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    staying in touch...or maybe not

    I recently received an email from a college friend that I used to be pretty close to, but lost touch with over the years. the message simply said "are you there?", with nothing else in it. They had tried once before to contact me (a year or two ago I think), but did it by emailing my boss at work which I thought was really odd and actually somewhat inappropriate. I say that because I know for a fact this person would have got upset had I tried to do the same thing and contact them through via their supervisor. Anyways, I'm not so sure I want to rekindle a friendship with this person. I don't really have anything against them, but I had tried staying in contact after we left college, but this person rarely responded in spite of my continued efforts to maintain a friendship. After a while I just gave up and moved on after they indicated they were too busy to ever get together or email, yada yada.

    I might have considered responding if the message was more personal, but I'm undecided at this point. I kind of don't like the fact they had emailed my boss to find out where I was instead of looking for my contact info on the college alumnae database. What do other people make of this? Would other people respond, ignore, or just wait and respond later?
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    sometimes a computer crash sends your address book to data heaven.
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    Ask the sender.....Not foo

    OP has been thinking about this one e-mail for one or two years?
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    Hey guyz? Guyz? Wait up!! Siu Blue Wind's Avatar
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    Maybe she had some things going on in her life that she felt she needed time to handle. I would take it as something special that she took the effort to find you. The only way to see if she is sincere is to respond to her notice. If you start to feel that it is a business concern then point out that you would like to keep personal and business separate and that you are disappointed to find her concern was not on a personal level.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Siu Blue Wind View Post
    Maybe she had some things going on in her life that she felt she needed time to handle. I would take it as something special that she took the effort to find you. The only way to see if she is sincere is to respond to her notice. If you start to feel that it is a business concern then point out that you would like to keep personal and business separate and that you are disappointed to find her concern was not on a personal level.
    How do you know that it's a "she"?

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    Hey guyz? Guyz? Wait up!! Siu Blue Wind's Avatar
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    How do you know it's not a "she"? Whatever. Doesn't really matter.
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    When you have to drag the facts out of the OP,this thread in down the toilet people.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 10 Wheels View Post
    Ask the sender.....Not foo

    OP has been thinking about this one e-mail for one or two years?
    I'm not certain if I want to rekindle any friendship with this person which is the main reason for the post, to see what other people might do in the situation. Maybe other people would have a different perspective. By asking the sender the question, obviously that would be responding to something I'm not necessarily certain I want to.

    And to your other question, there's nothing in the op to suggest I had been thinking about this for 2 years. An email popped up yesterday so I thought hmm...this is odd and usually people from foo have good insight into stuff, hence the post.

    Siu had an interesting comment that showed a different perspective which was great, so next time, how about ditching the sarcasm 10 wheels? lol.
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    Thanks for clearing that up.
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    I had a high school friend contact me after about 12 years of no contact with her. I was curious about how she was doing but after a few minutes it was pretty clear why I stopped hanging around her in the first place. She was exactly same limited, unimaginative, narrow minded, petty, and rather tedious person she had been from age 12-24 when I knew her. During the conversation, I kept thinking "wow! She hasn't changed a bit. That's not so good.". Interestingly, another high school friend of ours thought the same thing.

    A reunion might be pleasant. Or you might be bored. If you are really curious, give it a whirl. It's not like you have to marry him or her.


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