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    Compliment or insult - what do you think?

    Ok, there's a person I know who looks younger than her age in person, but a lot older in pictures, for some reason. I can't figure out why, but that's the way it is.

    Now, if I were to say that to her, would you expect her to take it as a compliment or as an insult? Or would it be such a mix of positives and negatives that she'd just be confused.

    This is not a close friend or anything, and it's not someone I'm interested in other than as a friend. And vice versa.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CdCf View Post
    This is not a close friend or anything, and it's not someone I'm interested in other than as a friend. And vice versa.
    Then I wouldn't mention it. But that's just me.

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    "Wow, you look much younger in person! Photographs just don't do you justice, apparently. Unfortunately, those pants make your ass look big in real life and photographs..."

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    Quote Originally Posted by CdCf View Post
    Now, if I were to say that to her...
    Why would you want to?

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    This is perhaps an interesting observation that you shouldn't share with her. I would have to vote that she will see it as an insult.

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    Quote Originally Posted by deraltekluge View Post
    Why would you want to?
    Because I would intend it to be a compliment, and I like making other people happy. But I wanted a second opinion in this case, and I now see that it may not be such a great idea...

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    I think it could easily be misconstrued. I'd let it go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CdCf View Post
    Because I would intend it to be a compliment, and I like making other people happy. But I wanted a second opinion in this case, and I now see that it may not be such a great idea...
    Buying her a houseplant would be a whole lot safer.

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    Tell them to not hand the camera to a bozo?

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    it's LOTS easier to just not enter the realm of physical appearances and talk about a shared interest in cycling or whatever. that's my $0.02 on the matter.

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    so, no matter how you dress it up the thing you are saying really is "you don't look good in photos". it's a backhanded compliment, even if you don't intend it to be that way.

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    You should tell her, but take pics to show us how it turns out.
    "harder" is not a very good safeword.

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    All right people, I'm not going to mention it! Relax!

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