Here is a summary of dates for background information. I am in graduate school.
1)Went out for lunch. Good convo and everything, she said "thanks for having lunch with me" at end.
2)Went to see a movie (paid for it), then we were hungry so we went and got some food at a bar/restaurant. Played some pool afterwards, then I dropped her off. She says.."I'll see you later...?" exiting car, didn't have any good times to kiss/hug.
3)Monday before Thanksgiving I call her and tell her I want to see her before I go home for break, so we meet Tues just to do some shopping, got some food at MacAlisters (paid for hers), went to PetSmart, walked around shopping a bit. Overall a good time. Didn't go for a kiss (really regretting it..).
4)Went to a semi-formal for my school this past Friday, I had a blast with her. Opened my car doors for her and everything, got a bit tipsy, danced, did some good touching, at one point holding her hand to walk through crowds, etc. She asks me "are you going to walk to me to my car?" (she drove first to my place, since she lives pretty far) and i say of course, and when i do we hug and i kiss her on the cheek (i was a little buzzed so wasn't sure if i just naturally went for the cheek or if she turned--don't think it was the second though)
Now is when I feel like I kinda **** up... I had such a great time, I feel like things are going great, that I called her up that night and left a voicemail asking her to call me back when she gets it. She does and I ask her if she got home okay, blah blah, then ask if she's free tomorrow night (Sat) b/c i'd love to see her again before my exams get to be a p.i.t.a. In a nutshell she says maybe, we'll talk tomorrow. So I call her the next day in the afternoon asking if her if she had any plans for the night, and she says she's feeling kind of tired and will probably just stay in that night. I just quickly end the conversation and say "oh okay, I'll talk to you later.." kind of annoyed. TBH, I would be tired too if I were her, b/c she had to get up in the morning to do a 5k walk with her mom too. And she said she just took a nap. Still, I don't think being tired is a good excuse if she really wanted to see me.
Yeah, I shouldn't have tried to do anything again so soon, b/c if things went well I should give her some time to let things sink in and think about the good times. At the same time, I have hard ass exams coming up and I thought she had as much fun as I did and wouldn't hesitate to want to see me again even if it were the next day.
Anyway, I have decided I wouldn't contact her (call/txt/IM) and will just wait until she contacts me again, in order to give her some space (if she contacts me again...). It's been Sun-Wed now and nothing. I've seen her online a couple times, but I refrained from IMing her, pretended to be busy, etc.
Yesterday, I see in her profile and away message some song quotes, essentially giving the message that she misses her ex boyfriend. However, they broke up about 9 months ago. (He just broke up with her without giving her a good reason she told me once.) Her facebook also says just "looking for: friendship"
Am I just barking up the wrong tree or am I really that pathetic that I can't win over this girl? She should be thinking about me and not this guy who's been out of her life for 9 months...right..... also.. advice about what to do next would be nice.. I would normally probably call her up today/tom and try to do something this weekend, but I really just want to ignore her as long as I can and see if she makes any effort to contact me.