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    1/2 man,1/2 bear,1/2 pig ManBearPig's Avatar
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    Alone time away from spouse / SO

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    If a friend calls and asks me to go somewhere, I clear it with her first. She does the same for me. She probably socializes more with friends, I use my alone time to ride, etc.
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    Phobias are for irrational fears. Fear of junk ripping badgers is perfectly rational. Those things are nasty.

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    I basically get "alone" time about every 2 or 3 months. That's about how often I do something that pisses her off enough that I get to be by myself.

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    Everyone needs time apart to do other things. No matter how compatible you are, there are going to be things that each of you like to do indepentant of the other. Mine are riding and watching sports with the guys, and going to see live music acts.
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    Phobias are for irrational fears. Fear of junk ripping badgers is perfectly rational. Those things are nasty.

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    It is imperative that a spouse gets some alone or away time! I go on a golf trip every spring with the guys.....and when I come back, things are always a little better than before I went away...

    I also value my bike time......it's nice to go away for a while and then come back .... keeps things "fresh", I suppose!

    Me wifey and m/i/l are away right now....so barndoor and his pooch are having some Bruce Lee movie nights this week! Hyyyyyahhhhh!
    I own my dream bike, a 2006 R-14 66cm Waterford road bike

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    I will try to answer your question next year Towlie. Right now I only get to spend two hours a day with my SO on Yahoo and she will not be here by Christmas.

    As jscharr mentioned everyone needs time apart. The amount of time varies on the person and relationship.
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    Just get a job, or say that your job requires you to be on call on the weekend, as mine does. Whenever a weekend trip to the in-laws comes up, just say your on call that weekend and encourage them to go. It gets me a couple of weekends a year. I have never had to lie about being on call, since I am quite a bit.
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    We give eachother lots of personal time and its such a lifesaver. With busy careers and young kids, keeping in touch with your own identity is essential.

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    we have done every hobbies together as a couple for a long time.
    but when you are with someone for 20 years people grow and change and become themselves and now we both understand that what one might enjoy doesnt have to be shared by the other since we are own person and enjoy different things.
    Our hobbies are our time alone, we respect each other enough to give each other time alone doing the things/hobbie we pick as individuals.
    that's not only our time away ( which I think is good) but it's our time when we have the chance to grow as individuals.

    Keep in mind, we also run a business together as well as raising a family together. It's really OK to have some time apart. We would be killing each other!

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    Hell yes. I have been with my fiance for 7ish years. While in a loving relationship we are both very personal at times, we both take our time alone, we both need it, and it makes use appreciate each other more.

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    Well I've been happily married for almost 13 years, just wanted to make that clear first, and although I occasionally go out with some friends of mine, and she does the same, although less frequently than I, I honestly can say that with the exception of my riding time, I don't really need any other alone time. I guess I'm weird like that. But I got married to BE with my wife, not because it was the next logical step in my life. I really don't understand the concept of actually wanting to be alone. I can see getting away with her and leaving the kids with family, but I really don't enjoy being out without her. Honestly. And no I'm not whipped or brainwashed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by -VELOCITY- View Post
    Honestly. And no I'm not whipped or brainwashed.
    She's right behind you reading over your shoulder, isn't she

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    Quote Originally Posted by ModoVincere View Post
    She's right behind you reading over your shoulder, isn't she
    Nope. I'm at work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lauren View Post
    pwned
    incorrect!

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    just kidding there velocity.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ModoVincere View Post
    just kidding there velocity.
    I know.

    I knew it would be a tough crowd though. No worries.

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    Quote Originally Posted by -VELOCITY- View Post
    Nope. I'm at work.
    you work with your wife?

    sorry could not resist.
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    Senior Member -VELOCITY-'s Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by jsharr View Post
    you work with your wife?

    sorry could not resist.
    Nope. Although we used to work together.

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    Quote Originally Posted by -VELOCITY- View Post
    Well I've been happily married for almost 13 years, just wanted to make that clear first, and although I occasionally go out with some friends of mine, and she does the same, although less frequently than I, I honestly can say that with the exception of my riding time, I don't really need any other alone time. I guess I'm weird like that. But I got married to BE with my wife, not because it was the next logical step in my life. I really don't understand the concept of actually wanting to be alone. I can see getting away with her and leaving the kids with family, but I really don't enjoy being out without her. Honestly. And no I'm not whipped or brainwashed.
    I see the point, but for me personally, don't understand. I can't be with anyone that much. Riding would also be something I consider alone time, but I still need time for introspection, I can't do that with outside distractions. Riding doesn't give me that opportunity as I am usually avoiding trees.

    I am not talking about a constant thing either, once a month or so I need a night to myself, without friends, family etc. Heck when i lived with my family, I needed that time.

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    I donít party or go to clubs. I gave that up a long time ago and really never enjoyed it to begin with.

    My alone time is riding my bikes and training my dogs.
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