I have this unusual brother, unusual in that he doesn't realize when a topic is taboo. I had a relationship with a girl who was abusive and had emotional and personal issues that she at times took out on me or tried to get me caught up in. We have not been together for over a year and it has taken me a long time to start to come around to where the past doesn't bother me everyday like it did for quite some time. I can't really talk about it because I am one of those people who doesn't like to open up but I will say it was the most painful experience of my life thus far.
My brother today just kind of casually mentions her in front of me and my dad and he has done this a few times recently and I didn't get much sleep last night and I worked my 9 hours at work today so I am kind of like ok whatever if thats how you are going to be I will just give you the cold shoulder today. When you have someone in your family who doesn't realize a topic is taboo the problem is they don't connect your reaction with what they said, but because it is taboo to you you don't want to walk up to them and put it out in the open. Anyway I am just wondering if other people go through this and how they handled it because my urge is to withdraw or return fire with criticism and I know that isn't the right way to take care of it but thats just my instinct. I was just going to let it blow over but he was knocking on my door a little while ago (he is rooming with me temporarily) and when I didn't answer the door he said f- you and left and thats not normal interaction for us.