All throughout our lives we have to endure losses. Some of us have felt that these losses have left gaps in our lives, an incompleteness of sorts. We go through the uneasiness of denial, the "mourning", the doubt of whether or not this could have been affected by a different decision we could have made. As time moves on, we are faced with acceptance - then the realization that this loss was in essence a contributor to gain.
It took me a long time but I have decided to let go of something (someone) who I felt I can no longer allow to be in my life because of the negativity this person brought to the "friendship". Ill gotten gains, lies, greed. Not being able to admit to mistakes and placing blame on others. Although I tried to see past this and tried to be a friend to this person (I've many times pointed out how the devious swindling is unfair), I came to the conclusion that this person is not someone I want to associate with any longer. I was given grief for not celebrating the rewards of such dishonesty and couldn't find it in myself to do so. The pain this person has caused others is something I couldn't stand by to watch and my efforts to inform him this was not right went without a hearing ear.
Over the course of time I am no longer feeling bad for letting this person go. As a matter of fact, I feel as though I am able to contribute more on the positive, and giving to people who are able to accept me for what I believe are true morals - and not chastise me for not liking or agreeing with a dishonest way of life.
To me, this was a necessary loss.
Tell us about the positive gains in your necessary losses.