Okay, here's the deal. I have 'inherited' my 13 year old step-daughter not quite 2 months ago. Her dad said that he couldn't control her anymore. I don't know what all kind of trouble she was into out there, other than she was facing time in juvenile hall. Charges were dropped, or received suspended sentence/probation.
My daughter (the human flight data recorder, nothing gets past her and can't keep her mouth shut ) announced that her sister just kissed a boy . When I inquired about this, she said it was no big deal, that she did all the time out in NC (where her dad is at). Luckily I had to take the oldest girl to work, or I might have said some things that I perhaps should not have.
I know that I need to talk to her, but am wary of just what to say. If I go too easy on her, she will use me as floor mat from now on. If I come down too hard, it just may push her further down a path that I'm afraid that she is already on.