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Old 10-03-08, 09:29 AM   #1
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She and I are out for dinner tonight, alone. I need to do some laundry, take a shower, shave. She has a few responsibilities about 15 miles out of town. She's said she can get those things sorted out before dinner or not stay out late and head home after dinner. First date, what should I suggest?

I'm nervous Foo! I haven't been on a date in years so I'm not quite sure how to handle myself. I tend to make friends first, and then that leads somewhere, so this is kinda weird. Yikes!
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Get the things sorted before dinner!! DUH!!!!

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well, if she doesn't do it before dinner it gives both of you an "out" if you don't connect.
I would let her decide.
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Invite her to a naked hot tub party. If you don't know of one, rent a hot tub and invite all your old pot bellied redneck friends over....it'll make you look like the dream of the scene!!
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First dates are almost always awkward, unless you really connect. But even awkward first dates can turn into something.
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Just pretend like you are two friends hanging out rather than a date.
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Invite her to a naked hot tub party. If you don't know of one, rent a hot tub and invite all your old pot bellied redneck friends over....it'll make you look like the dream of the scene!!
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You need to wear your "I F*** ON THE DATE" shirt.
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Seconded.

Seriously, if you see it as a date, it's nerve-wracking.
If you see it as just hanging out, you'll feel better.
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She and I are out for dinner tonight, alone. I need to do some laundry, take a shower, shave. She has a few responsibilities about 15 miles out of town. She's said she can get those things sorted out before dinner or not stay out late and head home after dinner. First date, what should I suggest?

I'm nervous Foo! I haven't been on a date in years so I'm not quite sure how to handle myself. I tend to make friends first, and then that leads somewhere, so this is kinda weird. Yikes!
Doooood...snap out of it! Get it together, women smell fear, man. Is she fun? Relax, have fun.
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She's said she can get those things sorted out before dinner or not stay out late and head home after dinner. First date, what should I suggest?
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Yeah, let her get her stuff done. This does a few things.
1) She won't have an excuse about watching the clock - if she's done and watching the clock you're losing her.
2) You seem more relaxed. Telling her to come over sooner will give an impression that you're anxious for this to happen. Laid back man, it's all about being laid back and relaxed.
3) This will also help her be more relaxed because she'll get stuff done and not be thinking about what she has to do and it's going to be a late night by the time she's ready to take the clothes out of the dryer and blah blah blah.

Good luck, have fun!

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Doooood...snap out of it! Get it together, women smell fear, man. Is she fun? Relax, have fun.
That's the thing. I'm not really sure if she's fun or not. I haven't met her before. So maybe just do dinner and a drink after she gets off work, that way if we don't like each other, then there's an excuse to split ways?
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You're going on a blind date? Oh my...

Still, just play it like you're two friends just hanging out. Ask her what she wants to do. I would say go out to a place like Brewvies. Beer, movies, food and pool. What more could you ask for?
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I was gonna suggest bowling or putt putt, but beer movies food and pool sounds good as well. Do you have anything like Dave and Busters around there. Great first date place.

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This is a blind date? Girl from the internet?

I'm inclined to go with getting the errands out of the way first, so everything is less rushed. By the same token, I totally understand the desire for an "out" should things not be so fun.

I say let her choose. Get her to call you when she's an hour or so from being ready & go from there.

And don't treat it like a date. Don't attach too much importance to it. It will be easier to be yourself - and even if it doesn't end with another date, you won't be so disappointed.
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This may sound really stupid - but ...

shower & shave and whatnot, do what you need to feel adequately prepared, but then take a few really deep breaths and let it all out....and relax.

from what I can see you have nothing to worry about. This will either go well, or maybe it might fall a little flat. If the latter, no harm done. If it goes well, things should progress to the next logical step when you're both ready.

Not trying to belittle the importance of this date to you - that's what makes it fun and exciting, after all. But you're a good person - just be yourself and you'll be fine. Just walking around, shooting the breeze and getting to know one another is fine - the actual thing you're doing for the date is besides the point.....just my 2 cents.

Good luck & have fun!

ps - if she's really bad news, pretend to get a kidney stone
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That's the thing. I'm not really sure if she's fun or not. I haven't met her before. So maybe just do dinner and a drink after she gets off work, that way if we don't like each other, then there's an excuse to split ways?
I agree w/ Air, she gets her stuff done, she won't be distracted. Dinner & drink sound okay, you'll both have a good idea if the convo is good if stuff is flowing. Relax man, just be you, ask her about herself, see if she seems interesting & personable & fun. Don't overthink this, you'll plot so many solutions you'll stress yourself out. Hold off on the emo stuff until later.
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Don't let her choose - man up. She's asking you for a reason, do you want to be the spineless guy who says for the rest of your life, "Whatever you want dear?" That's what you're telling her you are. Let her know you can make decisions.

FYI - dinner off the bat on a first date is probably one of the most intimidating things you can do. It'll be you, and her, and nothing else. Any drop in the conversation will be enlarged and amplified as you both look around, desperately searching for something to fill the void. She may also be a serial dater who just likes going out with guys for the free food (been on way too many of those) so make sure she's not like that by doing something different. Not to make you nervous but I really second some sort of unique thing that will let you guys relax, have things to talk about (hey look, a duck!) and just be able to move around. Put-put, go carts, Dave and Busters, etc....
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She and I are out for dinner tonight, alone. I need to do some laundry, take a shower, shave. She has a few responsibilities about 15 miles out of town. She's said she can get those things sorted out before dinner or not stay out late and head home after dinner. First date, what should I suggest?

I'm nervous Foo! I haven't been on a date in years so I'm not quite sure how to handle myself. I tend to make friends first, and then that leads somewhere, so this is kinda weird. Yikes!
Don't answer her, repeat don't answer her. Act very indifferent about the whole thing. If she presses, just say it is up to her.
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This may sound really stupid - but ...

shower & shave and whatnot, do what you need to feel adequately prepared, but then take a few really deep breaths and let it all out....and relax.

from what I can see you have nothing to worry about. This will either go well, or maybe it might fall a little flat. If the latter, no harm done. If it goes well, things should progress to the next logical step when you're both ready.

Not trying to belittle the importance of this date to you - that's what makes it fun and exciting, after all. But you're a good person - just be yourself and you'll be fine. Just walking around, shooting the breeze and getting to know one another is fine - the actual thing you're doing for the date is besides the point.....just my 2 cents.

Good luck & have fun!

ps - if she's really bad news, pretend to get a kidney stone
All great advice. Might I add though that while you are doing the deep breathing thing, you might also want to do the Something About Mary Hair Gel trick.
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All great advice. Might I add though that while you are doing the deep breathing thing, you might also want to do the Something About Mary Hair Gel trick.
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Again? Jeez, how many times do I need to do that in a day...

I agree with Air. She's asking me for a reason, I don't wanna be one of those wishy washy guys.
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Again? Jeez, how many times do I need to do that in a day...

I agree with Air. She's asking me for a reason, I don't wanna be one of those wishy washy guys.
It isn't wishy washy when you have a "I don't give a ****" attitude. That is what you want to convey.

If you feel you must answer, tell her to do her errands after dinner. Tell her you have some stuff to do anyway. She is looking for the other answer.
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