I know this might open a can o' worms, or cause some conflict, but I'm curious if anybody else thinks the same as I do.
So my fiance and myself are going through mentoring sessions, 6 or 7 in total. Honestly, it's been very interesting, and an eye opener to both how I treat her, and the same way in return, the good and the bad. We both are getting to know our downfalls, and how we can make our relationship that much better.
I was speaking with a friend last night, and he mentions that he was talking to one of our buddies from college (we hardly ever hear from him!). He also is getting married soon, but went to their first mentoring session, and was told they didn't have to go to them anymore!!!!???? Then he proceeds to tell me he thought it was "funny how he doesn't have to do the mentoring sessions like we do". He also believes that abstinence (which is what the fiance and myself have tried to do for the past 2 years) is unnecessary, because supposedly once you marry, you won't see any of that too much anymore, it "all goes downhill after marriage". I won't even go into that topic. A similar thing happened to a couple that married before us (one of her friends). They were told they don't "need" mentoring.
I don't want to mention what religion I am, to not turn it into a this religion vs that religion thread, let's just say they have close beliefs. I remember talking to the person setting up our mentoring sessions, and she said since no relationship is perfect, that EVERY couple goes through EVERY session, no matter how good the first session goes, or how good the initial test goes.
Could this be part of the divorce rate problem we have now? Alicia (my fiance), has 3 married friend couples. 1 of the couples are getting divorced already, and they have a child!!! It seems that the whole meaning of marriage, and marriage vows, don't mean squat anymore. I'm only 27 years old, but have been raised up knowing that if you reach a mountian in a relationship, don't try to find an "easier route", but try to climb the mountain (fix ur issues!!).