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    How to chat up this girl where I work....

    So I work doing IT at a college and there is this really pretty girl who works the register in the cafeteria that I bump into pretty regularly. She smiles at me and we chit chat for about 10-20 seconds here or there. I try to pick times where the cafeteria isn't busy so I can talk to her more, but usually a customer comes up eventually

    Before, I wouldn't flirt with any girls at my college because I thought they were all students, but it just so happens our cafeteria is outsourced, so she isn't a student, she even told me so! I don't know her name yet though. I've probably only had maybe 3-4 snippets of conversation with her.

    When should I ask what her name is? When and how should I ask for a number, or should I just ask her out?

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    Hi - I've been here a few times and I have to say you have the most wonderful (bestest, awesome, gleaming) FRIENDLY smile and I just wanted to meet you and know your name!!! My name is ....

    awesome first line.

    Go from there ....

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    You should ask her name the next time you see her.

    "You know, I see you all the time and I don't even know your name. I'm <whatever your name is>"

    Then, make sure you are happy and smile whenever you greet her. When you have your chit-chat, ask open-ended questions. This prompts her to speak for more than just a few seconds.

    This is very important:

    Pay attention to how she answers them, and seize opportunities to ask furthering open-ended questions. Rinse, repeat.

    Sometimes (but not every time), before you part ways, say something nice. "I like your hair today," or something. Then, some time down the road, engineer your "bumping into her" before you get your food, and offer to get her a coffee. Obviously, she'll be working, and will have to decline. Then you just say, "Oh of course, silly me. Perhaps another time then?" I can't say what'll happen next. That will be entirely up to you.
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    Just strut up to her and be like...
    "Hey sweet potato. Do you have a mirror in your pocket? Because I can see my self in your pants!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tude View Post
    Hi - I've been here a few times and I have to say you have the most wonderful (bestest, awesome, gleaming) FRIENDLY smile and I just wanted to meet you and know your name!!! My name is ....

    awesome first line.

    Go from there ....
    A lot of girls find the "you have beautiful eyes / hair / smile" line a very creepy icebreaker, especially for a first line.

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    Quote Originally Posted by efrobert View Post
    Just strut up to her and be like...
    "Hey sweet potato.


    where was this phrase when I needed it?
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    Quote Originally Posted by ehidle View Post
    You should ask her name the next time you see her.

    "You know, I see you all the time and I don't even know your name. I'm <whatever your name is>"

    Then, make sure you are happy and smile whenever you greet her. When you have your chit-chat, ask open-ended questions. This prompts her to speak for more than just a few seconds.

    This is very important:

    Pay attention to how she answers them, and seize opportunities to ask furthering open-ended questions. Rinse, repeat.

    Sometimes (but not every time), before you part ways, say something nice. "I like your hair today," or something. Then, some time down the road, engineer your "bumping into her" before you get your food, and offer to get her a coffee. Obviously, she'll be working, and will have to decline. Then you just say, "Oh of course, silly me. Perhaps another time then?" I can't say what'll happen next. That will be entirely up to you.
    "You know, I see you all the time and I don't even know your name. I'm <whatever your name is>"
    Follow that up directly with- Its nice to meet you. Would you like to grab a cup of coffee sometime?

    A random compliment might come off as kinda creepy to me, just go in for the kill.

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    Quote Originally Posted by artifice View Post
    "You know, I see you all the time and I don't even know your name. I'm <whatever your name is>"
    Follow that up directly with- Its nice to meet you. Would you like to grab a cup of coffee sometime?

    A random compliment might come off as kinda creepy to me, just go in for the kill.
    A random compliment only comes across creepy if it's obvious the guy is a quivering pile of jello, wobbling in his lack of confidence. At least, that's been my experience in the past. It has to be executed well.

    If anything, I'd think just going in for the kill would more often than not just blow up in the guy's face..

    I dunno, I don't profess to know all the answers. I only know what I've learned from my own experience.
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    No one has said it yet? I guess this is a burden I must bear alone, then:

    "Whip it out!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by x136 View Post
    No one has said it yet? I guess this is a burden I must bear alone, then:

    "Whip it out!"
    How about...

