I'm a somewhat long-time member of the bike forums and have a lot of respect for all the intelligent answers I get. Every once in a while, I get to weigh in too. This question is embarrassing though, so I went and made a whole new profile just so that I could avoid the embarrassment. Despite that, any help would be GREATLY appreciated. This problem is eating away at my general relaxation. On the good side, the stress is causing me to bike hardcore just to blow off some steam.
Here it is:
I am 30-years old. My girlfriend and I have been in a slow-moving relationship for about 3 years. Sometimes I am afraid it peaked too early and I wonder if we can make it last or not. I am losing interest but she is not. She especially loves being around my family.
Recently, my brother met her best friend and the two of them hit it off and began a whirlwind relationship. In other words, they are moving fast. I asked him not to pursue her because of the extra pain it would cause my current girlfriend if we break up. He hasn't stopped.
Imagine it for a minute: I break up with my girlfriend and she has to live with her best friend continuing to be a part of my family's life. She also has to live with him showing up with her best friend at social gatherings forever. That's got to be salt in the wound. It might not seem like a big deal at first blush, but if you stop to think about it, it would cause my girlfriend a lot of pain in the long run.
Now I feel like I can't break up with her without subjecting her to that cruel circumstance. And when we (my girlfriend and I) run into them (my brother and my girlfriend's best friend) at social gatherings among my girlfriend's friends I get pissed off and really just want to leave.
My question is: Am I wrong to be so pissed off at my brother? There is a little more to the story but I figured it was confusing enough as it is.
Like I said, any help, insults, anything would be helpful. Is it all in my head? Am I somehow being petty? I don't know.
Have a great day everyone.