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    Anyone over 30 and feel like they are going nowhere in life?

    Anyone over 30 and feel like they are going nowhere in life?

    Like a ship without a sail, or a ship with a powerful engine, but no rudder?

    Tips to get out of this rut? Is it even a rut?

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    Are you working? Are you in school? If you're working, take a night class at the local community college. Take something you're interested in, either a hobby like guitar or photography or a class that may help you start a new career.

    Whatever you do, do something that's different. Do something that challenges you. Do something.

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    Start volunteering doing things you like to do.

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    It's in the perception. We all get stale from time to time, and just need to make a little change in our lives from time to time. DO something you hadn't considered before.....get out and network with new people. As mentioned, volunteerism is one of the good remedies for a rut. You'll find that as you do good, your life becomes good again.....it's a sort of karma.
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    You mean life is supposed to go somewhere?
    We have met the enemy and they is us.

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    I'm WWWAAAYYY over 30:

    I'm working toward both my children completing thier educations.
    I'm working toward adding a few cattle to the farm towards a bid for growing meat as well as vegies.
    I'm working like hell to pay off the tractor and 2 rental houses which will be retirement income.

    I'm doing all this so I can get up in the morning to the quiet birdsong and go to sleep each night to the tree frog symphony.

    I moved from SoHo, NYC 20 years ago to middle of nowhere WV because getting up in the morning to a battle of traffic & noise, and going to sleep at night to a battle of noise, just didn't make sense anymore - that, and the prospect of raising a kid in the city. Country kids just turn out better!
    As with mud, life, too, slides by.

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    Travel. Get your hair cut differently. Go back to school. Learn to cook something delicious and share it with good friends. Watch children play. Plant a garden. Climb a mountain. Sit quietly on a riverbank and enjoy the sound of the water as it moves. Lay on your back in the middle of nowhere at 1 am and marvel at the universe around you.
    When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace. - Jimi Hendrix

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    The Site Administrator: Currently at home recovering from a couple of strokes,please contact my assistnt admins for forum issues Tom Stormcrowe's Avatar
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    You just literally described my life, pre-heart attack. (I'll get back there again, too!)
    Quote Originally Posted by <3 2 Ride View Post
    Travel. Get your hair cut differently. Go back to school. Learn to cook something delicious and share it with good friends. Watch children play. Plant a garden. Climb a mountain. Sit quietly on a riverbank and enjoy the sound of the water as it moves. Lay on your back in the middle of nowhere at 1 am and marvel at the universe around you.
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    "We can judge the heart of a man by his treatment of animals." - Immanuel Kant

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tom Stormcrowe View Post
    You just literally described my life, pre-heart attack. (I'll get back there again, too!)
    You and I, sir, are very much alike. I was describing the last 4 years of my own life. And I should add...

    Laugh often. Learn to love yourself. Find your own happiness rather than relying on others for happiness.
    When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace. - Jimi Hendrix

    Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans. - John Lennon


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    Hell, I'm 52, I've been going friggin nowhere for 20 years. But I'm here now, and the good news is, I like it.

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    I'm seventy years old, and still trying to decide what I want to be when I grow up!

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    Huh??? Are you anywhere but where you are right now?

    Imagine this, you are at a funeral. You sit in the audience with all the other hundreds of people. People get up and talk about the deceased. You take a closer look at the casket and it's YOU!!! What do you want people to say about you when you're gone? What is it you want to leave for future generations?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Snowsurfer View Post
    Anyone over 30 and feel like they are going nowhere in life?

    Like a ship without a sail, or a ship with a powerful engine, but no rudder?

    Tips to get out of this rut? Is it even a rut?
    Throw out your TV(s) and unplug the internet. You'll figure out what you want to do pretty quickly.
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    Dear Danno,

    I am 63, and I imagined my own funeral lots of times.
    There will be three friends and I don`t care what they say.
    And I don`t want to leave something (what?) for the future generation.
    I`ve got no parents, no sisters, no brothers, no children, what should I care for?
    It seems to me, you`ve never had a real depression!
    Those advices, "do something new, start painting, learn a new language", and so on
    are worth nothing, `cause you haven`t got the power to do it.
    You don`t have the power to search and consult psychiatric help.
    That`s the reason why alone in Germany with 80 million inhabitants
    10.000 commit suicide every year.

    Nevertheless kind regards from Vienna (Austria)

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    Quote Originally Posted by aadhils View Post
    Start volunteering doing things you like to do.
    Find your purpose and run with it. You will never have any regrets.

    Quote Originally Posted by <3 2 Ride View Post
    Travel. Get your hair cut differently. Go back to school. Learn to cook something delicious and share it with good friends. Watch children play. Plant a garden. Climb a mountain. Sit quietly on a riverbank and enjoy the sound of the water as it moves. Lay on your back in the middle of nowhere at 1 am and marvel at the universe around you.
    Burn out a passport or two and have fun doing so.
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    Dear travelmama,

    "burn out a passport or two"...

    Would you be so kind to explain me this line?

    Is it a phrase I don`t know or a hidden joke?

    I`d be thankful!

    Hans

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    Hans, I think travelmama meant fill up the passports with stamps = travel a lot.
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    This could be a good thing. You're a bit young for your mid life crisis, but most of us guys through it for a year, and come out the other side much clearer about our priorities. Meanwhile, go ride your bike and after about 10 miles you'll get a good high. That works a lot better than any antidepressant .

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    Quote Originally Posted by burns View Post
    Dear Danno,


    Those advices, "do something new, start painting, learn a new language", and so on
    are worth nothing, `cause you haven`t got the power to do it.


    Hans
    This is completely incorrect. You have the power to do anything you want..people just get so sucked up into what society tells them they should have and want, they forget what THEY themselves want. You are not powerless. You are powerful, but if your gonna sit there and sulk all day, the universe will just give you more of what your asking for....
    " The love you withhold is the pain you carry, lifetime after lifetime."

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    Quote Originally Posted by CbadRider View Post
    Hans, I think travelmama meant fill up the passports with stamps = travel a lot.
    Hi, Rider, if she really ment , I should travel, whereto? I`ve been a sailor in the german merchant navy.
    I`ve done 120.000 kms alone with the bike in Europe, I`ve been hitchhiking all over Europe,
    I burned four passports and a sailor passport, isnt that enough?

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    I'm thinking the OP was a troll........
    As with mud, life, too, slides by.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CbadRider View Post
    Hans, I think travelmama meant fill up the passports with stamps = travel a lot.
    Yes

    Quote Originally Posted by burns View Post
    Hi, Rider, if she really ment , I should travel, whereto? I`ve been a sailor in the german merchant navy.
    I`ve done 120.000 kms alone with the bike in Europe, I`ve been hitchhiking all over Europe,
    I burned four passports and a sailor passport, isnt that enough?
    I have gone through four passports as well and feel it is not enough since there is still more time to go through more. Only you will know if it is enough. Are you alright because your post doesn't give enlightening advice or suggestions for the OP to get out of his funk?
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    We all know our place, but what do we get out of it?

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    Heck, I'm only 23 and I feel like I'm going nowhere in life.
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