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Old 01-14-11, 08:47 PM   #1
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On line dating?

Let's hear your experience's
I didn't date for a year after my divorce so last spring I singed op for an Eharmony account. I met my dream girl last spring, we spent the Summer, biking, hiking, camping... Then she broke my heart last month when she told me that she wanted to date other people. "if I'm only going to date one person I might as well be married and I'm don't want that" she told me. I was crushed.
I signed up for a match.com account last week and the women on it are mostly insane so far... WTF
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Gotta be patient and try to work your way through the wackos. Downside of a mega-big website. Plus side is lots to choose from.

I met my now-wife on www.oneandonly.com . Seems it caters to "big beautiful people" now. Huh.

Anyway, we met ~ Jan 1, 1999 and married a couple years later. Still (BIG grin) happily married.

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So sorry to hear that. I've dabbled in online dating over the past five years, to no decent end. On a good day, I just did not connect with the women I would meet - she was nice enough, but that was it. On a bad day, I'd leave thinking: There's an hour I'll never get back. On a really bad day, I'd be sitting across the table from her thinking: All I want right now is to be at home re-reading Atlas Shrugged and drinking a beer.

Fortunately, I haven't met any that made me think: Welp, time to file a restraining order.

For the now, may I recommend to just relax and roll with it? Perhaps take some time off of dating and focus on other stuff...like cycling, perhaps. Besides, V-day is coming up and for me having to navigate V-day with someone I just started dating ranks high on the awkward scale.
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met several weird people on cupid.com - shut off and reported two of them - chatted with one of them and he seemed normal enough an then all of a sudden he turned into a terrific perv - shut that account down. Went on to POF (plenty of fish) where I've known some people who have met some great people through there (cool forums too) but there too I actually went and met up with some people who I chose not to see after meet and greet number one. Too bad. btw - I do know of one person from another forum who met a great woman on POF and they married - an he's very happy with his experience there - even with prior people he met on there (AZ).

BUT not long after I shut that account down - I met a great guy who started posting here on foo and it's been great. So hopefully you'll meet that right person. It's harder to meet people as we get older - I mean I don't go hang with my friends as I used too, hang at bars - go to parties, etc and am now rather doing the going to bicycle club meetings and other things - places where you would not expect to meet people. And I love some of those stories I've read over the years on how - this person was in a grocery line and they turned to talk to someone and one thing led to another - where they exchanged numbers yada yada - they are still together. heh - I'd like to see the percentages of that item.
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Never did online...but some years ago I did newspaper personals. Met quite a few nice ladies, a couple that were 'out there somewhere', but didn't ever find a good match. I had posted an age range that topped out at 29 (I think I was 27 at the time, IIRC)...had one that was 39 meet me and insist that she was a 'young' 39 and wanted to take me home to meet her 19 y/o daughter.
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I did eHarmony, Match and Fitness Singles. None of them worked out. I just felt like I was selling myself on the internet. Guys would send 1 email and then want to meet in person - uh, no thanks.
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I did eHarmony, Match and Fitness Singles. None of them worked out. I just felt like I was selling myself on the internet. Guys would send 1 email and then want to meet in person - uh, no thanks.
yup - one email/contact and it was so when we meet. hmmm - so much for getting to know someone one and "talk" ... Very leery on that - as I did do a couple of those - and kicked myself all the way there (always in an open area place - and I would meet him there) - and it was never really good - very different people - but hey - perhaps I came off as a VERY DIFFERENT person as well
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Don't give up on E-Harmony. I met my wife there almost 6 years ago. She was dating a guy a week for a year before meeting me. She grew tired of cowboys, rednecks, guys with baggage (kids) and deadbeats. She was the first I met face to face. The first woman I had a great online communication with stood me up on the first date. I couldn't believe it! But that missed chance ( for her) resulted in meeting me wife.

You should have known from the start with her that marriage was not an option she was looking for. She had no business on E-Harmony if she only wanted to "date" and not look for serious prospects. I am surprised the filters let her continue unless she was jive talkin' on the interview questions.
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I had great luck on Match and eHarmony, and in fact met Ms. MillCreek 3.0 on Match. Like just about everything else, you have to sift the chaff to get to the wheat. I met some interesting people, had some great stories, and met some real clunkers. I liked the sites for the sorting capability: age, education, income, interests and the like. That way you could more quickly identify people who met your important criteria.
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I did eHarmony, Match and Fitness Singles. None of them worked out. I just felt like I was selling myself on the internet. Guys would send 1 email and then want to meet in person - uh, no thanks.
That's interesting... We should totally meet up and talk about that.
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That's interesting... We should totally meet up and talk about that.

hehe - and sometimes it was fewer words than that - that would inspire the next infamous PM - "where can we meet". OY!
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I did eHarmony, Match and Fitness Singles. None of them worked out. I just felt like I was selling myself on the internet. Guys would send 1 email and then want to meet in person - uh, no thanks.
I wasn't that crazy about fitness singles either. I went to plentyoffish and thats been quite a bit better. Plus it's free
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I wasn't that crazy about fitness singles either. I went to plentyoffish and thats been quite a bit better. Plus it's free
The people on POF in my neck of the woods were all a bit ... unsavory. Not the kind I'd want to date.
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Maybe there needs to be a new BF category. "BF Foo Singles" All of the single folks looking to mingle can post a profile.
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You must have missed the Dateless Losers thread.
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16 F bi-curious.

Wait, sorry. Wrong forum.
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If you Pay-To-Play.com 3 times and you do not score better go back to the "meet markets"(they're free).
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I've only been on two internet dates. First one turned into a two year relationship.

The second one, uggh. She showed up wearing yoga pants and flip flops. The date took place nowhere near a beach or swimming pool.

Maybe I need to email more first. From now on, there will be yoga pants and flip flops clarification beforehand .
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Maybe there needs to be a new BF category. "BF Foo Singles" All of the single folks looking to mingle can post a profile.
We have the famous "dateless loser" thread in Foo.Over 1000 served
PM each other an "undie" photo to break the ice.
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I've only been on two internet dates. First one turned into a two year relationship.

The second one, uggh. She showed up wearing yoga pants and flip flops. The date took place nowhere near a beach or swimming pool.

Maybe I need to email more first. From now on, there will be yoga pants and flip flops clarification beforehand .
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The people on POF in my neck of the woods were all a bit ... unsavory. Not the kind I'd want to date.
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hoo haa dude!
Hahaha! I might have been able to overlook the other clothing choices if that were the case.
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The people on POF in my neck of the woods were all a bit ... unsavory. Not the kind I'd want to date.
Laughing with you. Trust me. POF is not perfect but I've met some nice people (a couple of oddballs also). I think that's the nature of the beast with internet dating though.
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I've tried match, POF, Eharm, and I'm sure something else. They were all pretty much wastes of time. POF and match have the scariest people in my neck of the woods as well, and all the men want to do right off the bat is talk dirty or meet and hook up. I've quit wasting my time and money. I'd rather be alone and happy than with someone and miserable. Maybe one day I'll meet someone nice till then I'm good.
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