Advertise on Bikeforums.net



User Tag List

Page 1 of 3 123 LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 68
  1. #1
    2-Cyl, 1/2 HP @ 90 RPM slvoid's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2003
    Location
    NYC
    My Bikes
    04' Specialized Hardrock Sport, 03' Giant OCR2 (SOLD!), 04' Litespeed Firenze, 04' Giant OCR Touring, 07' Specialized Langster Comp
    Posts
    15,762
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    If a friend had a problem that they won't admit to, would you tell them?

    My gf and I have this friend who seems to be having trouble holding on to a guy. Which is really not my problem but since she cares, I'm obligated to care. We both know what this girl's problem is. She has a really picky personality, gets too emotional, freaks out over the tiniest thing, and doesn't enjoy doing anything he likes.

    Would you tell her about it, hope she changes, or leave her in the dark and let her crash and burn (or find some loser willing to put up with her).

  2. #2
    Administrator Allen's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2005
    Location
    Atomic batteries to power; turbines to speed
    My Bikes
    Salsa La Raza, Panasonic Electric, Bria, Bamboo touring, Bamboo cargo
    Posts
    4,743
    Mentioned
    4 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    You shut the hell up, get your girl to tell her instead.
    No one freaks out on you for being a jerk, and if she freaks on your girl friend, you get to play the shining knight.

  3. #3
    AEO
    AEO is offline
    Senior Member AEO's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2007
    Location
    A Coffin Called Earth. or Toronto, ON
    My Bikes
    Bianchi, Miyata, Dahon, Rossin
    Posts
    12,255
    Mentioned
    1 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    might just be my personality, but I'd flat out tell her what she's doing wrong or tell her to hop ship.
    Food for thought: if you aren't dead by 2050, you and your entire family will be within a few years from starvation. Now that is a cruel gift to leave for your offspring. ;)
    http://sanfrancisco.ibtimes.com/arti...ger-photos.htm

  4. #4
    Immoderator KrisPistofferson's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2004
    Location
    POS Tennessee
    My Bikes
    Gary Fisher Simple City 8, Litespeed Obed
    Posts
    7,636
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by AllenG View Post
    You shut the hell up, get your girl to tell her instead.
    No one freaks out on you for being a jerk, and if she freaks on your girl friend, you get to play the shining knight.
    +1

    Apparently this isn't AllenG's first milkshake...
    Quote Originally Posted by Bikeforums
    Your rights end where another poster's feelings begin.

  5. #5
    ?
    Join Date
    Oct 2006
    Posts
    2,752
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by AllenG View Post
    You shut the hell up, get your girl to tell her instead.
    No one freaks out on you for being a jerk, and if she freaks on your girl friend, you get to play the shining knight.
    Yup. When you are a man, stay out of women's problems. Let the women deal with it.

  6. #6
    2-Cyl, 1/2 HP @ 90 RPM slvoid's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2003
    Location
    NYC
    My Bikes
    04' Specialized Hardrock Sport, 03' Giant OCR2 (SOLD!), 04' Litespeed Firenze, 04' Giant OCR Touring, 07' Specialized Langster Comp
    Posts
    15,762
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    It's funny you guys bring that up because um... my gf's on vacation... and I was kinda getting tired of this girl's whining (and her subsequently whining that she's not whining) and told her straight up what her problem was... and um, she started crying?? Which for a 27 year old, is kind of weird, but... I'm f***ed?

  7. #7
    Domestic Domestique UnsafeAlpine's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2007
    Location
    Michigan
    My Bikes
    Brand New Old Catamount! Schwinn Homegrown, Specialized FSR, Salsa Vaya, Salsa Chile Con Crosso
    Posts
    1,736
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Dumbass!

  8. #8
    Administrator Allen's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2005
    Location
    Atomic batteries to power; turbines to speed
    My Bikes
    Salsa La Raza, Panasonic Electric, Bria, Bamboo touring, Bamboo cargo
    Posts
    4,743
    Mentioned
    4 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by slvoid View Post
    ... and um, she started crying?? Which for a 27 year old, is kind of weird, but... I'm f***ed?
    Crying on your shoulder while your girl is on vacation? Yep, the intention here is for you to be f***ed, one way or the other.

  9. #9
    2-Cyl, 1/2 HP @ 90 RPM slvoid's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2003
    Location
    NYC
    My Bikes
    04' Specialized Hardrock Sport, 03' Giant OCR2 (SOLD!), 04' Litespeed Firenze, 04' Giant OCR Touring, 07' Specialized Langster Comp
    Posts
    15,762
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by UnsafeAlpine View Post
    Dumbass!
    So you're saying that wasn't my finest moment of diplomacy?

