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Old 09-07-08, 11:00 PM   #1
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Wife is cranky...

We got to that period again when for no apparent reason she will sleep with the children. It is a cyclic event that repeats itself every few months. I'm left alone on a king sized bed with a 5 foot tall stuffed killer whale bought at seaworld.

After so many years, I no longer do any research as per why this happens. I just accept the fact that it happens for no apparent reason and wait it out.

This period also comes with a 'silent treatment' that starts in the morning and last throughout the day, with occasional breaks to inform me about the child's needs (we need more milk, more diapers, etc). At the far side of her mood cycle, there's the chatty period, where she just can't stop talking. I'm not sure witch one is worst.
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Old 09-07-08, 11:03 PM   #2
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From what I've read, that's not healthy for the kids. Bi-Polar maybe? Whatever is going on, she really does need professional help, man. Get it for her, force it if you have to, but she needs help.
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Old 09-07-08, 11:04 PM   #3
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this is why i'm glad i have no wife.

and don't let the shrink put her on drugs. those things only make it worse... and expensive.
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It sounds like you guys need to talk. Maybe she's got issues - or maybe you're missing her cues about things. In any case - not to sound alarmist - it sounds like a bit more than just crankiness. You mentioned doing research; perhaps more communication would help?

Or maybe it's the whale that's coming between you!
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<snip> don't let the shrink put her on drugs. those things only make it worse... and expensive.
My wife is bi-polar. She's on a med. It's helped tremendously.

Reuben, I don't know what to tell you. She really needs a mess of blood work done to find out what the chemical imbalances are, and she needs a long chat with a shrink. It's not something you can force. I tried for a year with my wife. It took loosing her job to "slap her in the face" and get her to do something. Now she has her job back and is doing great.
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Don't try to talk to her about it during either the "silent" period or the "chatty" period (but you already had that figured out hadn't you? ). Help would be good, but don't come across like you're forcing it on her. Probably better if you both go in together so it's not like you're making things out to be her fault.

I'm almost up to our 24th anniversary, and there's still some times when she can be a bit moody. It isn't like she doesn't have cause either though. Life is not easy.
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We got to that period again when for no apparent reason she will sleep with the children. It is a cyclic event that repeats itself every few months. I'm left alone on a king sized bed with a 5 foot tall stuffed killer whale bought at seaworld.

After so many years, I no longer do any research as per why this happens. I just accept the fact that it happens for no apparent reason and wait it out.

This period also comes with a 'silent treatment' that starts in the morning and last throughout the day, with occasional breaks to inform me about the child's needs (we need more milk, more diapers, etc). At the far side of her mood cycle, there's the chatty period, where she just can't stop talking. I'm not sure witch one is worst.
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My wife is bi-polar. She's on a med. It's helped tremendously.

Reuben, I don't know what to tell you. She really needs a mess of blood work done to find out what the chemical imbalances are, and she needs a long chat with a shrink. It's not something you can force. I tried for a year with my wife. It took loosing her job to "slap her in the face" and get her to do something. Now she has her job back and is doing great.

i took effexor. i ended up with unpleasant hormonal changes.
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We got to that period again when for no apparent reason she will sleep with the children. It is a cyclic event that repeats itself every few months. I'm left alone on a king sized bed with a 5 foot tall stuffed killer whale bought at seaworld.

After so many years, I no longer do any research as per why this happens. I just accept the fact that it happens for no apparent reason and wait it out.

This period also comes with a 'silent treatment' that starts in the morning and last throughout the day, with occasional breaks to inform me about the child's needs (we need more milk, more diapers, etc). At the far side of her mood cycle, there's the chatty period, where she just can't stop talking.
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She's not a stay at home mom is she?

If so tell her to stop watching Dr. Phil

My wife did all sorts of crazy stuff like this before getting a FT job. We went for two years sleeping in the kid’s rooms apart. I was upstairs she was downstairs, finally one day everything broke. After a month separation and professional counseling, we ditched everything about our lives and changed everything but the family. We sold our home, we found a rental (another story) and bought a new home 6 months later, she started working Full Time again as an X-ray tech, instead of working one 12hr night shift at her hospital. I now work at a different hospital. Life is good…Our girl is 6, our son will turn 4 this month and for the most part we live in peace and harmony. Until I can’t get my bike computer to work then I throw it. LOL

A stay at home mom with one kid, not that bad, a woman with two kids....Bad....

Some aren't cut out to be stay at home moms, when the wife realized this things started getting better.
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Old 09-08-08, 12:57 PM   #11
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My ex was like that. We got divorced. Seems she'd been cheating
without my knowledge for 5 years out of the 8 we were together.
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here we go again...
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Does this "silent treatment" come after any apparent trigger? Everything is fine then all at once she just moves to the kids room and gives you the silent T?? Something is left from the eqaution. Sounds strange to me if there is no motivating circumstance on your part.


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Old 09-08-08, 09:49 PM   #14
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Nah, there are no triggers. The cycle comes every few months no matter what. We can be broke, or swimming in extra money... I can be cranky myself or I can be extra-friendly... it happens now that we have children, but it also happened when we did not (we always had an extra room). There is no pattern to be discovered, it just happens. The cycle might get longer or shorter, sometimes early in the month, or late, or right in the middle. But it always comes.

As time goes by, I'm more convinced that there's nothing wrong with me, our life style or our children... maybe she is just (for lack of better teenage rated words) an evil creature.
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