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Old 05-29-08, 05:53 AM   #1
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Single Father/Teenage Daughter - who will survive?

What happened to the little girl who use to come running when I came home from work, happy to see me?

Now I have this 15yo creature that I don't recognize. Life is such a drama and I cannot possibly understand. Conversations routinely escalates from "how is school going", to "you need to focus more" and getting the back of the hand "whatever". I love her dearly and she is a good kid but I don't know if I can survive the next 3 years.
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Weren't you the same way when you were a teenager? Weren't we all?
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I don't think he was a teenage girl back then, unless I just don't understand how these things work.
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What happened to the little girl who use to come running when I came home from work, happy to see me?

Now I have this 15yo creature that I don't recognize. Life is such a drama and I cannot possibly understand. Conversations routinely escalates from "how is school going", to "you need to focus more" and getting the back of the hand "whatever". I love her dearly and she is a good kid but I don't know if I can survive the next 3 years.
good luck. They do return to mostly human after age 22.
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I got a 15 yo son. Me: How was school today? Him: Good. He is the king of one-word answers.

He likes to camp and ride bikes with me, so I am just counting my blessings. I have also heard rumors about kids becomes human after 20/22. Just hang in there.
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Hey, we are having to research mental health care for a 6 year old boy with anxiety issues. Fun, Fun, Fun.
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You are no longer "My daddy knows more than YOUR daddy".

You are now "My dad is sooooooooo stupid".

You will be "My dad is my best friend".

Go back and look at her baby pictures and videos. That will nourish your need to have your sweet little angel back. But remember that she is growing into the woman that you as a parent are teaching her to be: Strong, independent and self sufficient.
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Old 05-29-08, 08:25 AM   #8
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Hang in there. As one of those generally good, but moody/grumpy kids, it will get better. I grew out of it & look back & wonder why I had to make it difficult - but some days I didn't even know why it was difficult, it just was.

She does love you & respect your opinion, the problem is she wants to be a grown-up (and cool) and listening to your dad is never cool.

This too shall pass....
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“When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished by how much he'd learned in seven years.” - Mark Twain
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Q: Why are babies cute?

A: So you don't strangle them when they become teenagers.
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If my parents knew what I was doing in HS they would have put me away in boarding school. That, however, does not change the fact that at some point you grow up and realize you are lucky to still be alive and wanting to spare your kids from making your mistakes.

I know it does not help to get mad and yell, but is it maddening when you are trying to be logical and have a discussion with someone who is not interested in logic or generally your opinion unless it means there is something in it for them. It is a fine line you walk between rules/discipline and anarchy and you always worry that a mistake on either side of the line could result in consequences like suicide, drug use, crime etc. Things generally work out for the best but you really don't want to be in the minority when it comes to your kids.
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They do return to mostly human after age 22.
UGH, my younger sister was HELL. ON. WHEELS. from about the age of 14 until maybe 22-23. We're only 18 months apart, but there was always a huge difference in the level of maturity until she got older, and she was a freakin' BRAT. I love her to death now, though.

It sounds like you're doing what you can, stonecrd, which is more than some parents can say. She'll grow out of it, but not before giving you a few gray hairs.
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I am SOOO glad that I have boys! I can deal with the 16 year old vocabulary: "good", "what?", "I will", and the most chatty ones "Is there anything to eat?" and "where's the race?"

The older one prepared us that the 16 year old WILL NOT be seen with us.

It took a trip to Iraq to add "thank you" and "I love you" to the 22 yr old's vocabulary.
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It took a trip to Iraq to add "thank you" and "I love you" to the 22 yr old's vocabulary.
yeah, dodging bullets provides a rapid change of perspective.
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I think I see the beginning of your problem.
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Believe me, it's worth it to hang in there.

Later you'll be able to fill the grandkids with sugar and send them home spoiled rotten, snickering the entire time.
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Nope. I was a good kid as a teenager.

OP, good luck!
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I was thinking that too. I'm a fairly logical/rational person. As a teenage girl with hormones.....
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Well I started with gray hair and it is getting grayer. It is a bit of damper on my other pursuit (dating) I may need to visit Clyde and Keith, JFM did wonders for Emmitt.
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Believe me, it's worth it to hang in there.

Later you'll be able to fill the grandkids with sugar and send them home spoiled rotten, snickering the entire time.
Yeah, my folks are doing this to me now. Nothing like 4-year old twins jacked up on Nana's cookies and candy.
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You don't spend quality time together shaving your legs?

I have a friend who's fond of saying: "Treat your teenagers like they are adults... adults with really short memories."

My daughter never really went through a stage where she was hostile, but somehow, managed to only be aloof and a bit distant. She gravitated to friends who weren't all that wild, which definitely made things a bit easier. She's 22 now, and moving out this coming weekend. There's definitely been an impovement since she's been considering what it will take to manage for herself.

The lad is 16 an will be claiming her bedroom ASAP. He runs hot and cold - sometimes will talk our ears off, and others won't bother to say a peep when he comes home.

Most of the matters of contention are small stuff. I've learned not to make big issues of the small stuff. The important stuff - (IMO - drugs, alcohol, promiscuity) she'll likely have already either gotten or rejected. You can/should still stand firm on those things, but you're either going to have smooth sailing, or a battle royale there.

Hang in there, and don't let the little things ruin your relationship.
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It'll get better. Just hug her randomly. It will confuse the hell out of her and provide a snicker or two until she gets older.
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The important stuff - (IMO - drugs, alcohol, promiscuity)
I agree, those are important.
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