    Quote Originally Posted by AllenG View Post
    Crying on your shoulder while your girl is on vacation? Yep, the intention here is for you to be f***ed, one way or the other.
    It was more of a "oh my god how could you say things like that? why is this happening to me? you're a horrible b*stard! oh mi gawd!!!". Doohhh....

  10. #10
    Domestic Domestique UnsafeAlpine's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2007
    Location
    Michigan
    My Bikes
    Brand New Old Catamount! Schwinn Homegrown, Specialized FSR, Salsa Vaya, Salsa Chile Con Crosso
    Posts
    1,736
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    You're supposed to either make excuses as to why you can't see her, or just listen to her whine, nod your head and smile...

    I have a couple of girl friends that I wouldn't hesitate to be honest with, but they are some of my best friends and would look to me for answers rather than just someone to whine to. This chick wanted an ear, not a solution...

  11. #11
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Mar 2007
    Posts
    521
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    i'd tell her. no sense in wasting all this thought on a wierd woman.

  12. #12
    Señor Member USAZorro's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2004
    Location
    Carlisle, PA
    My Bikes
    1954 Hetchins M.O., 1959 Viking Severn Valley, 1970 Raleigh Pro, 1972 Fuji "The Finest", 1974 Raleigh Superbe&Comp, 1976 Raleigh Team Pro, 1994 Trek 830 MTB, 2000 Bob Jackson Arrowhead, Unicycle
    Posts
    13,034
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Well, I knew better than to expect tact from you, but the deed is done, and your intentions were good. You told her once, and that's enough. Just let it go unless she brings it up again - in which case you can always say: "well that's what I thought then, but I'm not so sure now."
    The search for inner peace continues...

  13. #13
    2-Cyl, 1/2 HP @ 90 RPM slvoid's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2003
    Location
    NYC
    My Bikes
    04' Specialized Hardrock Sport, 03' Giant OCR2 (SOLD!), 04' Litespeed Firenze, 04' Giant OCR Touring, 07' Specialized Langster Comp
    Posts
    15,762
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by UnsafeAlpine View Post
    You're supposed to either make excuses as to why you can't see her, or just listen to her whine, nod your head and smile...

    I have a couple of girl friends that I wouldn't hesitate to be honest with, but they are some of my best friends and would look to me for answers rather than just someone to whine to. This chick wanted an ear, not a solution...
    So I

    ?

  14. #14
    2-Cyl, 1/2 HP @ 90 RPM slvoid's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2003
    Location
    NYC
    My Bikes
    04' Specialized Hardrock Sport, 03' Giant OCR2 (SOLD!), 04' Litespeed Firenze, 04' Giant OCR Touring, 07' Specialized Langster Comp
    Posts
    15,762
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by USAZorro View Post
    Well, I knew better than to expect tact from you.
    What the hell... I'm tactful!

  15. #15
    Señor Member USAZorro's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2004
    Location
    Carlisle, PA
    My Bikes
    1954 Hetchins M.O., 1959 Viking Severn Valley, 1970 Raleigh Pro, 1972 Fuji "The Finest", 1974 Raleigh Superbe&Comp, 1976 Raleigh Team Pro, 1994 Trek 830 MTB, 2000 Bob Jackson Arrowhead, Unicycle
    Posts
    13,034
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by slvoid View Post
    What the hell... I'm tactful!
    Maybe you are, but that avatar picture is hard to shake from the memory banks.
    The search for inner peace continues...

  16. #16
    Chief Slacking Officer ms.gio's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2007
    Location
    The City by the Lake
    My Bikes
    Fuji Track SE, Cannondale R300
    Posts
    189
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    ^

    If you too are concerned about her then I would say have your gf approach her about it. I would say it would be easier from one girl to another. They can have "girl talk".
    Quote Originally Posted by x136 View Post
    Giolander: There can be only one.
    Giodome: Several impostors enter, only the real one leaves?

