Advertise on Bikeforums.net



User Tag List

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 41
  1. #1
    Look! My Spine! RubenX's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    Location
    Winter Springs, FL
    Posts
    619
    Mentioned
    1 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    The Gym Membership Argument!

    I just don't see the point of keeping an $89 monthly membership for a gym that my wife only attends once every 2 weeks.

    And the trail is only .4mi away.

    During the last 3 weeks she has spent over $150 in fast food. Granted, was for herself and the 2 children. But still, the kitchen is fully stocked and there was no need.

    Wife - "I was to tired to cook"

    Yeah right... always too tired or with some pain when it comes to work in the house, but no problems at all to work the gym?

    Bah... this is gonna end bad either way... I'll take my drugs and claim that spending approval discussions make my herniated disk cry...

    hydrocodone here I go!

    Muting wife in 3....2.....1....

  2. #2
    Footballus vita est iamlucky13's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2002
    Location
    Portland, OR
    My Bikes
    Trek 4500, Kona Dawg
    Posts
    2,118
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Hmm...around here several of the community centers have gyms that are only $5 a visit to use. The equipment probably isn't as nice as a club gym, but the basic stuff is all there. Anything like that in your area? Could be an easy way to save $79 a month.
    "The internet is a place where absolutely nothing happens. You need to take advantage of that." ~ Strong Bad

  3. #3
    Administrator CbadRider's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    Location
    On the bridge with Picard
    My Bikes
    Specialized Allez, Specialized Sirrus
    Posts
    5,840
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Does the gym have a day-use fee? Mine does. For $10 you can get a day pass and use all of the facilities. It might be something to check into.

    I'm not a fan of fast food. It's just as easy to get an entire roasted chicken at the market if I don't want to cook and a lot cheaper.
    Quote Originally Posted by toddles View Post
    So Tom only hires people that are nutty? Is part of the requirement to be a moderator on this site is that you have to be nuts??
    Forum Guidelines *click here*

  4. #4
    Hey guyz? Guyz? Wait up!! Siu Blue Wind's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2005
    Posts
    10,547
    Mentioned
    1 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Okay hold on wait. You said she's too tired/in pain to do stuff around the house but not to go to the gym? Once every two weeks is only twice a month! Does she have a regular job besides raising two young kids? Why is she in pain? Has she checked that out?

    Pain is not a happy feeling.
    Quote Originally Posted by Buddha
    We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.
    Quote Originally Posted by making View Post
    Please dont outsmart the censor. That is a very expensive censor and every time one of you guys outsmart it it makes someone at the home office feel bad. We dont wanna do that. So dont cleverly disguise bad words.

  5. #5
    To be continued Dannihilator's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2002
    Location
    Annandale, NJ.
    My Bikes
    2014 Surly Steamroller, 1977 Puch Pathfinder
    Posts
    19,072
    Mentioned
    25 Post(s)
    Tagged
    1 Thread(s)
    Don't intend on this to come off the wrong way...

    IS there even any point to having a gym membership if you only go twice a month? Yet spend $150 this past month on fast food? Doesn't sound like a healthy lifestyle there.
    Strike like an eagle and sacrifice the dove.
    Words and Stuff.

  6. #6
    Descends Like Avalanche HigherGround's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2004
    Location
    Somewhere between Funkytown and Margaritaville, PA
    My Bikes
    Lynskey R330, Litespeed Classic, Eddy Merckx MX Leader, Specialized Rock Hopper Comp (1988!)
    Posts
    5,750
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by Dannihilator View Post
    Don't intend on this to come off the wrong way...

    IS there even any point to having a gym membership if you only go twice a month?
    That's pretty much what I was thinking. Working out once twice a month is not frequent enough to produce benefits.

    However, I did go through a period when I did not use my gym membership for longer than I'd like to admit. Ironically, I got out of the habit one summer when the Tour de France was on nightly for 3 weeks. It took me at least several months before I started to go to the gym regularly again. I did not cancel my membership during that hiatus, because I knew that if I canceled it, I'd probably not sign up again. Fortunately I am back in a routine of a few times a week now, in addition to riding. Had I canceled my membership at the time, I'm pretty sure that I would have never gone back since I would have viewed the previous experience as a failure.

