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    Look! My Spine! RubenX's Avatar
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    The shoe box with old letters

    There's a shoe box somewhere, well hidden. It contains old letters of great sentimental value. Letters from old friends and lost loves that tell a story of who you were back in the day. I've found mine. It was stashed away in my old mom's place. Mom no longer lives there and the place is unoccupied. It was not a good idea to keep it there. I'm taking mine home. Wifey don't mind, it was ages before her time.

    To my surprise, some girlfriend's letters were not there. I know I trashed some back in the day because I was angry at the time. On the other hand there were letters I thought I trashed, but found them. It was good to find them. Those relationships defined who I am now.

    I also found photos, lots of them. I'm glad they survived.

    When I get back home I plan to scan everything and keep digital copies. They will last longer that way. It will take months I guess, because they are quite a few. Over a thousand pictures and letters dating back to the 80's.

    Honestly, I had procrastinated this task for years. I feared the trip down memory lane could trigger some depression issues thinking about what was lost. But I'm fine, I love my wife and my children, they are all I really need.

    Going through all the memories, I remember times when I thought I had everything I'll ever need in life. I had a girl I loved, a job I liked and a comfortable home. I thought I was going to keep the girl forever, and the job... and the home. But it never happened. People change, places change, nothing lasts forever. I didn't quite realize that when I was young. We all seek stability, but true stability can't be achieved because the world is dynamic.

    I guess the moral of the story is that you shall try to enjoy what you have now. It is OK to mourn the past and plan for the future, but up to a point. The past, well... what's done is done. And the future, plan ahead but keep in mind life might change your plans over and over. So, go ride that bike while you can! Ride with your friends and family before they are gone. And don't spend too much time planing the route, just get out and ride.

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    Nice post, glad to hear you were able to find the old shoe box! I had a bit of a different experience recently with the box of old letters. An old girlfriend contacted me a couple of months ago after not having seen each other for about 15 years. She didn't want to lose contact completely, and I was happy to hear from her. When her family came to my area (to visit her sister) for a couple of weeks last month, we got together a few times. I brought out all the old letters she wrote to me from about 20-25 years ago, and we re-read them and had a great evening reminiscing about the old days and old friends. We even went to the bowl game for our alma mater (which happened to be local) and ran into another old friend we hadn't seen in 20 years! I also met her two sons during her visit. Her eight year old is a frickin' genius. He likes digital cameras and knows all the specs for all the popular models. He has a camera with a big zoom and prefers to shoot in manual mode! I wish they lived locally so I could talk shop with the kid and give him pointers!


    Quote Originally Posted by RubenX View Post
    People change, places change, nothing lasts forever. I didn't quite realize that when I was young. We all seek stability, but true stability can't be achieved because the world is dynamic...

    And the future, plan ahead but keep in mind life might change your plans over and over. So, go ride that bike while you can! Ride with your friends and family before they are gone. And don't spend too much time planing the route, just get out and ride.
    So true. Of course you have to plan, but man there are so many unforeseen circumstances that send you in different directions. The only thing that I might add is that while you can't choose your family, and the drama that comes with that, you do choose your friends, and it's best to keep poisonous personalities out of your life. It occurred to me that my friends have all been pretty awesome. When I think of every road trip, backpack trip, climbing trip, snowboard trip, etc., that I've taken with friends and girlfriends, I realize that every single trip was a total success, even if the original plans got messed up, because we've always enjoyed each other's company. The only exception was a houseboat trip I took once with a few friends, and there was another group of friends on the boat that I didn't know (one of my friends was friends with that group). There were two guys who were "take charge" types, who bickered over where to take the boat (basically both wanted to be "captain" ), and there was one strange guy who couldn't enjoy himself. I was piloting the ski boat once, towing this guy, and when I didn't turn in the direction he wanted, he had a hissy fit. This experience makes me realize how awesome my friends have been, and how I can count on them to be the antidote to life's stresses.

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    Mine isn't a shoe box, it's a ziploc bag with mostly old photos and birthday cards. In a drawer in a back room of the house.
    Quote Originally Posted by Nicodemus View Post
    Yet more proof that I'm.. well, pretty much right about everything.

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    Nice post. Old photos and artifacts from my history are my most valuable material things.

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    I have old journals from grade school and I went through some of them with my wife a few months ago. We got to the books from 4th grade and it was full of sketches of what I thought my friends' boobs would look like. I had a tough time explaining that one. My wife still teases me, and probably will forever.

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    Who farted? Ka_Jun's Avatar
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    ^ probably should review those, before sharing. Case in point.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SonataInFSharp View Post
    I have old journals from grade school and I went through some of them with my wife a few months ago. We got to the books from 4th grade and it was full of sketches of what I thought my friends' boobs would look like. I had a tough time explaining that one. My wife still teases me, and probably will forever.

    4th grade???
    Quote Originally Posted by Nicodemus View Post
    Yet more proof that I'm.. well, pretty much right about everything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RubenX View Post
    don't spend too much time planing the route, just get out and ride.


    xkcd #267, as quoted in my sig:

    Quote Originally Posted by xkcd
    Take wrong turns.
    Talk to strangers.
    Open unmarked doors.
    And if you see a group of people in a field, go find out what they're doing.
    Do things without always knowing how they'll turn out.

    There are so many adventures you miss because you're waiting to think of a plan.
    To find them, look for tiny interesting choices.
    And remember that you are always making up the future as you go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by trsidn View Post
    4th grade???
    Must've been practicing drawing straight lines.

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