stryder can collect the isurance money and lead a semi normal life. and mom doesnt like her. I have thought of moving back to az for other reasons, but I am sure if i do in a moment of weakness i would track her down and attempt to visit her.
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the major obstical is the fact we live in different states. she has basically said she never wants to see me again. I once got an email asking me to please die quietly so the stryder can collect the isurance money and lead a semi normal life. and mom doesnt like her. I have thought of moving back to az for other reasons, but I am sure if i do in a moment of weakness i would track her down and attempt to visit her.

I think you should really trust and nurture your instinct that tell's you to 'stay away' - from her and try really hard not to entertain the other feeling that compell's you to go back. For real. There are some sick and poisonous ppl in the world and she sound's like she's *quite possibly* one of them.. But your child looks really adorable and special, he surely deserves to have you in his life, you wouldn't want to deprive you both of that?
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Yeah I have two daughters the oldest graduated college in June the youngest is a Junior in high school.

We divorced when my youngest was three. She has brainwashed my girls to believe that their father is a sick, demented, monster of a human being because "he thought it would be fun to have a sex change".

How did I cope. Early on I cried and cried. Now I just detach and hope that one day they will have an awakening and see me for the person I truly am.
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when i am thinking clearly and logically i know to stay away.
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when i am thinking clearly and logically i know to stay away.
I had one like that, but after 6 years made sure that she never comes near me or my kid again. That took some doing in a red state like Texas. My wife wanted me to give him up so that she might just go away, but I couldn't walk away from that.
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Good thread (& deeply relevant right now).

I'm in court TODAY to try and get to see my kids more.

Its been a long long road. I'm aiming for 50/50 shared care.

For the last 2 years (& $6000 in lawyer fees) my ex has been trying to stop my kids wanting to see me. She's told them I'm a bad person because I'm 'living in sin' with my partner and am apparently trying to take them away from her. (She's deeply cultishly religious)

I just want fairness and to see my kids more. Oh, and paying her less maintenance so she has to get off her fat ***** and work more hours wouldn't be a bad thing either.
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