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    So your girlfriend cheats on you...

    ...what do you do next?
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    Get tested.
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    Quote Originally Posted by RUOkie View Post
    Get tested.


    No, I mean strategically/emotionally. How do you react?


    Do you act like you don't know? Confront her? Start a fight? Woo her?



    What do yo do next. You just found out/caught her. Maybe she realizes she's caught, maybe not.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Serendipper View Post
    ...what do you do next?
    Sleep with her sister, (or mother).

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    Show her the door, and tell her why. Then get tested.
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    Be happy as you can that you found this out now, while she is still your girlfriend. And by "this" I mean that she has the capacity to cheat. You are supposed to be angry and hurt, so be that way. Remember that you still count.Confront her because you lose self-respect if you don't. End the relationship because her interest level has fallen off, and her solution was a coward's solution, and somebody has to be a grown up. Use the opportunity to embrace some pain and learn not to be walked all over by people that you care about. Then get tested.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bryroth View Post
    Be as happy as you can that you found this out now, while she is still your girlfriend. And by "this" I mean that she has the capacity to cheat. You are supposed to be angry and hurt, so be that way. You still count, regardless of how you feel about yourself. You should confront her because you lose self-respect if you don't. As much as someone doesn't want to hear this, you have to end the relationship. The reason is that her interest level has fallen off, and her solution was a coward's solution which was to go behind your back instead of telling you. Use the opportunity to embrace some pain and learn not to be walked all over by people that you care about.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Serendipper View Post
    No, I mean strategically/emotionally. How do you react?


    Do you act like you don't know? Confront her? Start a fight? Woo her?



    What do yo do next. You just found out/caught her. Maybe she realizes she's caught, maybe not.
    Hey man, you asked what I would do first. I would get tested. Just sayin.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Serendipper View Post
    ...what do you do next?

    call her a ****ing *****, spit in her face, go get tested, wait about six months (no sex) go get tested again, if it comes out clear have protected sex with her sister, be sure to take pics, send them to the cheating ex, laugh diabolically.
    You see, their morals, their code...it's a bad joke, dropped at the first sign of trouble. They're only as good as the world allows them to be. I'll show you. When the chips are down, these...These "civilized" people...they'll eat each other. See, I'm not a monster. I'm just ahead of the curve

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    dinner. A nice dinner in a nice restaraunt with a good crowd around you. And a very serious conversation over dinner. Based on the results of that conversation, its either repair the relationship or walk.

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    How long have you known she has cheated on you?

    I would give it a couple days, see if she acts any different, or even confesses. Then come at her hard.

    I would not try to repair it, if she has cheated on you, then she obviously doesn't really care to much about the relationship.

    Get out, its not worth the hassle.

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    Kick her to the curb.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ModoVincere View Post
    dinner. A nice dinner in a nice restaraunt with a good crowd around you. And a very serious conversation over dinner. Based on the results of that conversation, its either repair the relationship or walk.
    I like this approach.
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    When she leaves to go to work in the morning, change the locks. Then box all of her stuff with a nice little note explaining how I don't think we are right for each other and place outside the door.

    Then get tested.

    Seriously though, I'd bring it up to her and have a heart to heart discussion. If the relationship is repairable, then work for that. Otherwise, I'll pack up my stuff and go.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ModoVincere View Post
    dinner. A nice dinner in a nice restaraunt with a good crowd around you. And a very serious conversation over dinner. Based on the results of that conversation, its either repair the relationship or walk.
    you're eating her for dinner? That sure makes for some interesting conversation.
    Food for thought: if you aren't dead by 2050, you and your entire family will be within a few years from starvation. Now that is a cruel gift to leave for your offspring. ;)
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    Multiple possibilites:

    1. If you care about her, and think that it was a momentary lapse of judgement, call her on it. Remember, though, there should be a voice in your head that going like "I caught her once. Were there any I don't know about? Do I trust her not to do it again?". Only you can determine if you are willing/able to live with that voice in your head.
    2. Kick her to the curb. Doesn't matter if she's truly sorry, she needs to know that her actions have consequences. Take some time off from the relationship. You can always rekindle the flame later (again, the voice).
    3. Become a swinger.
    4. Get tested.
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    well, at least she left you for someone else and not nothing.

    nothing is apparently better than you, that's real fun.
    Food for thought: if you aren't dead by 2050, you and your entire family will be within a few years from starvation. Now that is a cruel gift to leave for your offspring. ;)
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    Quote Originally Posted by AEO View Post
    you're eating her for dinner? That sure makes for some interesting conversation.

    As long as you have some fava beans and a nice Chianti.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AEO View Post
    you're eating her for dinner? That sure makes for some interesting conversation.
    I think that depends on how you mean "eating her". And, well, I do know of an iced over pond nearby where the bones can be disposed of.

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    Well, depending on hot the other person was/is, and your own, uh, "interests", you could always bring up the "Caring is Sharing" proposition
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    A very long time ago I was going out a with a real beautiful girl. In fact, all my girlfriends were drop dead horny, but that's a different story. Anyway, back to this girl...

    I found out that she was married. Then later I found out she was also going out with another guy (as well as me). Then even later than that I found out she was going out with yet another guy. So anyway, I made out like I didn't know, so I started going out with someone else too, they were just casual relationships. The first girl found out and was p*ssed at me. I didn't understand why she'd be mad at me while she was doing exactly the same thing herself. In any case, I didn't care, and she broke up with me.

    So what should you do? I have no idea. But that's what I done. I suppose if I was you however, I'd make out like I didn't know, but I sure wouldn't spend too much money on her, probably half of what you've been spending so far. Unless you're not ok with casual relationships, then move on, dont spend any money on her.
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    trust and tryst are only one letter off, but so different in how they affect a relationship.

    Man, I'm hoping you're asking a hypothetical question.
    The search for inner peace continues...

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    Quote Originally Posted by USAZorro View Post
    trust and tryst are only one letter off, but so different in how they affect a relationship.

    Man, I'm hoping you're asking a hypothetical question.
    yep

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    Quote Originally Posted by ModoVincere View Post
    dinner. A nice dinner in a nice restaraunt with a good crowd around you. And a very serious conversation over dinner. Based on the results of that conversation, its either repair the relationship or walk.
    choose your place of confrontation. be rational just as mv says. best wishes.

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    see, you guys are all screwed up by Doctor Phil and all those other tarts that want to tell you why either you or your girl cheated, when its all real simple, they cheated 'cause they wanted to try out another peice of ass, they were either tired of yours or just plain wanted someone else, when it comes down to it thats the only "reason" people cheat, they may make up outrageous stories to make you beleive otherwise, but the real reason is they wanted to have sex with someone who wasn't you and try to get away with it, only when they get caught do they sing the sad song, and sure the doctors will go along for the ride, they get paid big dollars to listen to the bull****, think they'd listed if they didn't?
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