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    Labor coaching?

    Have any of you Foo gentlemen helped your wives/SOs/sisters/moms/any random women through giving birth? The time is coming up and I want to hear some stories.
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    My wife and I went through the lamanz (sp?) class. For my perspective, it gave us information on what to expect, and taught my wife ways to breathe that helped her with the pain. My role than became one of reminding her of it during the birth. We found it helpful.
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    Same. Useful, yes. But at the hospital, assuming you're planning on a hospital birth, the nurses will step in and do a lot of what your lamaze coach thought you would. Here's a tip: freeze a can of beer, throw it in the bag when you dash off to the hospital. Wrap it in a towel and use it to massage your wife's aching back during labor. After the kid is born, crack it open and have yourself a drink.

    Oh, very important, at no time during the labor process shall you allow your own nuts to be within easy grabbing reach of your wife.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Spreggy View Post
    Oh, very important, at no time during the labor process shall you allow your own nuts to be within easy grabbing reach of your wife.
    THIS is the stuff they don't tell you in class.
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    I was present for both my son's and my daughter's birth. I cried on both. It's a very important moment in life nobody should miss. You will regret if you are not there.

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    Both of our boys were born via C section, but we did not intend it to be that way, at least not the first time.
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    drugs....epidurals. Trust me.
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    what do you reccomend for the female half of the equation MV?
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    Quote Originally Posted by ModoVincere View Post
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    For you

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    Quote Originally Posted by ModoVincere View Post
    drugs....epidurals. Trust me.
    There wasn't time with us. My son was born 45 minutes after the onset of labor. My daughter about 15 minutes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ModoVincere View Post
    drugs....epidurals. Trust me.
    I'm pretty sure they'd make me feel better, but she doesn't want them.

    I just want to know how I can get a round of caipirinhas into the hospital. For me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bigbenaugust View Post
    I'm pretty sure they'd make me feel better, but she doesn't want them.

    I just want to know how I can get a round of caipirinhas into the hospital. For me.
    I hear that smuggling in your underwear can be quite effective.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ModoVincere View Post
    I hear that smuggling in your underwear can be quite effective.
    I hear it is da bomb
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    Quote Originally Posted by jsharr View Post
    Both of our boys were born via C section, but we did not intend it to be that way, at least not the first time.
    That true. I've seen my ex's organs. They are mostly pink.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RubenX View Post
    That true. I've seen my ex's organs. They are mostly pink.
    Man, I flinched at the computer-animated C-section they showed in birth class. I hope I don't have to see one in real life.
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    Quote Originally Posted by RubenX View Post
    That true. I've seen my ex's organs. They are mostly pink.
    I was so glad of that prophylactic shield thing that had my wife's shoulders and head sticking through it. I stood where the doc told me too and tried to stay calm. The first C section was an emergency delivery after almost 24 hours of attempted induced labor.

    Will never forget being told "He has outdoor plumbing" when our first son was born. Same feeling of elation when the second son was born, but no where near as scary as the delivery was planned, etc.

    I do not recall seeing anything disturbing.
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    Yeah man. Make sure you have a birth plan and be firm with the medical staff, helps if your doc is on the same page as you are. Do all your homework, we figured out she could be on mobile telemetry, so she was walking around the hospital to help labor along. 22 hours of labor for our first. Do the classes, have your bug out bag ready. Figure out if you want pitocin, mobile telemetry, water birth, all that stuff...when you go on the tour of the facility, ask questions, figure out what resources they have and use what you want. No epi for us b/c of the old lady's aversion to needles. She's bad as hell, I sure as hell couldn't have done it the way she did...both times.

    Do whatever you can to comfort her and be prepared to see some surprising s**t. Don't take it for granted that it has to go down the way the staff says it has to go down, especially when it comes to food/ice chips/etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bigbenaugust View Post
    Have any of you Foo gentlemen helped your wives/SOs/sisters/moms/any random women through giving birth? The time is coming up and I want to hear some stories.
    Happy or gross?

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    If your wife is having a C-section, and you don't do well with blood and guts, listen to the doctor about not looking past the curtain. I still remember seeing my wife's insides and them lift my daughter out of my wife like that.

    Even though she might be drugged up, she might have some pain during the process. Stand ready for her (and you) possibly to blow chunks. With my wife, the painful part was when they were sewing her up. I have never felt so conflicted ever. I wanted to stay by her side, yet I wanted to go see my daughter before they took her out of the room.

    My only other tip, relax and enjoy the upcoming chaos.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HardyWeinberg View Post
    Happy or gross?
    Yes!

    And thanks, guys who have responded thus far.
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    My wife was kind enough to have a Ceasarian. Suggest it to your wife. In this day and age when a woman can go into a delivery room and have the baby out in 30 minutes, its just rude of her to ask a man to go through hours and hours of labor with her...

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    Check out the Bradley Method of husband coached child birth. Did it with all three of our kids. And don't have a baby in Memphis.

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