Do Kids *go* always first?
Lets consider this example...
You are on a plane with your kids. Plane is broken and people need oxygen or they will die.
Mom #1 - Starts putting a mask on her 1st baby, then the 2nd baby, but passes out and dies. Nobody put a mask on 3rd baby so he dies as well.
Mom #2 - Put herself a mask FIRST. Then put masks on all her 3 kids. Everybody survived.
Moral of the story. If you don't take care or yourself, you will never take care of your kids. Ghettos are full of mothers that placed their kids 1st. Kids before education, kids before work, kids b4 anything. Local jails are then filled with those kids, already grown up. Good luck with that plan!