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Old 06-27-08, 11:06 PM   #1
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Yet Another Woman Question -- Advice Optional.

Dear Wise Men (and Women) of Foo,

I again seek advice on the tumultuous subject of women. Now, I have my own opinion made up, but support is always desired. Thus, the situation at hand:

A year ago, a woman and I dated for slightly over three weeks. Things got hot, and cooled off kind of quickly. Turns out that she went back to her ex...though in hindsight, I was pretty clumsy with the entire thing and barely even saw her...

However, she hasn't completely stopped trying to get my attention. She called me a few times after everything was done and over with, and all attempts to meet up have been nixed for various reasons. By the end of 2007, I said some really harsh things to her, and the calling stopped.

Fast forward to this week, where again I receive a call from her, after not talking for a few weeks (last time we talked wasn't too far off ago). The conversations aren't far from the norm.

My mind tells me that this is (obviously) sketchy, but in reality, I have liked her since I met her, and that feeling hasn't quite extinguished itself. I do want to see her again, but reason tells me that I just need to play the field a bit more, and things will take care of themselves. Thus, I ask you (the reader) for your opinion.

Again, your advice is optional, and any comments are (as always) greatly appreciated!
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Old 06-27-08, 11:07 PM   #2
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No harm in taking a 2nd chance.
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Old 06-27-08, 11:23 PM   #3
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Play the field, and things will take care of themselves. Its hard to reverse the past.
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Old 06-27-08, 11:28 PM   #4
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Play the field, and things will take care of themselves. Its hard to reverse the past.
Yes, but could one build on top of it?
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Old 06-27-08, 11:29 PM   #5
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Is she still with her ex?
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That's a good question. I think she is, but long distance though (hence the sketchy part!)
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Old 06-28-08, 12:09 AM   #8
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That's a good question. I think she is, but long distance though (hence the sketchy part!)
Have you considered that perhaps she's after attention?
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Uh... ask yourself , "what do you want to get out of this?" And see if it's possible to have that with her. Then ask yourself , "what can she possibly provide?", and don't expect any more than that.
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Have you considered that perhaps she's after attention?

i dont think that sounds like it, im with the first post, one more time is worth a try.
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i dont think that sounds like it, im with the first post, one more time is worth a try.
Most of us have a go-to lover who we know is hot for us for when we need attention. Having that power over someone makes us feel good in times of need.
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Sell her name and any personal information you have (address, telephone #, etc) to the russian mafia... and then drink some beer and let the rest take care of itself.



**no, seriously... do not even contemplate doing any of that.
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Yes, but could one build on top of it?
You most certainly could, but as I ascertained from your post it sounds like its more trouble than its worth. If it was true love, years of commitment to each other, and you wanna give it another shot then I would say go for it. It hasnt been a long relationship and seems its more trouble than its worth. All though since it wasnt too long, and there isnt much water under the bridge, you can start fresh. Depends on the people involved.
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dude she is holding you in reserve... just in case
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Conquests... for one or the other or both of you... never last and are never worth going back to. You won't sustain the heat like you remember.
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No harm in taking a 2nd chance.
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Have you considered that perhaps she's after attention?
They speak the truth. I guess a second chance depends on what you are looking for. A relationship? A fun & fabulous fling? If its the latter, and you don't get your hopes up for more, why not go for a second round?



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She's holding you for backup. More than likely you'll end up being the "transition" guy. You know, the immediate post break up guy who gets his heart broken and then dumped for steady guy. Be careful, tread lightly, and keep the eyes open.
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So I guess the general consensus is:

Take a second chance, but don't expect anything serious out of it, and don't stop looking.

If that's the case, then it's precisely in line with my opinion!
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So I guess the general consensus is:

Take a second chance, but don't expect anything serious out of it, and don't stop looking.

If that's the case, then it's precisely in line with my opinion!
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Great!

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That's a good question. I think she is, but long distance though (hence the sketchy part!)
Why pursue anything at all?

Say you do date her again, and say things do work out...you sure you want to be with a woman that's two-timing her current b/f, long-distance or no? How sure are you that when you dated her the first time, her ex was actually her ex? Huge flags buddy, and hence my advice to find another fish.

Better a chicken in the hand than finding another in the same bush...
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This is going to sound bad but here it is
Ex's are Ex's for a reason. Maybe things went a little fast last time ( I am only making an assumption here) and she bolted. You might try being her friend first this time.
Personally I would run from this. But thats just me.
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