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Old 09-25-10, 12:54 PM   #1
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Big age difference relationships

Not that I'm complaining...but why am I finding myself meeting women 10+ years younger? Note: I do not have Pcad's money, jsharr's wit, or chipcom's bod.

What is too big a difference in age for you? I think a 7-year difference is pushing it.
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Meh, my sister married a guy 20+ years her senior and she seems happy. I like younger women because most single girls my age either have 5 kids or are crazy, robbing the cradle just makes sense after you turn 30.
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I draw the line when they're younger then my son.
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13 years younger is my record, but she was kind of an exception. I'll say 10 years even is a good cut-off point.

I just think there are more apt partners among girls in their mid to late 20s. Like Kris sez, most 35-45 year olds are either completely crazy, have too many children or both. I suppose it'll get better as they get older, as more of their kids will be 18+ and not as present.
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Of course it depends a lot on where you live. Where I live, most of the attractive women in my age group are already married. The city down across the river hosts a wider variety of hot 35-45 year old single women.
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The highest age gap I would go with is 12 years. That number will go up to 13 on my next birthday.
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My grandparents were 10 years apart. My wife's grandparents were 21 years apart (and raised 12 kids together).

I'm three months younger than my wife; my brother is 4 years younger than his.

What was the question again?
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13 years younger is my record, but she was kind of an exception. I'll say 10 years even is a good cut-off point.

I just think there are more apt partners among girls in their mid to late 20s. Like Kris sez, most 35-45 year olds are either completely crazy, have too many children or both. I suppose it'll get better as they get older, as more of their kids will be 18+ and not as present.
There is a difference between girls and women. It depends on what you're looking for.

Some people are really mature at 22, others aren't at 42. It really depends on the person.

As for middle-aged women having too many children: when I was doing the online dating thing, I can't tell you how many men in their 50's listed their children's ages as 25, 23, 6 and 4. Lots of guys who hooked up with the younger girls had double families. You don't find too many women with that.

I bet if we took a poll, the Foo women would agree that men 35-45 were just as nuts as you perceive women the same age to be.

So far my age gap has been +6 and -7 years. No major problems with either age gap.
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Some people are really mature at 22, others aren't at 42. It really depends on the person.
Very true. The 26 y.o. I started dating when I was 39 was very well adjusted.
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As for middle-aged women having too many children: when I was doing the online dating thing, I can't tell you how many men in their 50's listed their children's ages as 25, 23, 6 and 4. Lots of guys who hooked up with the younger girls had double families. You don't find too many women with that.
Wow, that is just plain insane! If I was a gal, I'd steer WAY clear of any dude with a handful of children from two different mothers. It seems like they'd have a better chance hooking up at their kids' soccer games or church or whatever - dot it Brady style. Posting that on your online "resume" seems like it would be a great way to get zero first dates.[/QUOTE]
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Even if I wanted to be daddy to someone else's kids, which I don't, I'd always have to be dealing with some drama from the loser father. No thanks.
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Wow, that is just plain insane! If I was a gal, I'd steer WAY clear of any dude with a handful of children from two different mothers. It seems like they'd have a better chance hooking up at their kids' soccer games or church or whatever - dot it Brady style. Posting that on your online "resume" seems like it would be a great way to get zero first dates.
So you do judge someone for having loved more then one person enough to have kids with them? Nice. Really nice to know what some people are like. But on the other hand, someone who can't understand that might be better off keeping to the same mindset in his/hers partners And yes, on the subject - I don't see a difference up to around 10 yrs as a problem, sometimes even more where people get along well, it's all individual.
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Yep, some people are a little extreme with the baby making. Actually there is one single mom around here I'd consider dating. Luckily she only has one of the little monsters.

And, like I say I'm more apt to want to date someone if their kids are out of the house. Even if it's two sets of kids. Still you gotta worry about how realistically people think things through when they just jump right in to raising a second batch of kids. It's kinda nuts.

