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    Flirting?

    So, I was having a conversation this afternoon with a friend and the subject of flirting came up. If you are in a relationship with someone, be that dating someone steadily (or newly dating), living together, married, or whatever your relationship may be - how do you feel when the opposite sex flirts with your SO?

    Do you like it? Like it, in that it might turn you on to think that someone of the opposite sex thinks your SO is hawt?

    Or, do you not like it when the opposite sex flirts with your SO? If so, why not?

    What if your SO flirts with someone else? How does/would this make you feel?

    What if they flirt with someone that you consider/know to be an ahole? How do you feel about that?

    Do you even care if they flirt or are flirted with?
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    I wouldn't mind if someone flirted with my SO or if she flirted with someone else, as long as it wasn't in front of me. If front of me, it may make me a little envious. Anyone my SO would flirt with would be considered an ahole.
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    whatcha doing that for MV? we so think alike at times dont we?
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    Quote Originally Posted by wolfpack View Post
    So, I was having a conversation this afternoon with a friend and the subject of flirting came up. If you are in a relationship with someone, be that dating someone steadily (or newly dating), living together, married, or whatever your relationship may be - how do you feel when the opposite sex flirts with your SO?

    Do you like it? Like it, in that it might turn you on to think that someone of the opposite sex thinks your SO is hawt?

    maybe - depends on flirter and whether done with taste and respect

    Or, do you not like it when the opposite sex flirts with your SO? If so, why not?

    disrespectful, in her personal space. worst case would be someone doing it to get at me. someone tried that once...it's about as low as you can go in this dept., using someone like that

    What if your SO flirts with someone else? How does/would this make you feel?
    She never does that.

    What if they flirt with someone that you consider/know to be an ahole? How do you feel about that?
    see above

    Do you even care if they flirt or are flirted with?
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    It's less about what the other person does than what your SO does. I can't control another woman's flirtatious nature, but my husband simply doesn't flirt back. He's polite without being encouraging, and more often than not he'll just wave me over and say to her, "I want to introduce you to Suzanne...we've been married for over 30 years and we're still on our first honeymoon!" It can be amusing at that point, watching things suddenly come to a halt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Suzie Green View Post
    It's less about what the other person does than what your SO does. I can't control another woman's flirtatious nature, but my husband simply doesn't flirt back. He's polite without being encouraging, and more often than not he'll just wave me over and say to her, "I want to introduce you to Suzanne...we've been married for over 30 years and we're still on our first honeymoon!" It can be amusing at that point, watching things suddenly come to a halt.
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    Quote Originally Posted by wolfpack View Post
    So, I was having a conversation this afternoon with a friend and the subject of flirting came up. If you are in a relationship with someone, be that dating someone steadily (or newly dating), living together, married, or whatever your relationship may be - how do you feel when the opposite sex flirts with your SO?

    1-Do you like it? Like it, in that it might turn you on to think that someone of the opposite sex thinks your SO is hawt?

    2-Or, do you not like it when the opposite sex flirts with your SO? If so, why not?

    3-What if your SO flirts with someone else? How does/would this make you feel?

    4-What if they flirt with someone that you consider/know to be an ahole? How do you feel about that?

    5-Do you even care if they flirt or are flirted with?
    1-I like it when random guys flirt with my wife, as she always shoots them down, and I get to go home with her.

    2-I don't like it when/if someone we know flirts with her, then I step in amd let them know that they should go away...far away!
    3-angry, unless it got us something at a discount or free!
    4-I would feel like, Wow! if she's flirting with him I must be the ugliest POS loser A-hole!
    5-Take the above into consideration for this one!
    You see, their morals, their code...it's a bad joke, dropped at the first sign of trouble. They're only as good as the world allows them to be. I'll show you. When the chips are down, these...These "civilized" people...they'll eat each other. See, I'm not a monster. I'm just ahead of the curve

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    Quote Originally Posted by suzie green View Post
    it's less about what the other person does than what your so does. i can't control another woman's flirtatious nature, but my husband simply doesn't flirt back. He's polite without being encouraging, and more often than not he'll just wave me over and say to her, "i want to introduce you to suzanne...we've been married for over 30 years and we're still on our first honeymoon!" it can be amusing at that point, watching things suddenly come to a halt.
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    My friendliness often comes off as me flirting. So I guess I'm a flirt. That being said, as long as it's not disrespectful to the person you are with then it should be Ok. Confidence in knowing that I'm going home or she's coming home with me goes a long way in my book.

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    Quote Originally Posted by crackerjab View Post
    My friendliness often comes off as me flirting. So I guess I'm a flirt. That being said, as long as it's not disrespectful to the person you are with then it should be Ok. Confidence in knowing that I'm going home or she's coming home with me goes a long way in my book.
    yep...that's the way i feel too. i think as long as you are not disrespectful to the person you're flirting with, it's ok...i guess there's a fine line there...and knowing when you've reached that and then stopping is key.
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    Quote Originally Posted by wolfpack View Post
    So, I was having a conversation this afternoon with a friend and the subject of flirting came up. If you are in a relationship with someone, be that dating someone steadily (or newly dating), living together, married, or whatever your relationship may be - how do you feel when the opposite sex flirts with your SO?

    Flattered, that she's of interest to them. But, I'm secure in with the fact that she'll be leaving with me.

    Do you like it? Like it, in that it might turn you on to think that someone of the opposite sex thinks your SO is hawt?

    Just a bit.

    Or, do you not like it when the opposite sex flirts with your SO? If so, why not?

    What if your SO flirts with someone else? How does/would this make you feel?

    I wouldn't/don't have a problem with it. But, she's crap at flirting. Her lack of flirtation amost got in the way of us ever becoming a couple.

    What if they flirt with someone that you consider/know to be an ahole? How do you feel about that?

    She wouldn't.

    Do you even care if they flirt or are flirted with?

    I'm interested, but it's not going to negatively effect my feelings for her. Of more concern in our relationship is "my" flirting with others, which she can sometimes become very sensitive to. It seems that it's more of a concern if I initiate and much less so if others initiate. This weekend I actually turned to her and whispered "help". Her repley, "you're doing just fine big boy." Gee, thanks honey!
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    Bwahahahahaha

    Yeah, I have a real problem with flirting...

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    Quote Originally Posted by wolfpack View Post
    yep...that's the way i feel too. i think as long as you are not disrespectful to the person you're flirting with, it's ok...i guess there's a fine line there...and knowing when you've reached that and then stopping is key.
    It's very fine line. I've been over it unintentionally a few times and my ex would give me the "nudge" to tone down the smile and charm.

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    whatcha doing that for MV? we so think alike at times dont we?
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    oooohhhh, i can not let this turn into a flirting thread, so stop it MV!!
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    I encourage female flirting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Velo Vol View Post
    I encourage female flirting.
    +1 or maybe even 2.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Velo Vol View Post
    I encourage female flirting.
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    Quote Originally Posted by UnsafeAlpine View Post
    Bwahahahahaha

    Yeah, I have a real problem with flirting...
    Perhaps, but you're going home with me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by <3 2 Ride View Post
    Perhaps, but you're going home with me.
    This banter with you and UA is going to make me vomit.


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    Quote Originally Posted by <3 2 Ride View Post
    Perhaps, but you're going home with me.
    If I have too...

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    If I have too...
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