I'm kinda stumped, I don't know what to do. Any advice?
My wife, who has a muscle disease that makes it hard for her to excersize and causes extreme fatigue and pain (although she walks almost 2 miles/day and does Pilates excersizes daily) is jealous of my weight loss because people notice mine more than they notice hers. We've lost the same amounts. She's jealous that I now commute to work on my bike, and that I enjoy riding it wherever I can. She says things like "I don't know why I bother, all our friends only notice YOU, you steal all the attention." I AM excited about it and if someone notices that I've lost weight I'll get all hyped and talk about how much I love cycling.
How am I supposed to deal with this. We've only been married 2 1/2 years and we both started losing weight and excersizing about 4 months ago. She was at 235 and is now at 210, I was at 340 (maybe 345) and am now at 315.
I really want to encourage her! She knows I have to keep going but she sees it as discouraging and makes me feel bad for getting fit. Right now I say things like "well I'll just stop dieting and riding then" to kind of make her realize how she makes me feel but I know that isn't the right thing to say. What IS?
Need help... thanks!!!!