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Ka_Jun 10-26-09 07:41 PM

Have you ever broken anyone's heart?
 
Did you feel remorse? Ambivalent? Hostile or resentful? Justified?

wolfpack 10-26-09 07:47 PM

no, i don't think i have...but, i do know the heartache of a broken heart. :o adn, i hope i don't have to experience that again anytime soon.

redirekib 10-26-09 07:49 PM

Yeah, and she's still pissed 30 years later.

ilikebikes 10-26-09 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Ka_Jun (Post 9930832)
Did you feel remorse? Ambivalent? Hostile or resentful? Justified?

Justified when it happened, remorseful today.

UnsafeAlpine 10-26-09 07:53 PM

It was something that had to happen and we're both better people for it.

coffeecake 10-26-09 08:00 PM

So one of my friend's friends REALLY liked me, and since he so clearly had nerved himself up to the hilt to ask me out for supper, I said yes, because he looked like he was going to cry if I turned him down. He then started telling everyone we were going out. I had to whip out the "just friends" line. Everything was OK after that, and he grew a spine and asked some other girls out. Haven't seen him for years, but we parted on good terms.

Uh, so maybe I didn't really break his heart. Maybe for a couple days or so. I've had a couple other guys do it to me, but it was mostly my poor judgment at fault.

jgedwa 10-26-09 08:04 PM

Been on both ends of that a couple times each. Each way wounded me. But lovesickness is not a fatal condition, fortunately.

j

wolfpack 10-26-09 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by jgedwa (Post 9930971)
Been on both ends of that a couple times each. Each way wounded me. But lovesickness is not a fatal condition, fortunately.

j

very damn true. hurts like hell, but we do survive.

UnsafeAlpine 10-26-09 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by wolfpack (Post 9930991)
very damn true. hurts like hell, but we do survive.

Barely, as it turns out.

Ka_Jun 10-26-09 08:14 PM

How do you know that you did? Did they tell you?

ilikebikes 10-26-09 08:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Ka_Jun (Post 9931047)
How do you know that you did? Did they tell you?

I don't know if your asking this of all who replied or a specific member, but I'm going to answer anyways.
I know because the girl in question tried to kill herself three times, and it made me physically ill to hear about it from her parents, I visited her in the hospital (her parents and doctor told me it would be good for her) I cried, she cried, but in the end I had to leave her there, alone and crying, it was horrible and one of the hardest things I ever had to do as I did love her, but not enough to forgive her cheating on me, I heared from her parents that the moment I left she drank a half quart of some kind of cleaning fluid she snatched out of the cleaning ladies cart, she lived, but I never saw her or had contact with her or her parents after that day.

gitarzan 10-26-09 08:30 PM

Not that I know of. Pretty much I was always the one who got crapped on.

wolfpack 10-26-09 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Ka_Jun (Post 9931047)
How do you know that you did? Did they tell you?

i've never been told that i broke a guy's heart. i know for a damn fact that mine has been broke...it hurt's like a mo'fo + 1000000000000. i told the guy i loved him as we were out on his deck holding each other, listening to Crazy Love by Van Morrison and i knew immediately i F'd up with those 3 words. it was over that night. period.

UnsafeAlpine 10-26-09 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Ka_Jun (Post 9931047)
How do you know that you did? Did they tell you?

You can see it when you tell them. It's like you've just crushed them. That is assuming you're not a ****ing ******* and do it impersonally, through email or IM or something.

Nachoman 10-26-09 08:48 PM

I remember being crushed in high school. It felt so real and serious. In retrospect, it was very superficial.

aprilm 10-26-09 09:00 PM

I have, and while I felt like the scum of the earth at the time, I had to put myself first in that situation. This was a few years ago, and I occasionally still feel a pang of guilt. :rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by Ka_Jun (Post 9931047)
How do you know that you did? Did they tell you?

It was rather obvious in my case. He didn't have to tell me.

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Originally Posted by UnsafeAlpine (Post 9931203)
You can see it when you tell them. It's like you've just crushed them. That is assuming you're not a ****ing ******* and do it impersonally, through email or IM or something.

Agreed.

wolfpack 10-26-09 09:02 PM

good gawd. that would F'ing suck donkey balls to be ditched like that via email/IM, etc.

UnsafeAlpine 10-26-09 09:03 PM

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Originally Posted by wolfpack (Post 9931359)
good gawd. that would F'ing suck donkey balls to be ditched like that via email/IM, etc.

It was over Skype for me so I guess that's something...

wolfpack 10-26-09 09:18 PM

:( well, as hard as it would be, i'd rather do it in person....

jeanHTX 10-26-09 09:52 PM

in my (very long) experience, i know i broke someone's heart when i felt the same feeling i felt from getting my heart broken. it's like someone is tugging at my heart or like a piece of it is tearing and each tug brings tears. i've experienced it twice.

Luddite 10-26-09 10:26 PM

I've had mine stomped to pieces a time or two, never really done it someone else, except this kid in high school who had it bad for me, all my attempts to brush him off failed. I finally had to be mean to him to get him to quit pestering me. Poor kid.

DX-MAN 10-26-09 10:31 PM

'Dear John' letters suck, too. That's what led to my first divorce.

I'd guess my ratio of heartbreaking:being heartbroken is pretty even. It's resulted in a lot of caution, and an absolute insistence on honesty and fidelity. Trifle with me in a relationship, and I WILL send you packing... with a quickness.

Luddite 10-26-09 10:34 PM

Yeah, cheating is an automatic GTFO for me, too.

Wordbiker 10-26-09 10:39 PM

They break much easier if you freeze them first in liquid nitrogen.

SingingSabre 10-26-09 10:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Ka_Jun (Post 9930832)
Did you feel remorse? Ambivalent? Hostile or resentful? Justified?

I have.

And I felt all the above. And relieved, too.


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