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Old 03-03-10, 06:25 PM   #1
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Am I out of line? (POLL)

I lived with four other people up until last week. Two of them were a couple who shared a room, and the guy broke up with the lady. She promptly kicked him out of the house that night. He is planning on moving out of town back to his home town of Sacramento in about a week. So two days ago I sent out a text to all of his friends in this area that I know telling them that we're taking him out for drinks on Thursday night (tomorrow). I figure that is a nice, small gesture as a going-away sort of thing, considering most of us will never see him again.

So this morning the lady walks out and is very confrontational about this issue, as she has apparently found about about the event, which I don't see as a big deal. She spouts off about how he was mean to her at the end of their relationship and now I am throwing him a party and inviting all of her friends. In truth, I am inviting some of her friends who also happen to be friends with the dude, and they total two or three people out of the 8 or so who will be in attendance.

It seems as though she is deciding to create an issue of sides where there was not one before. The three of us in the house have listened to the lady insult the dude for the last couple of days and I have not seen anybody taking sides. I see it as a simple gesture to someone who has been in my life and I might not see again for a while or ever.

What do you think? Am I out of line by gathering some friends to say goodbye?
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Old 03-03-10, 06:30 PM   #2
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she is asking you to pick sides. tell her your are friends with BOTH of them, and want to stay out of the disagreement and keep them both as individual friends.
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she is asking you to pick sides. tell her your are friends with BOTH of them, and want to stay out of the disagreement and keep them both as individual friends.
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Old 03-03-10, 06:40 PM   #4
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I believe what you did gracious considering he was also your roommate for a time. Her issues with him are not your issues and don't let them be. I suggest you think of moving out shortly as well. She appears to be trouble...
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...and I quote, "Hey! WE didn't break up with him. YOU did!
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Oh man I know exactly how that goes except instead of breaking up they'd fight once a week and threaten to. They did the whole sides thing and if you ever did they'd tell eachother when they were better. So glad I don't have to deal with it anymore.
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Quit thinking with your brain and take whatever side offers the better sex.

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How many of us did you invite?

Talk about out of line...
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Old 03-03-10, 09:00 PM   #9
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I tend to agree with Pam, here. She's a classic example of hell hath no fury as a woman......(Scorned or not, in this case, I suspect).
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Why are you questioning what you did? You did it. It is done now move to the next line of business.
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If anyone is offended, tell 'em it's none of your business why they broke up and you really want no part of their turkey shoot.
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