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    WTF is that smell? crackerjab's Avatar
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    How to deal with stress...

    The wife's in the hospital at the moment, been here since Sunday after an emergency surgery that has left her incapcitated, everyday is something new and gets me all worked up, nervous, and stressed. I usually go out and ride or go out and have a few tasty adult beverages. Both of those are out of the question at the moment. So what do you foosters do about coping with stress?

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    Sorry to hear about your wife. I was in a similar situation (as was my dad, brother and other family) with my mom about 4 years ago. We were in that state for 6 weeks while she was in the hospital.

    My dad walked around and got to know just about everybody in the hospital. I talked to doctors and nurses and got a good understanding of the issues involved.

    How about some good Foo mojo to help her!!!!
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    both of your mechanisms are taking your mind off the stress source.
    what else do you enjoy- go catch a movie? that would be 2 hours of peace.
    a good friend to keep you company at dinner? maybe buy yourself an hour.
    jigsaw puzzle?
    crosswords.
    go spend a few bucks and get a massage.
    no matter what you do, it will take your mind off the problem at hand during- and put you in a better mood for a bit after.

    sometimes, its the little things- taking it step by step.

    sending much foo love your way!

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    I'm sorry, I hope everything turns out okay. If you're stuck in the hospital, try some deep breathing exercises: inhale through nose, exhale through mouth (In-2-3-4, Out-2-3-4) . Some of the nurses might be able to show you some Lamaze breathing that is done for childbirth; it's quite effective for relaxation.
    If you're on the internet, look up some meditation sites. You can find some that will help you calm down and clear your mind.
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    Yeah, talking to nurses, docs, and random people seems to help a bit. Her mom flew in from Louisiana to help out, which is only adding to my level of stress. Gotta love the in-laws.

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    I hope everything is going to be allright. Thoughts and prayers for sure.

    Aside from riding, sometimes just a walk in the woods with some alone-time can help me out a great deal, especially if I've been surrounded by chaos.
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    Sorry to hear about your wife, I hope all goes well. In the meantime you could consider becoming a zebra.
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    When I get stressed...I like to be physically active...just to use nervous energy. Like riding my bike. But when I get REALLY stressed...I like to eat, watch tv, and sleep a lot. Just sorta...ignore the world around me and go into a shell...I can totally forget the problem around me for a full day that way and deal with it again the next day.

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    Sorry to hear about your wife. Good thoughts heading your way.

    As for stress relief? I just post on BF. that usually brings me down.

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    Yes, Foo seems to help a bit. I would like to go outside and take a walk or something but, I'm waiting in limbo for the doc to come in and say whether or not they have to do surgery again.

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    I wish the best for your wife and you, cj

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    95% of stress in life is BS. Your situation is real and sounds like you need to just roll with the punchs. Nothing you do will mask the reality of whats going on. I'd say smoke a joint , but thats a temporary solution at best. I wish her the best.

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    If I were religious and in your situation I would pray. But I am not, and I am not. However I just said a little something for yah anyway. Hope is good, believe in it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by crackerjab View Post
    Yes, Foo seems to help a bit. I would like to go outside and take a walk or something but, I'm waiting in limbo for the doc to come in and say whether or not they have to do surgery again.
    Give them your cell phone and go outside and walk a brisk walk around the hospital. Maybe jog.
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    I agree with the above. You can also try to reconnect with other things that you like that aren't as taxing on your time.

    Good luck, and all the best.
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    i hope the best for you and your wife.

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    Hope wife gets better soon. hang in there till then.

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    my best wishes to you and your family.

    now go to the bathroom and rub one off.
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    prayer/meditation, then go hammer until you're spent, then hammer some more...good wishes to you and yours.

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    as well, sorry to hear about your wife.
    Maybe sinking yourself into a book would help. Even if you're not a reader.
    It can take you far away and hold you captive there while along you appear to be right where you need to be ... by her side.

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    I deal with stress through physical activity, whether that be on the bike, in the yard, whatever. I just try to find a mindless task that my body knows and enjoys and then let my mind do what it needs to do. Sometimes that is prayer and reflection.

    Best of luck in this tough time, I will be praying for you and your family.
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    I'm sorry to hear about your wife. Try taking a hot bath and reading a good book. Anything to set your mind free for a few hours.

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