    Some gyms do allow you to "freeze" the membership for a small fee. Maybe that would help, without making the commitment to ending the membership?

    What does she do at the gym? Weight lifting, aerobic work, or some kind of class?
    The rider in my avatar is David Etxebarria, not me.

  7. #7
    Hey guyz? Guyz? Wait up!! Siu Blue Wind's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2005
    Posts
    10,547
    Mentioned
    1 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by Dannihilator View Post
    Don't intend on this to come off the wrong way...

    IS there even any point to having a gym membership if you only go twice a month? Yet spend $150 this past month on fast food? Doesn't sound like a healthy lifestyle there.
    (That's his point, Danililili8tor)
    Quote Originally Posted by Buddha
    We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.
    Quote Originally Posted by making View Post
    Please dont outsmart the censor. That is a very expensive censor and every time one of you guys outsmart it it makes someone at the home office feel bad. We dont wanna do that. So dont cleverly disguise bad words.

  8. #8
    Look! My Spine! RubenX's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    Location
    Winter Springs, FL
    Posts
    619
    Mentioned
    1 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Siu, she is not working and she is having high blood presure issues. She's overweight (by a lot) and almost diabetic. I found her a few gym options that were more tuned with our budget, but she's hard headed.

    At home IMHO she has workaroundthehoutis. And I think the gym membership is more of a phycological thing, to be able to say "I'm a member...". I no longer think she has any real intentions of taking the gym seriously. You just need to see her at an All-You-Can-Eat Chinese Buffet to realize that she won't lose any significant weight any time soon.

    I paid the darn thing for a few months hoping she would go every other day at least. Nah... first couple of weeks maybe... then bah... back to mile zero.

    And back to her "pains"... is weird. She could be laying on the couch feeling mierable. Then I give her a $100 bucks to go shopping on whatever she needs and all of the suden she jumps from the couch, dress the kids, and leave the house jumping and running with a smile on her face. Very energetic, awesome.

  9. #9
    Air
    Air is offline
    Destroyer of Wheels Air's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2006
    Location
    Creating some FA-Qs
    My Bikes
    Nishiki Sport, Downtube IXNS, 1950's MMB3 Russian Folding Bike, MTB
    Posts
    3,608
    Mentioned
    1 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Sounds like she's clinically depressed or close to it. When you gave her money it was something that made her feel good about herself and she responded. She goes to the gym and probably feels bad about herself, which than carrys over to overeating. Pain could be the source or it could be separate because it allows her to feel good about giving in to not doing anything.

  10. #10
    Lookin' Forward to Summer OldRoadGuy's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2008
    Location
    currently in Lake Placid, Florida
    My Bikes
    Chinese Willier LeRoi w/ Dura Ace
    Posts
    111
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Sounds like my ex. She gave me the boot but I think I got the better end of the deal.
    Quote Originally Posted by substructure View Post
    If I wanted true friends I wouldn't eat my spaghetti with a fork. I'm not sure what that means but you get the jest of it. Or not.

  11. #11
    Look! My Spine! RubenX's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    Location
    Winter Springs, FL
    Posts
    619
    Mentioned
    1 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by Air View Post
    Sounds like she's clinically depressed or close to it. When you gave her money it was something that made her feel good about herself and she responded. She goes to the gym and probably feels bad about herself, which than carrys over to overeating. Pain could be the source or it could be separate because it allows her to feel good about giving in to not doing anything.
    I have a theory... I've been examining this for some time... I have a few related threads. See, she watches a lot of TV... and I really mean A LOOOOOOOOOT. That is a fact. When you add that up with this...it makes sense. The TV is telling her "you suck!" so many times...

  12. #12
    fredelicious mini-masher overthere's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2004
    Location
    sunny CA
    My Bikes
    Specialized Hybrid Specialized Dolce Elite, Specialized Ruby
    Posts
    1,094
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Um, would she notice if you canceled it? When was the last time she went?

  13. #13
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Posts
    580
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Somewhat on topic WRT fast food. We need good easy to fix meal ideas, sometimes its just easier to get fast food as we run out of ideas of meals to make. At least easy meals that don't take longer to cook than to eat. My son is almost 3 so its getting easier as he sometimes has an opinion on what to eat. So we do the "what do you want for lunch", "I dunno, what do you want", "I dunno, what do you want", "<3 year old> what do you want", "Mac and cheese".
    It gets hard deciding sometimes.

