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Old 04-26-08, 09:16 AM   #1
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Compliment or insult - what do you think?

Ok, there's a person I know who looks younger than her age in person, but a lot older in pictures, for some reason. I can't figure out why, but that's the way it is.

Now, if I were to say that to her, would you expect her to take it as a compliment or as an insult? Or would it be such a mix of positives and negatives that she'd just be confused.

This is not a close friend or anything, and it's not someone I'm interested in other than as a friend. And vice versa.
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This is not a close friend or anything, and it's not someone I'm interested in other than as a friend. And vice versa.
Then I wouldn't mention it. But that's just me.
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Old 04-26-08, 11:12 AM   #4
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Now, if I were to say that to her...
Why would you want to?
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This is perhaps an interesting observation that you shouldn't share with her. I would have to vote that she will see it as an insult.
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Why would you want to?
Because I would intend it to be a compliment, and I like making other people happy. But I wanted a second opinion in this case, and I now see that it may not be such a great idea...
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Old 04-26-08, 12:18 PM   #7
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I think it could easily be misconstrued. I'd let it go.
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Because I would intend it to be a compliment, and I like making other people happy. But I wanted a second opinion in this case, and I now see that it may not be such a great idea...
Buying her a houseplant would be a whole lot safer.
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Tell them to not hand the camera to a bozo?
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it's LOTS easier to just not enter the realm of physical appearances and talk about a shared interest in cycling or whatever. that's my $0.02 on the matter.
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so, no matter how you dress it up the thing you are saying really is "you don't look good in photos". it's a backhanded compliment, even if you don't intend it to be that way.
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You should tell her, but take pics to show us how it turns out.
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All right people, I'm not going to mention it! Relax!
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