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    Ask A Male Questions

    So I thought this would be a neat idea, have a post for Ask A Male Questions and then one for Ask A Female Questions to gain some insight (ha!) to the opposite sex.

    Here's my first set of questions:
    1. Does it annoy you when a girl is self-conscious? Would you rather have a confident woman or do you think a bit of timidness is cute?

    2. Does height matter to you with the women you date? What is the height you prefer, taller, shorter or does it not matter? I know a lot of women prefer taller men, just curious if it mattered at all for men.
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    I'm going to boycott this thread until the questions get easier.

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    1. I prefer confident but not conceited.
    2. Oh, you mean "does size matter?" I prefer women to be near the same height. I find too short or too tall uncomfortable.
    Wait, this isn't a dating site is it??

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    Quote Originally Posted by StupidlyBrave View Post
    I'm going to boycott this thread until the questions get easier.
    *stomps foot* Not fair!

    Okay, okay.....

    Beer & Football?

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    Hmmm. Couch potato sports....

    Nice try.

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    This is a no win situation for us married guys. No matter what we say, we will be wrong.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jsharr View Post
    This is a no win situation for us married guys. No matter what we say, we will be wrong.
    If you rename this 'The Paradox Thread', it will demonstrate your wisdom on this matter.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jsharr View Post
    This is a no win situation for us married guys. No matter what we say, we will be wrong.
    You married guys have it easier, since you know you're wrong about everything. Us divorced guys had to go back to wondering if we were right

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    Self-assured is definitely a plus. I think it's a matter of balance, as are a lot of things. A good combination of humility with self-confidence is sweet. Too unsure of herself and seeking reassurance left and right gets old after awhile, and I'd pass on the girl who thinks she's God's gift to mankind. (Not like I'd be presented with that choice if she were indeed God's gift to mankind) Like women, us men are complicated. (And I know I'm doing a disservice by generalizing, so please take with a grain of salt) - we want self-confident women who can take care of themselves, yet we want to be wanted too. Again, this is where the balance comes in. I think in the right situation and time with the right person, being vulnerable and expressing the need to be taken care of is completely justified and even welcomed.

    Back on topic, I think it's cute when a girl is a little self-conscious in certain situations, as it's a fabulous opportunity to offer reassurance. But if it's a recurring theme or attempt at garnering acceptance/assurance from others, then it'd get annoying.


    Height is not high on the wish-list, but I would say it falls under "proportional." I do have to admit that there are certain physical attributes like height that make a more comfortable fit while engaging in particular physical activities such as hugging, holding, cuddling, spooning, standing shower intimate relations, and other intimate activities of the oral concurrently reciprocating nature. (You know you were thinking it! I'm just trying to tactfully express it) =) -

    But more so than just height is the subjective, unsaid emotional quality of feeing connected to the other that trumps all. Is there a preference? Sure - a few or more inches shorter than me so I can underlyingly "feel" like I can physically take care of her even when she's wearing heels. But hey, let's face it - a preference is simply that. Gorgeous is gorgeous, love is love - no matter if she's short or tall.
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    Who is this wise man and why is his bathrobe on backwards?
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    Wow Luwin that's the kind of answer I was looking for! I'm glad you relate to the height difference with being able to 'feel' like you are taking care of her. For some reason I found with taller men I felt taken care of or protected moreso than with someone shorter than me. I know that sounds odd but it's how I felt.

    I think the same for men. I like a guy to be confident in most things but not arrogant or smug. I also like when a guy can show his weaknesses as well without getting bent out of shape about it.

    Quote Originally Posted by Luwin1026 View Post
    But more so than just height is the subjective, unsaid emotional quality of feeing connected to the other that trumps all. Is there a preference? Sure - a few or more inches shorter than me so I can underlyingly "feel" like I can physically take care of her even when she's wearing heels. But hey, let's face it - a preference is simply that. Gorgeous is gorgeous, love is love - no matter if she's short or tall.
    So agreed.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jsharr View Post
    Who is this wise man and why is his bathrobe on backwards?


    Luwin, your wife is lucky. And I'm lucky to have you as my friend.
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    1) Depends on the amount. A SMALL amount is fine, but I hate it when people spend more time second guessing themselves out loud than they do anything else.
    2) Not really. Everyone I have dated has been shorter than me, but at 6' tall there aren't as many females my height or taller. I've known a couple people my height who I would have dated had they tried.

    Edit: Luwin covered it much better. Please defer to him.

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    Self confidence is best.

    I'm kinda short, so couldn't be too picky about height
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    Quote Originally Posted by MangoPumpkin View Post
    1. Does it annoy you when a girl is self-conscious?

    2. Does height matter to you with the women you date?
    1. yes - if it is glaringly obvious on the first date or two; everyone is self-conscious to some degree, which can become more obvious as you get to know the person.

