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Old 07-24-08, 06:45 AM   #1
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Need Advice

Long story short, met a women, dated for a month or so, it got hot then cooled down, she says she wants to be friends. Started to date a second women (second date Friday) then Sunday I meet the first women for a drink and a chat and its back to hotness?

Now what to do; I liked the first women a lot but I am unsure of what she really wants and she does not seem to know, the second women is very attractive and fun but I have not gone out with her enough to really know if it is a good fit. So do I keep seeing both or should I go back to focusing on the first women even though I am a little gun shy.
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Old 07-24-08, 07:12 AM   #2
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Just tell her this:

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Old 07-24-08, 07:17 AM   #3
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Drop the first one. She had her chance.
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have you considered introducing them to each other, maybe something would come of it.
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have you considered introducing them to each other, maybe something would come of it.
I like where your brains at..

Try this on both of them, let us know of the results.
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Choose the one who is the least crazy.
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Date both if you can afford it.
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Drop the first one. She had her chance.
Yeah but when she smiles I melt, I am really concerned about her being a roller coaster though. I just don't want anyone to get hurt including me, but as usual being a man I am probably way over thinking this.
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Yeah but when she smiles I melt, I am really concerned about her being a roller coaster though. I just don't want anyone to get hurt including me, but as usual being a man I am probably way over thinking this.
roller coaster=crazy

those types always want to take you along for the roller coaster ride of insanity.
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Yeah but when she smiles I melt, I am really concerned about her being a roller coaster though. I just don't want anyone to get hurt including me, but as usual being a man I am probably way over thinking this.
If you have to be exclusive, date the second one. Women like the first one suck and are no good for the spirit.
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If you have to be exclusive, date the second one. Women like the first one suck and are no good for the spirit.
Never promised exclusive, neither was I asked. I really don't know what changed for her and at the time I was into the affection so I didn't stop and ask. I am worried that she saw things slipping away and while she is not sure she really wants a relationship she also wants to keep me on the hook. I plan to ask this weekend if we go out.

I certainly could have worse problems and worse case I loose both of them and start looking again. Damn I thought being married was hard, this dating stuff is worse.
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Never promised exclusive, neither was I asked. I really don't know what changed for her and at the time I was into the affection so I didn't stop and ask. I am worried that she saw things slipping away and while she is not sure she really wants a relationship she also wants to keep me on the hook. I plan to ask this weekend if we go out.

I certainly could have worse problems and worse case I loose both of them and start looking again. Damn I though being married was hard, this dating stuff is worse.
Well, I don't see a problem, then. Date both of them. Just be careful with the first one. She may be struggling with trying to figure out what she wants and wants to drag you along just in case.
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How's that story go again?

A young bull and an old bull were sitting on a hill, overlooking the herd. The young one says "Hey, let's run down there and breed one of those cows". And the old bull replies "No son, let's walk down, and breed them all".

And if you parley this into a threesome, pics or it didn't happen.
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Well, being 50 I qualify as an old bull.
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Walk, no, run away from the first one. I struggled with this for a while with my ex and a new girl. The ex was way hotter and way crazier. It's not worth it.
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