  14. #14
    Hey guyz? Guyz? Wait up!! Siu Blue Wind's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2005
    Posts
    10,547
    Mentioned
    1 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    I know you work at nights so you are home during the day. Perhaps when you get home you can convince her to take a nice walk with you around the neighborhood...That might get her started in the morning. Little projects...suggest she plant some pretty flowers in the yard come spring. That might get her out of the house, the kids can run around in the yard and she can be creative...and see her results which might make her feel good about herself. In the evenings after dinner a nice walk might do as well.

    Start slow. When I went to the gym, I felt I had to be with someone. I would never go by myself.
    Quote Originally Posted by Buddha
    We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.
    Quote Originally Posted by making View Post
    Please dont outsmart the censor. That is a very expensive censor and every time one of you guys outsmart it it makes someone at the home office feel bad. We dont wanna do that. So dont cleverly disguise bad words.

  15. #15
    I ain't no newbie redirekib's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2007
    Location
    The Goddard Institute - Area 51-Skunk Works Division - Space Age Materials Lab
    Posts
    1,183
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    I'm beginning to think there should be a 'Relationships' subforum. It's easy to see that this goes deeper tha a gym membership. Maybe it's just me but don't you think it's disrespectful to air spousal problems on a public forum.
    "Never send a monkey to do a man's job." ~ Captain Leo Davidson ~

  16. #16
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Posts
    580
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    We do the walk around the neighborhood thing, put the kids in the stroller and walk, met other families that way.

  17. #17
    Spelling Snob Hobartlemagne's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2005
    Location
    Plano, Texas
    My Bikes
    Panasonic DX4000, Bianchi Pista
    Posts
    2,863
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by redirekib View Post
    I'm beginning to think there should be a 'Relationships' subforum. It's easy to see that this goes deeper tha a gym membership. Maybe it's just me but don't you think it's disrespectful to air spousal problems on a public forum.
    The OP has posted before about his wife's problems. It does go way beyond a gym membership.
    She needs to embrace a lifestyle of health and well being. It will probably take intensive professional
    help to achieve that.

    It is tragic that she is practically choosing to become a diabetic. In her case and many others (not all of course) this is a self-inflicted illness. If she is borderline, then there is a chance to heal.

    The first rule of flats is You don't talk about flats!

  18. #18
    Hey guyz? Guyz? Wait up!! Siu Blue Wind's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2005
    Posts
    10,547
    Mentioned
    1 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by enine View Post
    We do the walk around the neighborhood thing, put the kids in the stroller and walk, met other families that way.
    Yep!! She can start off like that!! It's easy and it's fun too!
    Last edited by Siu Blue Wind; 12-05-08 at 10:20 AM.
    Quote Originally Posted by Buddha
    We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.
    Quote Originally Posted by making View Post
    Please dont outsmart the censor. That is a very expensive censor and every time one of you guys outsmart it it makes someone at the home office feel bad. We dont wanna do that. So dont cleverly disguise bad words.

  19. #19
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    Location
    Near Sacramento
    Posts
    4,875
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by Hobartlemagne View Post
    The OP has posted before about his wife's problems. It does go way beyond a gym membership.
    She needs to embrace a lifestyle of health and well being. It will probably take intensive professional
    help to achieve that.

    It is tragic that she is practically choosing to become a diabetic. In her case and many others (not all of course) this is a self-inflicted illness. If she is borderline, then there is a chance to heal.
    Yup. She is in need of professional help, and perhaps medication.

    Does she know what she actually weighs? I stepped on the scale last April for the first time in about 20 years and was shocked. Shocked enough to do something about it. I'm down 53 pounds now to 152 from 205.
    -------

    Some sort of pithy irrelevant one-liner should go here.

  20. #20
    austropithicus
    Guest
    Quote Originally Posted by RubenX View Post
    Siu, she is not working and she is having high blood presure issues. She's overweight (by a lot) and almost diabetic. I found her a few gym options that were more tuned with our budget, but she's hard headed.

