So, I took all the great BF advice and dumped the boyfriend of many years. (Don't feel guilty, anyone, since it was just time for that to happen anyway.)
I'm at the point where I am seeking casual, no-pressure kind of dates/ friendships. I'm not seeking my soul-mate or anything. I just want to hang out with men who like the same things that I do, but not entirely in a platonic way. But the platonic part has to be there, too.
However, I am meeting guys on the extreme. They either want just one thing, or they want some deep longlasting love in their lives. I met one guy who seemed to have a lot of common interests, but he was about one thing, and one thing only. Not that that thing was bad , but I am am seeking casual companionship. There is another one who is all ready to dive into some big romance after a couple of dates, and I'm not feeling it at all with him. He's all ready to "take care of" some "little woman," and that's definitely not where I'm at. It's just one crazy extreme or the other.
I've been seeking relatively "normal" people who have their own lives, but have some time and interest for recreation.
So guys, tell me what is going on here. How do I find regular, decent people who want to ride bikes, and engage in a variety of other recreational activities? (I'm in a singles group already. All they want to do is drink right now.)