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Old 03-01-10, 02:44 PM   #1
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Hyphenated last names...

Now that we've rolled through a generation or two since couples started hyphenating their last names in wedlock, it occured to me that children of those couples could be marrying partners with hyphenated last names also.

Is there any sort of strategy for selecting a last name for situations like Tom Jenkins-Tromble marrying Jennifer Smithfield-Wagner?

Or what if it's just Jennifer Smithfield?

As far as I know, I have not seen somebody with 3+ names hyphenated together.
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Eh, none really. Just let them pick whichever names they like best (or even all of them) and let them do whatever the heck they want.
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Men should not have hyphenated names. It's wrong.
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Men should not have hyphenated names. It's wrong.
Why? If they like it, what's the problem?
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it's a sign of indecision? I think I've seen 3 names put together, not four though. I thought it was usually done when the woman had a maiden name with some weight to it, either professionaly or socially, so she'd hyphenate. Then the kids would take the man's name? So says my guide to patriarchy 101.
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I think the Spanish have had a handle on that for a long time now. Margaret Hilda (Roberts) Thatcher

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Married_and_maiden_names
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Shrug. My wife has never changed her name. In fact, I prohibited her from changing it. It's her name; I wouldn't change mine, so why should she change hers?
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a guy I used to work with got married and his wife didn't want his name. So she made him take hers first with no hyphen. They clearly thought they could rewrite the rules on this crap. Now they both have four separate names and they ain't spanish. Idiots.
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Most of my fathers' sisters kept their maiden names. However, when it came to the kids, all but one gave the kids the father's name rather than a hyphenated name. Personally I think the hyphenated name thing is about as silly as being proud to be the 35th generation descendant of a member of British royalty who slept around, it has no real connection after a while. Also, why not give the boys the father's name and the girls the mother's name? It makes just as much sense as anything else.
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I once had some neighbors where the kids got the mother's name as she wasn't married to the father and was going to raise the kids. At some point she became married, and hyphenated her name. The kids had the mother's maiden name, the mother had her maiden name hyphenated with the father's, and the father had his original name. Talk about confusing.
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This is why the hyphenated names were stupid to begin with. Feminism be damned!

If you feel attached to a name bump it down to a second middle name or something.

Taken to any sort of logical conclusion you gain on average one name every generation maybe, where does that put us 200 years from now? With attendance in schools taking 40 minutes to conduct.
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Why? If they like it, what's the problem?
It just is. I don't know why but it's like a guy driving a new Beetle. Wrong.
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I didn't know that American hyphenated last names too... why?
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Personally I think the hyphenated name thing is about as silly
You might feel differently if you were a female and expected to change your last name. Think about how it would feel to have an entirely different last name. A lot of women go through a bit of identity crisis after changing their last names.
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You might feel differently if you were a female and expected to change your last name. Think about how it would feel to have an entirely different last name. A lot of women go through a bit of identity crisis after changing their last names.
perhaps...but one's identity should not be wrapped up in a name....if it were, my name would be ahole.
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I once had some neighbors where the kids got the mother's name as she wasn't married to the father and was going to raise the kids. At some point she became married, and hyphenated her name. The kids had the mother's maiden name, the mother had her maiden name hyphenated with the father's, and the father had his original name. Talk about confusing.
There is nothing confusing about this. It is right. If a woman has a child, she does not have to give the fathers last name. She gives the kid hers. She gets married and takes on the mans name so she is hyphenated. Man keeps his name.
I am not married but to have a hyphenated name has a few benefits such as extra sweepstakes entries, several checking accounts and name identity is still kept as before the marriage (drivers license, passport, etc).
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So don't change your last name, and certainly don't leave your kids with a hyphenated last name. Personally, whenever I get married I would prefer that my future wife keep her last name than hyphenate it if she doesn't want mine.
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I think x136's family has it right. His parents x77 and x59 would agree with me I bet.
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.... is stupid as hell.
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There is nothing confusing about this. It is right. If a woman has a child, she does not have to give the fathers last name. She gives the kid hers. She gets married and takes on the mans name so she is hyphenated. Man keeps his name.
I am not married but to have a hyphenated name has a few benefits such as extra sweepstakes entries, several checking accounts and name identity is still kept as before the marriage (drivers license, passport, etc).
I'm not so sure about your claimed benefits. The extra sweepstakes entries are clearly against the sweepstakes rules (multiple entries), and all I need to do at my bank to get a second checking account in my same name is to say please.
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[QUOTE=rumrunn6;10466945]I think the Spanish have had a handle on that for a long time now.

No doubt...whew.
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ok..ARE so stupid. I'm not thinking straight. I'm too dehydrated.
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