    2. no - I prefer to be a bit taller, but it's hardly a deal-breaker; neither are complexion, weight, hair etc etc. All those details go together to make up the person. For me, there is either an attraction/connection or there isn't.
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    Not wanting this to be another Match.com sort of thread...

    to the married guys: How come you let your wife buy your underwear? Or for that matter, any of your clothes?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pamestique View Post
    Not wanting this to be another Match.com sort of thread...

    to the married guys: How come you let your wife buy your underwear? Or for that matter, any of your clothes?
    I don't/she doesn't.

    If she buys me something (rare) I'll usually wear it at least a few times to make her happy. Most stuff my wife has bought me I've really liked, so no probs wearing it often.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pamestique View Post
    Not wanting this to be another Match.com sort of thread...

    to the married guys: How come you let your wife buy your underwear? Or for that matter, any of your clothes?
    Haha. I don't let her buy my clothes, per se. She is a recovering shopaholic (hate the cliche, but it's true, technically), so she has displaced wasting money on clothes that she keeps in the closet with tags on them to buying me a few shirts a year on clearance. My entire closet probably cost under $100. So, if it keeps her from spending $1000 that we don't have on herself every few months on clothes that she never wears, then <$100 every few years on clothes for me isn't something I am going to argue with.

    So, it's definitely not letting my wife buy my clothes in the stereotypical sense. In the past, I had no problem shopping for myself, thank you very much.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Luwin1026 View Post
    Self-assured is definitely a plus. I think it's a matter of balance, as are a lot of things. A good combination of humility with self-confidence is sweet. Too unsure of herself and seeking reassurance left and right gets old after awhile, and I'd pass on the girl who thinks she's God's gift to mankind. (Not like I'd be presented with that choice if she were indeed God's gift to mankind) Like women, us men are complicated. (And I know I'm doing a disservice by generalizing, so please take with a grain of salt) - we want self-confident women who can take care of themselves, yet we want to be wanted too. Again, this is where the balance comes in. I think in the right situation and time with the right person, being vulnerable and expressing the need to be taken care of is completely justified and even welcomed.

    Back on topic, I think it's cute when a girl is a little self-conscious in certain situations, as it's a fabulous opportunity to offer reassurance. But if it's a recurring theme or attempt at garnering acceptance/assurance from others, then it'd get annoying.


    Height is not high on the wish-list, but I would say it falls under "proportional." I do have to admit that there are certain physical attributes like height that make a more comfortable fit while engaging in particular physical activities such as hugging, holding, cuddling, spooning, standing shower intimate relations, and other intimate activities of the oral concurrently reciprocating nature. (You know you were thinking it! I'm just trying to tactfully express it) =) -

    But more so than just height is the subjective, unsaid emotional quality of feeing connected to the other that trumps all. Is there a preference? Sure - a few or more inches shorter than me so I can underlyingly "feel" like I can physically take care of her even when she's wearing heels. But hey, let's face it - a preference is simply that. Gorgeous is gorgeous, love is love - no matter if she's short or tall.
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    I prefer my women alive. All the rest are semantics.
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    1. Timid can be cute, but confidence is necessary.

    Look at it this way, if someone is too confident they don't always appreciate the compliments and attention paid to them. Similarly if someone is full of doubt, it tends to be an overall problem that creates unnecessary challenges in a relationship. In other words it's preferable that she can: realize that everyone has flaws, recognize that someone can care for you despite any flaws and even appreciate you for those flaws, and that without some confidence any relationship will begin to feel tedious.

    2. Height is simple, who cares. I've dated women shorter than, taller than, and the same height as me. Every height has it's physical advantages and disadvantages. After initial attraction, body language overcomes any issues of height. Honestly I'm probably more attracted to taller women initially, however shorter women who catch my eye probably hold it longer. I think it's some subconscious thing.


    Incidentally my wife has confidence issues from time to time and is roughly the same height as me lol. So in the end, it's about getting past whatever happens initially.

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    Self-assured and self-aware. I don't have any patience for cutesy "I'm just a silly girl."

    I don't really care about height either. Proportionality is a good word for it. Dress well, keep fit, and present yourself well no matter your height.

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    Mrs. Caloso is a very confident 5'4". Most people think she's taller because she projects well.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MangoPumpkin View Post
    1. Does it annoy you when a girl is self-conscious? Would you rather have a confident woman or do you think a bit of timidness is cute?
    Confidence is great but timidness has its place. I don't want to constantly be reassuring a girl. Every now and then is cute. Too much, gets annoying.
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    2. Does height matter to you with the women you date? What is the height you prefer, taller, shorter or does it not matter? I know a lot of women prefer taller men, just curious if it mattered at all for men.
    Doesn't matter. I've dated all sorts of heights of women, though more shorter ones.
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    How big is too big for a FUPA?
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    Depends on the size of the guy's beer belly.

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