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Old 12-30-10, 12:43 PM   #1
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Is it Really That Unusual to Go to Bed/Wake-up When Your S/O Does?

I was reading advice on some website, and someone mentioned “going to bed and waking up together will really help” in regards to connecting with your spouse.

It got me to thinking…in every relationship I have been in, I have always gone to bed at the same time as my significant other, and we have always gotten out of bed at the same time each morning. Every night and every morning for almost two decades. And now, with a 2.5 year old, we get up together as a family with the kid (sleep in different rooms, and of course the kid goes to bed two hours before us, though).

So, is this weird? Doesn’t everyone go to bed at night and get out of bed in the morning at the same time as their partner/family? I can’t imagine going to bed at a different time than my wife, or getting out of bed at a different time than my wife/kid!
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Old 12-30-10, 01:01 PM   #2
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My wife is a morning person, I am an evening person, so often I go to bed a couple of hours after her, and generally get up about the same time as she does (so I can go for a ride before work).
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Old 12-30-10, 01:13 PM   #3
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I was a morning person, wife was a night owl. Over the last 15 years i've become less of a morning person and more of a night owl and it's rare for us to differ in sleep/wake time.
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Old 12-30-10, 01:19 PM   #4
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GF crashes very early and gets up much earlier than I do..... maybe im just lazy
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Old 12-30-10, 02:55 PM   #5
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I get up at 5:00 so no, my wife doesn't wake up with me. Then I also go to bed early because I have to get up early...

Weekends and holidays we're closer together.
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Old 12-30-10, 03:03 PM   #6
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We go to bed at the same time. I wake up way earlier. I can't stand having so much sleep, and she can't stand so little.
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We go to bed and get up together most of the time. Once in a while, I like to sleep a little longer on a Saturday.
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When I'm with the Couch - we hang till we go to bed, but I'm an early person normally so I just normally get up early - he likes and enjoys sleeping later - which is fine.

When we're apart he stays up later than me - I fall asleep between 9 and 12 am - but am up early once again (why? because MING is my alarm - she wakes me up every day between 6-7 am).
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It's phenomenal if you happen to find a spouse that a) requires the same amount of sleep as you and b) has the same sleeping patterns.

B) is a product of discipline but A) is a product of physiology.

My wife requires more sleep than me... at least two hours more.
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The girl and I go to bed and wake up at the same time. It seems weird not to anymore. We've been doing it nearly every day for a year and half-ish.
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We go to sleep at the same time but I get an extra hour of sleep in the morning. It wasn't always this way. There were years I had to leave for work really early in the morning so he'd still be asleep when I left. I like out new wake up schedule better.
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We're in central time and the wife telecommutes to eastern, so she's up pretty early. I have been in music for 20+ years, so I usually tuck her in, snuggle a bit until she's out, then I stay up for a couple more hours and then wake up a few hours later in the morning. Noon is the new 9 o'clock for musicians.
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Some mornings I wake up crabby, and other mornings I let her sleep.....
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Haha, I like the creative responses tucked away in here.

My wife is NOT a morning person, so sometimes I wish she would actually sleep in--it takes her roughly three hours from the time to wake up until she is awake and not super crabby.

The kid and I can jump out of bed at 7am and we are totally ready to go! But, my wife doesn't want to miss out on anything, so she gets up, too, but she is an absolute bear to be around for several hours.
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Old 12-31-10, 11:01 AM   #15
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My bf usually crashes on the couch around 9pm most weeknights and I can't even think about going to bed until around 11-11:30 usually. He gets up like clock work at 5ish and I'd rather sleep until 7. So some of the time he goes to bed a half hour or hour before me and gets up about the same before me.

The plus side to him going to bed before me is that it's already warm when I get in.
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Old 12-31-10, 11:20 AM   #16
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Our work schedules are very different, so The Girl and I sack out and wake at different times.
I'm in bed by 22:00 to wake up at 04:00. She doesn't start her day until at least 2, sometimes 2.5 hours later when I'm already at work.
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Old 12-31-10, 11:54 AM   #17
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Before my sleep apnea was controlled, I would lay in the bed for about an hour after my wife got up and I never felt rested. I had a job that had me working constantly shifting hours, on-call 24/7. I got used to getting up anytime and got the apnea fixed. Now I often get up an hour or 2 before my wife does.
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Old 12-31-10, 12:51 PM   #18
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Not unusual, just annoying....
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Old 12-31-10, 01:31 PM   #19
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MaxBabe is a theatre nurse, so her hours are all over the place. Thankfully she doesn't work night shifts, but her daytime shifts can start at 0700, 0730, 0800, 1000, 1100 or 1130. We both go to bed anywhere between 2000 and 2130, and I almost always wake up somewhere between 0400 and 0430. She sleeps until two hours before her shift, whatever her shift might be. I don't know how she does it. She claims it's a result of being a nurse that's always worked funny hours. I don't buy that explanation. I think she's just a freak.

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