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Old 09-05-08, 11:44 PM   #1
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dating sucks

that is all. Oh and sorry for being a meanie in the other thread siu.
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welcome to the crowd. maybe we should charter a bus
to a winery where we can drown our sorrows with libations
of good red wine.

yeah, dating is like playing russian roulette with live human
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welcome to the crowd. maybe we should charter a bus
to a winery where we can drown our sorrows with libations
of good red wine.

yeah, dating is like playing russian roulette with live human
beings.
I am in.
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Old 09-06-08, 12:09 AM   #4
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For russian roulette?
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Old 09-06-08, 12:13 AM   #5
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Nein only wine tour with kv UA. We might never return back from such a trip tho!
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some canadian ice wine perhaps?
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Dating does blow. I went out with a girl about a week ago and had talked to her on the phone twice before. We talked for over an hour the first time, and I forget how long the second time. The dinner went well. We talked casually the entire time and left the restaurant when they were closing. Then got ice cream and were sitting outside even after they closed as well.

We went our separate ways. She texts me the next day saying she had a good time and such. We text a little more and almost plan on meeting to go to a movie, but she has to pack as she's leaving the state for the weekend.

I call her midweek this week and leave a voicemail seeing if she want's to go see the movie. She doesn't call back. I text her in the afternoon the next day to jokingly note, 'no on the movie, huh?' She texts back pretty quick that she was sorry. She was at work all day that day. So I text back if she's free this weekend. No text back. That was yesterday. WTF? She was the one who actually gave me her number. I don't know if she's not interested after meeting me or that she's just disrespectful enough to leave me in the dark.

Even if she's working all these days I'm sure she can at least text me to say no. This is why I don't like going on dates with people I never knew before going on the date. Lame.
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mine is more of a dissonance between our expectations. The not calling back thing is something that I rarely even think twice these days. I just thought for the first time in a while that I thought it could go someplace. time heals I guess.
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you sound desperate.
It's horrible, but it can be fun leading others astray.
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you sound desperate.
It's horrible, but it can be fun leading others astray.
Not desperate. I've changed since entering the business world in that I want results now. Don't bother f'n me around. She's losing points if that's what she's doing because then she's probably the type that thinks I'm going to get in a fight over her. Forget that.
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That was yesterday. WTF? She was the one who actually gave me her number. I don't know if she's not interested after meeting me or that she's just disrespectful enough to leave me in the dark.
Do yourself a big favor--if someone doesn't have the courtesy to let you know what is going
on and leaves you in the dark then don't afford them the opportunity to further lead you on--
just leave it and figure it is their loss. Failure to communicate during initial stages only means
failure to communicate at later stages--equals general failure of relationship. She ain't worth
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Don't worry about it, some people aren't worth it. Someone good will come you just haven't noticed that it is under your nose yet.
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Dating does suck, which is why I don't do it anymore. Every time I think about it, I am reminded quickly why I quit. I certainly don't miss it.
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Dating? Eh... I prefer catch and release.
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Lookie...a dating sucks thread not started by me! holy crap....
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Dating does blow. I went out with a girl about a week ago and had talked to her on the phone twice before. We talked for over an hour the first time, and I forget how long the second time. The dinner went well. We talked casually the entire time and left the restaurant when they were closing. Then got ice cream and were sitting outside even after they closed as well.

We went our separate ways. She texts me the next day saying she had a good time and such. We text a little more and almost plan on meeting to go to a movie, but she has to pack as she's leaving the state for the weekend.

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Even if she's working all these days I'm sure she can at least text me to say no. This is why I don't like going on dates with people I never knew before going on the date. Lame.
Depends on how the date was. Unless she already had a lot of attraction towards you in the beginning, long conversations over the phone/in-person aren't enough to secure anything. If anything, if she wasn't all that attracted to you in the beginning, long conversations (especially over the phone) make any sort of relationship building (at least physical) LESS likely to occur because at that point, she is either considering you as a friend or as potential LONG-term relationship material that she may or may not consider after being with a few guys after you (unless she was looking for the same thing spot on, which clearly she wasn't).

You got her comfortable with you before you got her attracted to you, which will NOT work in the short term. On top of that, after the texting (which is usually supposed to be short and sweet, not long and elaborate), you texted her a few more times, which comes off as being desperate. Girls hate desperate guys.

Just my two cents.

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As for me, I really don't like "dating" because unless you are a natural with women (and, hence, will not hate dating at all), it takes a lot of work (and the right people/materials) to become successful with it. On top of that, I believe that the "right" person will come your way regardless of how you seek her (or, conversely, how she seeks you). "Dating" other people (now a days, I just make plans with women and have fun; much less worrisome) can help fill the void in finding that person or even bring you to that person directly.

In all honesty, I think "dating" is overemphasized because of social pressure. Instead of dating, I meet women practically wherever, enjoy the conversation, and if all goes well, I schedule a meet with her and have fun then. It's just the natural progression of things. Arranging "dates" (i.e. forcing them) can only lead to failure.

Oh, and women are like dogs in one sense; they can feel and sense your emotions towards them. That's why good body language is touted so highly amongst dating and pick-up experts.

Confidence. Having it improves EVERYTHING, and drastically improves ones success with women. After I learned that, I could do almost whatever I wanted!
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Oh, and dinner dates blow harder. With most women that I've done it with, it was mostly free dinner for them and complete loss (and waste of time) for me.

Instead, I prefer the vastly cheaper Starbucks coffee meet. If that goes over well, then dinner *might* be in order.

I went out with this one woman who gladly let me take the tab. I pledged that next time this happens, regardless of how my accounts look, SHE is covering the tab.
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^^^^

When I used to date, if she did not offer to pay her part of the tab, I didn't give her a second date... that was my litmus test to see if she was a human being, as opposed to a blood-sucking wench.
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speaking as an old fart who's been there, I hope it helps to say you eventually can look back and laugh....I've had some really nasty ones myself (who hasn't?)
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Think of dating as a pivotal part of a successful marriage. I think that when people get married, and both people have dated others in the past, they have something to compare to.
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My take on dating is that it teaches you to fail. Think about it, every time you go on a date and it ends badly you have taken another lesson in failure. I think the better solution is courting under the supervision of a parent or mentor.

So, for those of you older folks, just give Chipcom, or King Termite a call and have them fill in for the mentor. Give it a try.

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i'm in...it sucks.

It's more like baseball as we all know...you swing and miss, you hit the first pitch, you foul out, ground out, strike out etc...and MAYBE you make it to home plate, or go extra innings...etc. hopefully you don't get rained out, or hit by a wild pitch...etc etc etc

I wouldn't mind getting to the fifth inning so it's at least official....
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i'm in...it sucks.

It's more like baseball as we all know...you swing and miss, you hit the first pitch, you foul out, ground out, strike out etc...and MAYBE you make it to home plate, or go extra innings...etc. hopefully you don't get rained out, or hit by a wild pitch...etc etc etc

I wouldn't mind getting to the fifth inning so it's at least official....
What would be the real world scenario of getting hit by a pitch?
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