There are some people that are just born parents and don't mind 25+ years of parenting. I don't think I could manage 18 years of parenting. No offense against those that do, it's just not my thing.

So, yes my preference leans towards those that aren't into it, or are completely done with it.
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Not that I'm complaining...but why am I finding myself meeting women 10+ years younger? Note: I do not have Pcad's money, jsharr's wit, or chipcom's bod.

What is too big a difference in age for you? I think a 7-year difference is pushing it.
The escort service knows your tastes, would be my guess.
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25 and over, fair game.
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I'm still married but if I became single now at 42, I'd have no problem whatsoever dating much younger women. People, and by people i mean women my age, might ask things like, "what do you see in them? what do you talk about? what can they offer you?" I don't think I'd be able to hold back the laughter at how silly those questions sound to a guy like me.

I mean, seriously, there may have been a point where I "needed" someone my age, a "partner" to go through some of life's early lessons with. But by 42, I've pretty much got that stuff taken care of and don't need anything or anyone for anything other than...for fun, I guess. I don't need to be "fixed," I don't need a stable mate to raise children with, I don't need another income, I don't need anyone to debate philosophy with - all I'd need is a hot chick.
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I'm still married but if I became single now at 42, I'd have no problem whatsoever dating much younger women. People, and by people i mean women my age, might ask things like, "what do you see in them? what do you talk about? what can they offer you?" I don't think I'd be able to hold back the laughter at how silly those questions sound to a guy like me.

I mean, seriously, there may have been a point where I "needed" someone my age, a "partner" to go through some of life's early lessons with. But by 42, I've pretty much got that stuff taken care of and don't need anything or anyone for anything other than...for fun, I guess. I don't need to be "fixed," I don't need a stable mate to raise children with, I don't need another income, I don't need anyone to debate philosophy with - all I'd need is a hot chick.
lets not forget that the women that ask these questions are usually the ones still living at home with mom and dad and smell like mothballs and cheese.
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My wife is 10 years my senior, not crazy, no kids, and well-established in her career. No distractions, we can pretty much do whatever we want at the drop of a hat, and we're in a position where we're not scraping for pennies just because my career went tits-up for the time being.
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Not that I'm complaining...but why am I finding myself meeting women 10+ years younger? Note: I do not have Pcad's money, jsharr's wit, or chipcom's bod.

What is too big a difference in age for you? I think a 7-year difference is pushing it.
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I'm still married but if I became single now at 42, I'd have no problem whatsoever dating much younger women. People, and by people i mean women my age, might ask things like, "what do you see in them? what do you talk about? what can they offer you?" I don't think I'd be able to hold back the laughter at how silly those questions sound to a guy like me.
I don't think I could date someone a lot younger than me. I'm too much of a curmudgeon at 47. I think there's a broad gap between people who remember life without personal electronics technology and those who grew up with it as a given.

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I mean, seriously, there may have been a point where I "needed" someone my age, a "partner" to go through some of life's early lessons with. But by 42, I've pretty much got that stuff taken care of and don't need anything or anyone for anything other than...for fun, I guess. I don't need to be "fixed," I don't need a stable mate to raise children with, I don't need another income, I don't need anyone to debate philosophy with - all I'd need is a hot chick.
That kind of an attitude will lead to a lasting relationship. Yeah, right.
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I think there's a broad gap between people who remember life without personal electronics technology and those who grew up with it as a given.
That keeps it exciting. I was at work with a youngster when one of our phones stopped working due to dead battery that wouldn't charge. I said "I've a phone upstairs that doesn't take batteries, we'll plug that in."

He said "How does a phone work without batteries" and gave me that "you're crazy" look.
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Between my wife and I there's a 10.5 year difference. We married about a month before she turned 21. We are very happy and perfectly suited to each other.
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That keeps it exciting. I was at work with a youngster when one of our phones stopped working due to dead battery that wouldn't charge. I said "I've a phone upstairs that doesn't take batteries, we'll plug that in."

He said "How does a phone work without batteries" and gave me that "you're crazy" look.
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