    "Nice shoes..."
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    Walk up to her in your best southern drawl and say - baby you must be from tenessee because you are the only ten I see.

    Seriously? I'd go with the " I don't even know your name " approach and then ask her out a couple of days later. Go for coffee, caramels whatever. Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ehidle View Post
    How about...

    "Nice shoes..."
    I have used " I really like your shoes" line before with good success as a conversation starter.

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    Quote Originally Posted by peabodypride View Post
    A lot of girls find the "you have beautiful eyes / hair / smile" line a very creepy icebreaker, especially for a first line.
    I've actually talked to people who said this - and this was not in a dating kind of format - it was truely just a casual meeting.

    Being an old bartender and having heard the LINES, upon lines, upon lines ...

    what would someone actually say as an innocent greeting/1st meet/HEY LOOK AT ME!! anyway?


    I've actually introduced myself to someone ... "Wow, how kind of you to do that (forget what he did, but it was a nice thing/gesture done for someone) .... etc etc - which ended with name exchange, etc - and we kept on talking after that and started going out to places and that was for my ex who I was with for 8 years.

    I'm so freakin out of sorts lately that I do not head out into dating territory lately. And if I walked into my local old homey bar where the people all know your name for ONE freaking beer and had some noob look over and say any of the above, I would probably just sigh and give him this doe like look and say "someday" and go take my bike home. blah.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tude View Post
    And if I walked into my local old homey bar where the people all know your name for ONE freaking beer and had some noob look over and say any of the above, I would probably just sigh and give him this doe like look and say "someday" and go take my bike home. blah.
    so don't try to pick up guys in bars and you'll never be dissappointed

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tude View Post
    ... And if I walked into my local old homey bar where the people all know your name for ONE freaking beer and had some noob look over and say any of the above, I would probably just sigh and give him this doe like look and say "someday" and go take my bike home. blah.
    There's something I'm struggling to picture. Tude pulling off helpless innocence.
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    Don't talk about her, yourself, and especially any of her physical traits. You can comment on some clothing she's wearing, but she'll most likely think you're gay.

    OK.



    Pick some completely stupid story that's all over the news, something that everybody has an opinion on, even if it's just how sick of hearing it they are. The Tonya Harding Olympic ambush worked for me back in 1994 when I was single. -- Heh heh. "So, ya think she did it?"

    Whether you get a smile, a laugh, or the roll eyes, you got a toe in the door.





    Whatever you do, do NOT comment on her beautiful eyes, neck, ears, smile, mouff, teef, knees, toes, feet, hair, skin, heels, legs, arms, nose, wrists, fingers, collarbone, adams apple ... you get the idea.



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    Quote Originally Posted by skinnyone View Post
    I have used " I really like your shoes" line before with good success as a conversation starter.
    if it didn't get her into bed, it wasn't really a success

    Quote Originally Posted by Minesbroken View Post
    Life is too short for games...ask her out.
    +1 again

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    Yep, get right down to business and ask her out. You aren't the only one to notice her, so keep in mind you have competition.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SPlKE View Post
    Whatever you do, do NOT comment on her beautiful eyes, neck, ears, smile, mouff, teef, knees, toes, feet, hair, skin, heels, legs, arms, nose, wrists, fingers, collarbone, adams apple ... you get the idea.
    If "she" has a prominent adams apple, her name is probably Lola.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CbadRider View Post
    If "she" has a prominent adams apple, her name is probably Lola.
    Heh heh.

    Or Ann Coulter.

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    Quote Originally Posted by artifice View Post
    "You know, I see you all the time and I don't even know your name. I'm <whatever your name is>"
    Follow that up directly with- Its nice to meet you. Would you like to grab a cup of coffee sometime?

    A random compliment might come off as kinda creepy to me, just go in for the kill.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SPlKE View Post
    Whatever you do, do NOT comment on her beautiful eyes, neck, ears, smile, mouff, teef, knees, toes, feet, hair, skin, heels, legs, arms, nose, wrists, fingers, collarbone, adams apple
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