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Old 01-09-08, 11:18 PM   #1
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5 months ago...

Something happened in my life that put me in a bad place. I began to isolate myself, feel sorry for myself and take it out on other people. Because i sat at home i spent a lot of my time on BF.net and because i don't know how to handle things when they go bad at times i took a lot of things out on a lot of you.


None the less, for a long time many of you were there for me and offered advice. Some did it gently, some did it bluntly, both were correct and useful.

It boggles my mind that it's nearly been half a year since my girlfriend broke up with me but it has been and i've become a much better person because of it. Last night i went to borders with a friend of mine and she showed me a book series that she likes. The premise is that you send in post cards into the author saying whatever you want...some of them are funny, some are scary, some are odd...and anything in between.

I came across one that was a heart, half of the heart said "I'm horrified of being alone" and the other half, upside down, read "I'm more scared that i'd settle to avoid that".

I think what i was about to do was settle on something to avoid being alone. That would have gone against the advice of all of you.

To summarize, i came here because i was depressed as hell. I acted pathetically. You all tried to offer help, each in your own ways, and often i lashed out because i was angry. For the most part, the support remained.

At any rate, I've come out of this pathetic depression of mine. Some of that is due to me talking to someone, some of that is due to the realization that everything that happened should have happened (and probably a while ago), some of it due to a certain someone that may just be turning my head upon my heels, much of it due merely to time, but also because of the kind, often strange, completely undeserved and usually entertaining support i got from all you weirdos. So...thanks.
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Old 01-09-08, 11:29 PM   #2
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No worries, Tim, friends don't always have to have met face to face.
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Good to hear that things are looking up for you, or at least looking less down. Horizontally? Sure.

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So you think you settled, yet you felt so awefully horrid that she left you?
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Old 01-09-08, 11:51 PM   #5
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So you think you settled, yet you felt so awefully horrid that she left you?
I still feel very sad about it. I love the girl a lot and i suspect i always will. But the reality is that we just aren't right for each other anymore. We were both very different and much younger when we met. She's one of my best friends and i hope the best from her, but we both talked tonight and both are in the same place.

I think we were both trying to change each other and that isn't right.

So yeah, i think i was settling for something that wasn't right for me because i didn't have the balls to go do anything else.
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Old 01-09-08, 11:59 PM   #6
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Timmy, it sounds like you have peace in your heart and I'm very very happy for you. That makes me feel good inside, honestly. Your Foo family will ALWAYS be here for you. ((hugs)) And don't you forget it.
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Old 01-10-08, 07:40 AM   #7
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Awesome - after New Year's my fog lifted quite a bit as well. Something about a new year and new opportunities that helps one look forward at what they can accomplish instead of behind at what they didn't or couldn't.
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Glad you're in a better state of mind, Tim. Here's to a great 2008!
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Glad you now have some clarity about these aspects of your life, TQ! And that you found some value in Foo'in' around with us.
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Thanks for the update Timmy.
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You've been through a difficult thing and came out on top, and so I say congratulations. Life is never a free offering; it is a balance of experiences. There will always be bad experiences, but as long as you use them to better appreciate the good then you will always grow. Thank goodness for caring and patient friends!
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Just wondering, were you the one who is getting the degree in psychology?
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Just wondering, were you the one who is getting the degree in psychology?
Falkon, it's always easier to apply Psych training to others, than it is to yourself
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Glad you are out of the funk..
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Too true. I catch myself "falling victim" to things all the time, then i realize that i'm just a human.

But yes...i'll have a degree in psych in about 4 months.
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I still feel very sad about it. I love the girl a lot and i suspect i always will. But the reality is that we just aren't right for each other anymore. We were both very different and much younger when we met. She's one of my best friends and i hope the best from her, but we both talked tonight and both are in the same place.

I think we were both trying to change each other and that isn't right.

So yeah, i think i was settling for something that wasn't right for me because i didn't have the balls to go do anything else.
AHhhh, that makes very much sense. Awesome that you're in a good place now!
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Yeah! Congrats Tim

Glad you're feeling better, dude.
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So, are you gettin' any? (new)
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Timmy, remember, there are many more people in this big world you have yet to meet. Getting down in the dumps over someone keeps you from meeting the person that you really were intended to meet. I had a girlfriend that dumped me for some other dude and yea it hurt at first then a couple of months and many women later, I met the person that was for me. We dated for 4 years and in February will have been married for 20 and everyday it gets better. Hang in there, the right one will come along.
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congrats timmy. Here's to a brighter, happier 2008. I wish you the best.
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