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    Yet Another Woman Question -- Advice Optional.

    Dear Wise Men (and Women) of Foo,

    I again seek advice on the tumultuous subject of women. Now, I have my own opinion made up, but support is always desired. Thus, the situation at hand:

    A year ago, a woman and I dated for slightly over three weeks. Things got hot, and cooled off kind of quickly. Turns out that she went back to her ex...though in hindsight, I was pretty clumsy with the entire thing and barely even saw her...

    However, she hasn't completely stopped trying to get my attention. She called me a few times after everything was done and over with, and all attempts to meet up have been nixed for various reasons. By the end of 2007, I said some really harsh things to her, and the calling stopped.

    Fast forward to this week, where again I receive a call from her, after not talking for a few weeks (last time we talked wasn't too far off ago). The conversations aren't far from the norm.

    My mind tells me that this is (obviously) sketchy, but in reality, I have liked her since I met her, and that feeling hasn't quite extinguished itself. I do want to see her again, but reason tells me that I just need to play the field a bit more, and things will take care of themselves. Thus, I ask you (the reader) for your opinion.

    Again, your advice is optional, and any comments are (as always) greatly appreciated!
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    No harm in taking a 2nd chance.
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    Play the field, and things will take care of themselves. Its hard to reverse the past.
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    Quote Originally Posted by scarpi41 View Post
    Play the field, and things will take care of themselves. Its hard to reverse the past.
    Yes, but could one build on top of it?
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    Is she still with her ex?

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    That's a good question. I think she is, but long distance though (hence the sketchy part!)
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    Quote Originally Posted by MrCrassic View Post
    That's a good question. I think she is, but long distance though (hence the sketchy part!)
    Have you considered that perhaps she's after attention?

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    Uh... ask yourself , "what do you want to get out of this?" And see if it's possible to have that with her. Then ask yourself , "what can she possibly provide?", and don't expect any more than that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ziemas View Post
    Have you considered that perhaps she's after attention?

    i dont think that sounds like it, im with the first post, one more time is worth a try.
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    Quote Originally Posted by elf 232 View Post
    i dont think that sounds like it, im with the first post, one more time is worth a try.
    Most of us have a go-to lover who we know is hot for us for when we need attention. Having that power over someone makes us feel good in times of need.

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    Sell her name and any personal information you have (address, telephone #, etc) to the russian mafia... and then drink some beer and let the rest take care of itself.



    **no, seriously... do not even contemplate doing any of that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MrCrassic View Post
    Yes, but could one build on top of it?
    You most certainly could, but as I ascertained from your post it sounds like its more trouble than its worth. If it was true love, years of commitment to each other, and you wanna give it another shot then I would say go for it. It hasnt been a long relationship and seems its more trouble than its worth. All though since it wasnt too long, and there isnt much water under the bridge, you can start fresh. Depends on the people involved.
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    dude she is holding you in reserve... just in case
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    Conquests... for one or the other or both of you... never last and are never worth going back to. You won't sustain the heat like you remember.
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    Quote Originally Posted by USAZorro View Post
    No harm in taking a 2nd chance.
    true, but as mrt10 and ziemas said:
    Quote Originally Posted by mrt10x View Post
    dude she is holding you in reserve... just in case
    Quote Originally Posted by Ziemas View Post
    Have you considered that perhaps she's after attention?
    They speak the truth. I guess a second chance depends on what you are looking for. A relationship? A fun & fabulous fling? If its the latter, and you don't get your hopes up for more, why not go for a second round?



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    its also my philosophy that the ocean is polluted and all the fish are ********.
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    its also my philosophy that the ocean is polluted and all the fish are ********.
    Good one!!!
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    She's holding you for backup. More than likely you'll end up being the "transition" guy. You know, the immediate post break up guy who gets his heart broken and then dumped for steady guy. Be careful, tread lightly, and keep the eyes open.

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    So I guess the general consensus is:

    Take a second chance, but don't expect anything serious out of it, and don't stop looking.

    If that's the case, then it's precisely in line with my opinion!
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    Quote Originally Posted by MrCrassic View Post
    So I guess the general consensus is:

    Take a second chance, but don't expect anything serious out of it, and don't stop looking.

    If that's the case, then it's precisely in line with my opinion!
    Bump fuzz. And nothing more.

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    Great!

    /thread!
    Ride more.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MrCrassic View Post
    That's a good question. I think she is, but long distance though (hence the sketchy part!)
    Why pursue anything at all?

    Say you do date her again, and say things do work out...you sure you want to be with a woman that's two-timing her current b/f, long-distance or no? How sure are you that when you dated her the first time, her ex was actually her ex? Huge flags buddy, and hence my advice to find another fish.

    Better a chicken in the hand than finding another in the same bush...
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    This is going to sound bad but here it is
    Ex's are Ex's for a reason. Maybe things went a little fast last time ( I am only making an assumption here) and she bolted. You might try being her friend first this time.
    Personally I would run from this. But thats just me.
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