  17. #17
    2-Cyl, 1/2 HP @ 90 RPM slvoid's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2003
    Location
    NYC
    My Bikes
    04' Specialized Hardrock Sport, 03' Giant OCR2 (SOLD!), 04' Litespeed Firenze, 04' Giant OCR Touring, 07' Specialized Langster Comp
    Posts
    15,762
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by ms.gio View Post
    ^

    If you too are concerned about her then I would say have your gf approach her about it. I would say it would be easier from one girl to another. They can have "girl talk".
    I thought it would be a good idea to open up a can o'

  18. #18
    Barbieri Telefonico huhenio's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2005
    Location
    Albuquerque, New Mexico
    My Bikes
    Crappy but operational secondhand Motobecane Messenger
    Posts
    3,522
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    she is unbearable bore and burden

    run away, or have a treesome
    Giving Haircuts Over The Phone

  19. #19
    Banned
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    Location
    Point Lookout, NY
    Posts
    1,210
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by UnsafeAlpine View Post
    You're supposed to either make excuses as to why you can't see her, or just listen to her whine, nod your head and smile...

    I have a couple of girl friends that I wouldn't hesitate to be honest with, but they are some of my best friends and would look to me for answers rather than just someone to whine to. This chick wanted an ear, not a solution...
    Yesterday you are on the ledge. Today your doctor phil.

  20. #20
    Domestic Domestique UnsafeAlpine's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2007
    Location
    Michigan
    My Bikes
    Brand New Old Catamount! Schwinn Homegrown, Specialized FSR, Salsa Vaya, Salsa Chile Con Crosso
    Posts
    1,736
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Hey, I'm good at giving other people advice...It just takes awhile for my brain to deal with my own crap

  21. #21
    Banned
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    Location
    Point Lookout, NY
    Posts
    1,210
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    From how you explain her, she sounds like she isn't gonna be changing anytime soon. Being a Biach isn't a problem like drugs or drink. When I read the title , I thought thas where it was going. Telling her she's a see u next tuesday isn't going to help either of you. Sounds like it's too late for that advise. Does she live with you guys. Why is she speaking to you when your girl's away. You didn't make it sound like you two were close.

    Avoid her till your old lady gets back.

  22. #22
    2-Cyl, 1/2 HP @ 90 RPM slvoid's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2003
    Location
    NYC
    My Bikes
    04' Specialized Hardrock Sport, 03' Giant OCR2 (SOLD!), 04' Litespeed Firenze, 04' Giant OCR Touring, 07' Specialized Langster Comp
    Posts
    15,762
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by huhenio View Post
    or have a treesome
    Out of the question, she doesn't even like having the lights on when she's doing it.

  23. #23
    Senior Member cizzlak's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2007
    Location
    SE Wisconsin
    My Bikes
    1994 Trek 1200, 1984 Raleigh Prestige, 1980 Motobecane Grand Jubile, custom 531 track, and a bunch of tinker bikes of all type
    Posts
    280
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Well since you told her once, I would do what the others say and just drop it. If she comes at you about it again, perhaps you could use that opportunity to say something like "... this is exactly what I was talking about!"

    But, I would seriously dodge her until the girlfriend gets back and/or is apprised of the situation, lest she accuse you of picking on her and your girl defends her friend and gets mad at you in the process. Depends on how close THEY are, and all that other complex crap.

  24. #24
    T-Shirt Guy ehidle's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    Location
    Lansdale, PA
    My Bikes
    2005 Fuji Team Issue, 2007 Fuji SL-1
    Posts
    464
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by slvoid View Post
    My gf and I have this friend who seems to be having trouble holding on to a guy. Which is really not my problem but since she cares, I'm obligated to care. We both know what this girl's problem is. She has a really picky personality, gets too emotional, freaks out over the tiniest thing, and doesn't enjoy doing anything he likes.

    Would you tell her about it, hope she changes, or leave her in the dark and let her crash and burn (or find some loser willing to put up with her).
    As someone with a male reproductive organ, you want to be as far away from this as you can possibly be. Do NOT get yourself involved in this, trust me. This girl sounds exactly like my ex-fiancée.

    You are obligated to care, but you are not obligated to get involved. Just don't do it.

    edit: I see now that it is too late. Good luck, man...
    Yellow + Blue Jerseys!

    Get your Cranky T-Shirt!
    Men's
    and Women's designs available

  25. #25
    2-Cyl, 1/2 HP @ 90 RPM slvoid's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2003
    Location
    NYC
    My Bikes
    04' Specialized Hardrock Sport, 03' Giant OCR2 (SOLD!), 04' Litespeed Firenze, 04' Giant OCR Touring, 07' Specialized Langster Comp
    Posts
    15,762
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    This girl needs some of this.
    http://www.bikeforums.net/showpost.p...70&postcount=1

    Ooooh yeah!

Page 1 of 3 123 LastLast

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •