Join Date: Dec 2001
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Bikes: 1 trek, serotta, rih, de Reus, Pogliaghi and finally a Zieleman! and got a DeRosa
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My best friend died of Bladder Cancer last year, and
while I really couldn't do anything to "help" him this
is what I did, and what I think helped both of us.
1) Don't let the Cancer define who he is, he is your
grandfather, not someone with cancer. Don't treat him
any differently than you did before his diagnosis.
2) Don't be afraid of the disease or him (I know, tough
idea to get your head around). Don't be afraid to let him
know how you feel, however don't everyone break down
every time you see him, he is more than someone with
cancer. I've seen alot of people just disappear after the
first diagnosis, its too painful to handle, or too sad, its
Bull. Your grandfather is going to need you, be there for
3) Don't be afraid to let him go, this was the hardest
thing for me to get, that it was ok. This one speaks a bit
to what Randya said above.
Can't think of a whole lot more, other than to say
the best of your ability, is exactly what's required, you
really can't do any wrong, nor harm. If you need to talk/
vent etc. send me PM.
Sono pił lento di quel che sembra.
Odio la gente, tutti.
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