So a question to the dads. Do you have a different fathering paradigm than your own father did? What was your dad's paradigm from your perspective? What is your paradigm?
I think I have a different perspective than my dad. He was of the school of "if I provide for your material needs, that is what it means to be a good father and I am successful as a father." Growing up, he worked a lot, and I think that I resented not having more time to spend with him playing and hanging out, and whatnot. I think it took me a while to come to terms with his parenting construct and that my own views on fathering were different.
My own paradigm involves being a lot more "hands on", spending time w/ our kids, playing and teaching them stuff. Offering to share my hobbies with them, if they're interested (read: bikes/cycling), etc. and not being as focused on spending a whole lot of time at the office. With other dads I know in my own generation (Gen X, 30 year old dudes), I seem to see a similar pattern of moving towards a more balanced work/homelife.
What are your thoughts?