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    angry-- beyond words! (no point, just a rant)

    So, I have an ex. We'll say he's "the" ex, considering we dated for over a year, few months off, another year+. He talked a lot aobut engagement (I always expressed my apprehensions about being too young, him needing to finish school, etc) we stayed together while he was at basic training for the National Guard... in short, things were serious.

    Due to unfortunate events (aka, him being a jerk), I kicked the a-hole to the curb this past winter (should have done it much sooner, whole nother story there).

    So, lately... he's been trying to get ahold of me.
    • On my birthday at about 6AM he left a VM on my work phone (what a wuss, couldn't even call when he thought I could pick up?)
    • About a month ago he called about 4x in a half hour (I was actually hanging out on a date- how embarassing), and then again a week later. No voicemail
    • last week got a text "sure wish you'd talk to me"
    • Now today, he called my work phone (can't screen calls, no caller ID) so I picked up. Was pretty PO'd but tried to maintain my composure since I'm at work and told him it was inappropriate to call me here, then hung up on him...


    I suspect his re-bound girl dumped him, or something. I'm going to get a new cell #, but wtf can I do about him stalking me @ work?!

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    Hit it and quit it.

    Ok, i'm going to read the post now.

    Edit: I take that back. Don't hit it and quit it unless by hitting it you're taking a 2x4 to his head.

    I'd just ignore him. Completely. Maybe a restraining order as a last resort if there's some kind of threat to your safety.

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    Have you expressed to him in very clear terms that you have no desire for him to contact you? Your post does not make that clear. If not, do so, and see where things go from there.
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    Just be 100% clear; We are done, I don't want to talk with you, I will not pick up your calls, bye bye. If that fails try a restraining order

    My experience is that women try to be nice and send mix messages and for sure the guy is hoping to hear the good news not the bad, so if it is mixed it will sound positive.
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    Besides blocking his #? You could have your boss answer and threaten to press charges etc. Thats a little harsh though, but then again he sounds pretty desperate. I don't think I ever got this bad, I never called their work anyway. Tell him to go fork himself
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    Quote Originally Posted by jsharr View Post
    Have you expressed to him in very clear terms that you have no desire for him to contact you? Your post does not make that clear. If not, do so, and see where things go from there.
    Yes, I have made it clear (paying particular attention to the fact that men do not understand unless you are very, very clear). He is OUT of my life, and trying to nose back in. I don't pick up his calls, when I know its him- and I do not return them.

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    Just be 100% clear; We are done, I don't want to talk with you, I will not pick up your calls, bye bye. If that fails try a restraining order

    My experience is that women try to be nice and send mix messages and for sure the guy is hoping to hear the good news not the bad, so if it is mixed it will sound positive.
    No, he was not good to me or for me in more ways than one, there are no mixed signals here.
    Do restraining orders cover phone calls?

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    Quote Originally Posted by rat_factory View Post
    Besides blocking his #? You could have your boss answer and threaten to press charges etc. Thats a little harsh though, but then again he sounds pretty desperate. I don't think I ever got this bad, I never called their work anyway. Tell him to go fork himself
    I have no way of telling if he is calling my work until I pick up the phone.

    I've actually been having nightmares about him stalking/raping me since he's been calling again. Its getting scary.

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    No, but I know this guy.... Johnny Lasagne, and he ya know. He kinda takes care of bidness, ya see.

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    You're a pretty blonde, so therefore according to the laws of physics you have a so-so looking red-headed friend. Hook them up.

    OK, seriously, nothing really, it'll just blow over. Tell him flatly that you don't like him even a little, and that he should find someone new.

    -or-

    The Ladder Theory

    The ladder theory states that a guy will try for the highest available rung on the ladder, meaning that if he let's say works with four girls, and none of them are stunners, but one edges out the others by some small factor, he will be attracted to that one even though at other times he wouldn't have given her notice, she is currently the highest rung on the ladder at hand.

    Right now, Mr Ex has no girl, so his ex-girl that hangs up on him and won't talk to him is the highest rung, since a long shot is on a higher rung than the no-girl rung. He just needs to get out and meet people.

    That's my theory, and I'm sticking to it.
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    Text him back.

