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    Hey guyz? Guyz? Wait up!! Siu Blue Wind's Avatar
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    Long distance relationships

    Yay or Nay?

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    Opinions - stories - experiences
    Quote Originally Posted by Buddha
    We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.
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    how long distance?
    Where am I going?......

    ....and why am I in this handbasket?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deamer View Post
    no.
    just....no
    trust me
    Why?

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    how long distance?
    Different states, for a couple/few years
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    It depends on if both parties are willing to make it work. If not then NAY!! It can't be a one way road if you get what I mean
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    teh suck.

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    Oh I couldn't even get a guy to commit to me that lived an hour away!!! HA HA HA.

    You gotta read that book "He just not that into you" AWESOME READ!!!
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    Another state away? That sounds pretty tough. My bf lives 2 1/2 hours away which means that we see each other on the weekends. That has been working out pretty good so far. We've been doing that for 7 months now.
    Where am I going?......

    ....and why am I in this handbasket?

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    I'd rather be close, but I'm willing to do anything for the right person.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deamer View Post
    Ugh.

    Lots of reasons. All of them very, very bad.
    sounds like a bad experience, Deamer. HEY! you from NC????
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    Quote Originally Posted by polara426sh View Post
    I'd rather be close, but I'm willing to do anything for the right person.
    Quote Originally Posted by Buddha
    We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.
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    HappyFeet and I survived 3 years of long distance relationship after dating for only a year. I was in Texas, she was in Michigan. We saw each other every couple of months, spent lots of time on the phone and online.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deamer View Post
    Ugh.

    Lots of reasons. All of them very, very bad.
    (So you're not gonna help warn a fellow Fooster?) How about some generic, non personal examples then?
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    Done it twice before... both actually went very well. Makes you actually learn what you like about the other person, rather than just what they look like or whatever.
    Don't waste your breath to save your face when you have done your best.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cuda2k View Post
    HappyFeet and I survived 3 years of long distance relationship after dating for only a year. I was in Texas, she was in Michigan. We saw each other every couple of months, spent lots of time on the phone and online.
    And now you are married!!!
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    Did it for a couple of years, 5000 miles apart, july 97 to july 99 got married April 2002

    Still together, so worked for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deamer View Post
    worst experience of my life.
    I'd rather be shot.
    twice.
    in the kneecaps.

    yes.
    I see you are too
    Gosh, that sounds painful (the relationship, not the living in NC part). Sorry to hear that.
    Where am I going?......

    ....and why am I in this handbasket?

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    My cousin and her husband have been working on opposite coasts for years. I have no idea how they have done it.

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    If you're meant to be together you'll both work hard to close the distance.

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    Long distance relationships seem to work about as well as any relationship. Some work, some don't.

    Some friends of mine are coming up on being married for a year. When they met, one lived in Texas, and one was living in Osaka, Japan.

    I can't pretend to know what the criteria for success is, but I know it's possible, despite the prevailing opinion.

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    oh, yay! some happy experiences! I like that.
    Where am I going?......

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    You are talking before marriage, right. Since we wed, I spent another 4 months in Africa when she went stateside to finish her degree. If political concerns hadn't made me leave we'd have been apart almost 3 years. Later I worked 2 years in Oklahoma while she was in school in Colorado. We saw each other every 3 or 4 months. Years later I spent a year in Colorado trying to sell our house while she worked in SoCal. Now she is headed to Minnesota while I may be staying in NorCal. How does this apply to the rest of you? If the relationship is solid enough anything is possible.
    This space open

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    One of my co-workers got married last year. She lives here, in NC, and he is still living in NJ, working until he can retire. They will live apart for 3 more years. She said it is going well so far.
    Where am I going?......

    ....and why am I in this handbasket?

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    If you're in love with someone, distance wont matter. The problem is, it's easy to fall in love with the idea of a person and it can be very very hard to the difference in a long distance situation. You can get together for brief periods (weekends, weeks whatever) and gloss over things that may really be deal breakers in a life where you see the other person on a daily basis.
    just being

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    We met and 3 days later she went back home across the ocean(Denmark)... we met for two weeks that december in her country.... we met for a week in spring in my place(caribbean).... she crossed the ocean once again after a year left her job and moved in my place (Caribbean).... we got married 2 years later... and this last october we been toghether for 12 years.... when it hits you.. you'll know it ... nothing will stop you....

    Long distance relationships work only if there is a comittment and for a relatively short time.... 2 years would have been the end for us... thats why we decided to try it after a year...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deamer View Post
    I've never in my life believed that there's one person "out there" for anybody. I think if we're lucky, there's somebody out there who we can put up with, and if we're REALLY lucky, that person can also put up with you.
    No offense meant at all, but I don't think I could disagree with you any more on that... I mean, to me, that's just implying that settling for someone should be the norm.
    Don't waste your breath to save your face when you have done your best.

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