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Old 11-04-08, 06:09 AM   #1
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Someone hitting on your date -- what do you do?

What do you do when someone hits on your date?
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Old 11-04-08, 06:15 AM   #2
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i'd be unconcerned about someone else fawning attention and more concerned about her lack of attention to you...

IMO, find a new potential GF and worry less about what might be and more what is...
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Old 11-04-08, 06:25 AM   #3
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Don't be concerned with a PC answer. I agree with ^^, she seemed to be ignoring you.
Whats also your fault is that you walked off for a while instead of trying to engage her.

In this scenario she seems more like an object than a person.


Oh - lastly, when in doubt shoot the hostage.
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Old 11-04-08, 06:28 AM   #4
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clearly she wasn't interested in you through the texting and what not.
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Things go pretty well until later in the night she gets bogged down in texting her gf's. I get annoyed and get lost for about 10 minutes.
Everything past this point is unimportant. She just told you the date is over.

That behavior is cool with someone you have been in a relationship for a bit. But on a second date it is a HUGE warning sign. Run.
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Old 11-04-08, 06:36 AM   #6
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+1 with the above replies. Wise sage advice.

which seems to validate your coming here. Once again, foo did indeed git 'er done.
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Old 11-04-08, 06:45 AM   #7
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heheh.
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...Things go pretty well until later in the night she gets bogged down in texting her gf's...
Move on. She's not into you.
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Old 11-04-08, 07:21 AM   #9
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Trust me, if a girl goes to a party and spends time texting or anything else for that matter...except for paying attention to you...then it's over. Move on. She probably used you for a ticket to the party. If she was interested in you, she'd be sending signals even a cave man could pick up on.
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Old 11-04-08, 07:26 AM   #10
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Yep, another agreement here. As soon as the pulled the phone out, that was your cue to buzz off.
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What is the correct response here? Not the politically-correct response. I mean, should I have gotten in the guy's face a bit more like another guy there did when I was chit-chatting w/his new wife? I mean, we're not married, I know, but how territorial should i have been? I haven't said anything to her about it, but I wonder if I should get it off my chest....
Even if the date had not basically been over (and even if you had been married), you should just ignore this stuff. If either one of you can't handle this, it's a bad sign.
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Trust me, if a girl goes to a party and spends time texting or anything else for that matter...except for paying attention to you...then it's over.
Anyone who spends their time texting at a party isn't having fun. Unless the reason they're not having any fun is that they're stuck on themselves, rescuing them is a good idea. If they don't want to be rescued, they don't think you're any fun.
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Old 11-04-08, 07:34 AM   #13
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Her NOT being your property may give you a clue about not thinking you own her. But what do I know?

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If she wasn't into you before, you're jealous, insecure, possessive behavior on only your second date, certainly did the trick.
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Well......if it's a girl hitting on my date.......I'd let them go.........if it's a guy.......and if she's paying more attention to him than me..........I'd just go and dump the check on her.
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Old 11-04-08, 08:03 AM   #16
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kneecapping from a moving car is a handy skill
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You just made him seem cooler with that response...

This happened to me before, but it was while I was building comfort with a woman. Some other guy came in and started chatting her up. I got her number, but she was pretty easy, so I'm sure she took care of him too.

I think what people do in these situations is act really cool about it. Go in and join in on the conversation, but point in a way that you can butt out the guy. You can't act overly protective, since that might ruin your potential with the woman, but you can't act sheepish about it either, since that will hurt your image.
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Old 11-04-08, 08:09 AM   #18
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Be a man and tell the d-bag to **** off. Take charge of the situation.
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She wasn't very lady like or respectful to you as you already know. It's not his fault because she should have said that she was with you.

This sounds messed up but I know of someone who would have said to the guy "Since you two are hitting it off so good would you mind giving her a ride home for me? I really have to be somewhere right now and I don't want to interrupt her time with you".
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if she wants to txt or talk to other guys when she's supposed to be hanging out with you, thats fine. i'd say its a good thing that you figured this out on the 2nd date instead of much later. Let her run off with some random guy. Less stress for you and you can spend the time looking for a girl that isnt a self-centered flake and is actually interested in you. The other guy getting in your face for talking w/ his wife is obviously insecure and doesnt trust his wife (nice marriage i'm sure).

siu makes a good point. although i'd probably do that in private so she's not put on the spot in front of him. that way you don't burn bridges and maybe she has a friend for you?
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All great advice (even the kneecapping - you need to consider all the options, after all). But re-reading the OP - r u most concerned with what you should have done?

It's an awkward situ....I don't think there was anything else you really needed to do. Honestly, if I were you I'd forget about it and heed the consistent advice given here - she's prolly just not the one for you. No biggie, there's other fish in the sea, yadda yadda
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It takes two to make a conversation. It was up to her to cut it short. She didn't.
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Old 11-04-08, 08:55 AM   #23
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What you do is have non-committal sex and never speak to each other again.
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