    "Leave me alone"
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    Wow, raping? There are some serious fear issues going on here. You probably are having those nightmares because you think its a possibility? It sounds like he is the psycho ex type. Maybe you should get a restraining order. He may think its uncalled for, but it sure would shut him the eff up. Plus you can sleep at night again!
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    Quote Originally Posted by artifice View Post

    Do restraining orders cover phone calls?
    I think that would qualify as harrassment. So it should.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Stacey View Post
    No, but I know this guy.... Johnny Lasagne, and he ya know. He kinda takes care of bidness, ya see.
    That would be me...I'll stalk and **** the b@stard. Of course, my fee would be stalking and raping Artifice after I stalk and **** her stalking ****** ex, but hey, nothing is free, ya know.
    "Let us hope our weapons are never needed --but do not forget what the common people knew when they demanded the Bill of Rights: An armed citizenry is the first defense, the best defense, and the final defense against tyranny. If guns are outlawed, only the government will have guns. Only the police, the secret police, the military, the hired servants of our rulers. Only the government -- and a few outlaws. I intend to be among the outlaws" - Edward Abbey

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    Quote Originally Posted by Spreggy View Post
    That's my theory, and I'm sticking to it.
    ha, im liking your theory!

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    Text him back.

    "Leave me alone"
    I did that a couple weeks ago- "don't call me."-- then was po'd at myself for even having made contact.

    Quote Originally Posted by rat_factory View Post
    There are some serious fear issues going on here.
    yeah... like I said: he was not a good guy. there were a few time I found myself afraid.

    Quote Originally Posted by Stacey View Post
    No, but I know this guy.... Johnny Lasagne, and he ya know. He kinda takes care of bidness, ya see.
    I'm going to back-burner that option for now, but I'll keep that in mind

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    Quote Originally Posted by chipcom View Post
    That would be me...I'll stalk and **** the b@stard. Of course, my fee would be stalking and raping Artifice after I stalk and **** her stalking ****** ex, but hey, nothing is free, ya know.
    that is one complicated jerry springer triangle.

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    Quote Originally Posted by artifice View Post
    that is one complicated jerry springer triangle.
    We can make it an octagon if you want.

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    Quote Originally Posted by artifice View Post
    that is one complicated jerry springer triangle.
    I can stalk and **** jerry springer too, but it'll cost you extra, you'll have to stalk and **** Oprah for me (I'm plumb skeered of her).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Psydotek View Post
    We can make it an octagon if you want.
    Well, so far its just a square, but I'm game. My life isn't quite complicated enough yet... who else did you have in mind?

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    I could let the gimp out of the box.
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    what the F?!
    just got a text:
    "I didn't want to bother you at work but i have so much to talk about an dso many feelings that wont go away for you so please call"

    im about one more text away from posting his number to BF and letting you guys handle it...

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    Quote Originally Posted by artifice View Post
    what the F?!
    just got a text:
    "I didn't want to bother you at work but i have so much to talk about an dso many feelings that wont go away for you so please call"

    im about one more text away from posting his number to BF and letting you guys handle it...
    I can stalk and **** him over the phone for free. Last I heard, you can't get STDs from Ma Bell.
    "Let us hope our weapons are never needed --but do not forget what the common people knew when they demanded the Bill of Rights: An armed citizenry is the first defense, the best defense, and the final defense against tyranny. If guns are outlawed, only the government will have guns. Only the police, the secret police, the military, the hired servants of our rulers. Only the government -- and a few outlaws. I intend to be among the outlaws" - Edward Abbey

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    Quote Originally Posted by chipcom View Post
    I can stalk and **** him over the phone for free. Last I heard, you can't get STDs from Ma Bell.


    phone sex = safe sex

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    To quote Joe Walsh: "Just turn your pretty head and walk away."


    Hey, that posting his phone number sounds like it could be fun. Have jsharr call him up.

    Better yet, have chipcom call him up!

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    Is his name Vinny? I do a great "Yo, Vinny!", but "Yo Elmer", not so much.
    "Let us hope our weapons are never needed --but do not forget what the common people knew when they demanded the Bill of Rights: An armed citizenry is the first defense, the best defense, and the final defense against tyranny. If guns are outlawed, only the government will have guns. Only the police, the secret police, the military, the hired servants of our rulers. Only the government -- and a few outlaws. I intend to be among the outlaws" - Edward Abbey

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    Quote Originally Posted by Psydotek View Post
    We can make it an octagon if you want.
    Chuck Norris will fix it.


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    Transcendental enumeration.

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