    At home IMHO she has workaroundthehoutis. And I think the gym membership is more of a phycological thing, to be able to say "I'm a member...". I no longer think she has any real intentions of taking the gym seriously. You just need to see her at an All-You-Can-Eat Chinese Buffet to realize that she won't lose any significant weight any time soon.

    I paid the darn thing for a few months hoping she would go every other day at least. Nah... first couple of weeks maybe... then bah... back to mile zero.

    And back to her "pains"... is weird. She could be laying on the couch feeling mierable. Then I give her a $100 bucks to go shopping on whatever she needs and all of the suden she jumps from the couch, dress the kids, and leave the house jumping and running with a smile on her face. Very energetic, awesome.
    Maybe you need an over-the-counter medication I call divorce. Lay down the rules and give her an ultimatum. There are all kinds of great chicks out there.

  21. #21
    Spelling Snob Hobartlemagne's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2005
    Location
    Plano, Texas
    My Bikes
    Panasonic DX4000, Bianchi Pista
    Posts
    2,863
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by austropithicus View Post
    Maybe you need an over-the-counter medication I call divorce. Lay down the rules and give her an ultimatum. There are all kinds of great chicks out there.
    There are kids to consider.

    The first rule of flats is You don't talk about flats!

  22. #22
    austropithicus
    Guest
    Quote Originally Posted by enine View Post
    Somewhat on topic WRT fast food. We need good easy to fix meal ideas, sometimes its just easier to get fast food as we run out of ideas of meals to make. At least easy meals that don't take longer to cook than to eat. My son is almost 3 so its getting easier as he sometimes has an opinion on what to eat. So we do the "what do you want for lunch", "I dunno, what do you want", "I dunno, what do you want", "<3 year old> what do you want", "Mac and cheese".
    It gets hard deciding sometimes.
    A mistake I made when my kids were young was asking them what they wanted to eat. Parents should choose dinner and kids will learn to like it.

  23. #23
    austropithicus
    Guest
    Quote Originally Posted by Hobartlemagne View Post
    There are kids to consider.
    They will benefit from the ultimatum in the long run. Kids need good role models that don't slide into sedentary, depressed lifestyles.

  24. #24
    Don't mince words Red Rider's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2007
    Location
    Vacaville, CA
    My Bikes
    '08 Orbea Diva "The Avocado"; Specialized Dolce comp "Sweet Thang"; Co-Motion Roadster "Blue Jay", Fuji Team Pro
    Posts
    6,888
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    Quote Originally Posted by austropithicus View Post
    Maybe you need an over-the-counter medication I call divorce. Lay down the rules and give her an ultimatum. There are all kinds of great chicks out there.
    IMNTBHO that seems harsh. Maybe the OP doesn't want to divorce his wife, maybe he loves her and despairs of seeing her commit suicide by food (indeed a symptom of a deeper problem).

    It's very difficult to watch someone self-destruct before your very eyes. Sadly, she has to want to change before any improvement to her health is seen. Some people respond to a "come to Jesus" talk, others need a near-death experience before they wake up and smell the coffee.

    I feel for you, OP.
    When my feet hit the floor in the morning, Satan shudders and says, "Oh, *****, she's awake!"

    Visit my blog.

  25. #25
    Gears? CliftonGK1's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2006
    Location
    Philadelphia, PA
    My Bikes
    '08 Surly Cross-Check, 2011 Redline Conquest Pro, 2012 Spesh FSR Comp EVO, 2009 Spesh Singlecross
    Posts
    11,348
    Mentioned
    1 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)
    My fiancee is cancelling her gym membership for precisely the reason OP mentioned: She was only going 2 or 3 times per month. For her, it was a work-scheduling conflict. She couldn't get to the 'open pool' hours except for a very few times. She's found other things to make up for it instead, though.

    On the issue of fast food, oh geez... I fell into that trap a few years back when I wrestled with a bout of depression after losing my job while going through a rough divorce. Rather than even going out for fast food, my vice was frozen pizzas; and even though I knew they were horrible for me, that was all I could convince myself to put the "effort" into. 2 minutes to open a box and throw it in the oven.

    OP, sorry that things are this rough for you. I think most everyone is right in saying that there's probably something more to it than just being "too tired", and that a root cause needs to be discovered before things will get better.

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •