This guy isn't like the all star QB or anything (though, somehow he was our Prom king...that makes me laugh every time i think about it.). He didn't get a 36 on his ACT. On the surface he's just a pretty average guy.
I've talked to him about his upbringing and i've seen his parents interact with him and his siblings so i know for a fact that part of what i'm about to mention stems, very much, from them.
He is an extremely optimistic dude. That in itself isn't so bad but he's optimistic about things that are so off the wall that sometimes you just have to roll your eyes, sit back, and watch him try and do the things he wants to do. And he's always got things to do, new things every day sometimes he seems manic (kidding...sorta). I think it's because of this that his "failures" (and by that i mean those crazy ideas that never come through) are covered up by his new crazy ideas.
For a while now he's wanted to move to a city, which i wont mention*. I knew that would happen, but he kept also saying "Well, i'm gonna move out there and get a job with the [NBA Team of that city]"*
This idea was a typical one of his. It was so grandiose that you just nod and smile and wish him luck, secretly knowing that he'll go out there and settle for a "normal" job and enjoy living in his new city.
And then he calls me up to tell me he got this job at a search engine optimization company. This is a field i had never even thought of and he knows squat about computers, so we both laughed about it. Then he proceeds to tell me about how much he loves it. Which reminds me of another trait, he seems to find good things in everything he does.
I've tried this with him. At school he told me to come on a "bike ride" (in the 10 year old on 20" bikes sense, not in the road forum sense). So we go cruising around these nooks and crannies of Iowa City, and he glowingly tells me that "this is like...some sort of Hall of Fame or something". It turned out to be the athletic office where all the coaches have their official offices. It was interesting i guess, they have a Heisman in there (Kinnick's) and other trophies. But this was also the same place where, while writing a story for the school paper, he got a spur-of-the-moment interview with one of the highest paid football coaches in the Nation--not a very accessible guy and certainly not to the student newspaper.
And so i get a text message the other day that says "I got a job with the [NBA team]". I couldn't believe it. I called him right away and he told me that it is a small job, he prints out stats and hands them to the press and afterward hangs out in the visiting locker room to gather quotes. He also told me that this is the same job his boss started at.
On one hand i'm really happy for him. But on the other hand, i hate to admit, all this "jolly living" bothers me. I can't help it. I'm jealous. Where his parents are married, mine are divorced. Where his mom and dad visited him at school, mine never saw the campus (except for graduation). Where his grandma helped him to study abroad, i couldn't afford it. Where he has the gonads to pick up and leave with looming student loans, i live with "daddy" so i can build a savings account.
I sit here and fight being "angry" about his "luck" when i realize that it isn't luck. It's his positive attitude about everything he does. He is a beacon of "you can do it".
I'm sure many of us know these people, i'm probably just an ******* to ever get jealous in the first place but i think he's a good influence and i suspect "your" friend is too. Food for thought...
*I'm not saying where or what team because each team has two of these staff members, and it's all online...so for the sake of privacy i'll leave it to your imagination.