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    Every lane is a bike lane Chris L's Avatar
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    Living alone is GREAT!

    You know, I had a great weekend just a few days ago. I got off work early on Friday afternoon, and cycled out to a campsite in the Hinterland to go camping with some friends, quite a decent ride that enabled me to watch some mountains in the moonlight. Saturday I took a hike with the same friends (and a few others) through some world-heritage listed rainforest in a remote part of Lamington National Park, spotted some exotic wildlife that can't be seen anywhere else in the world, then went back to the camp ground and spent the evening chatting with some other campers there.

    Sunday I rode home in the morning, then went out to the Stadium at Robina to watch my beloved Gold Coast United win (granted, we don't have many fans, but the game you people refer to as "soccer" has the most passionate fans in the world, and 3,000 of us will generally make more noise than 30,000 watching any other game). The scenes in "the beach" were absolutely crazy when we scored the winner, loved that! To me the whole weekend was just another reminder about how great it is to live alone.

    Now I know that it's not politically correct to say this, in fact, when I tell people how happy I am in my situation, a lot of them actually seem to get angry. But will all the threads about "dateless losers" that crop up here, I thought it was time to tell people how great it really is to live alone. Now I'm not saying don't socialise, or don't hang out with people of the opposite gender. In fact, two of the people I went camping with were female friends. But there really is something to be said for being able to drop everything and have a weekend away (without having to tell anyone what time you're coming home), or to be able to come home and then immediately go out again (without asking anyone's permission).

    But it's not just the weekend's away that are great. When I come home from work this evening for example, I can again do whatever I like. I can have whatever I like for dinner, heck I can go out for dinner if I want to (but I don't have to). There's no TV blaring when I get home, there's no noise, there's nobody telling me what I didn't do/could do/should do/whatever. If I want the TV on (which is rare because I usually have better things to do), I can watch it uninterrupted. Or maybe I'd prefer a little music -- there's nobody to object to my musical tastes (which are varied), or maybe I'll go out somewhere.

    When my pay comes in, I can spend it on whatever I like. I'll generally save some for my next overseas trip (France is looking appealing right now), I've been known to give to certain charities, and then I might spend some on whatever I decide. It could mean eating out, it could mean going to a concert or a sporting event or an art gallery, or whatever. If I do decide to go out with a female (which, occasionally will happen) I'm just going out for a good time, I'm not wasting energy trying to determine whether she is or isn't "relationship" material, and I'm not worrying about whether or not she's judging me either.

    I could go on and on about the advantages, but since attention spans are short these days, I won't. I'll just say that I have found living alone to be such an awesome experience (and I've been doing it for a few years now), that I wonder why more people don't do it. I can only assume that it's because they don't give it a chance. They stress so much about trying to fill some "gap" in their lives, about whether or not someone else will try to portray them as a "loser", that they create drama and other problems for themselves that just don't need to be there. If they would only embrace what they have, they would be much happier.
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    It does get lonely sometimes, but yeah what you said.
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    There are lots of great reasons for living alone. Being able to crap without anxiety was one of mine. Also a few of yours.
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    Yeah walking around naked is pretty nice

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    Quote Originally Posted by ____asdfghjkl View Post
    Yeah walking around naked is pretty nice
    Yes that too. Although I still do it even when partnered
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    Quote Originally Posted by ____asdfghjkl View Post
    Yeah walking around naked is pretty nice
    Yeah, but apparently standing in front of balcony glass door naked is not.
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    Quote Originally Posted by UmneyDurak View Post
    Yeah, but apparently standing in front of balcony glass door naked is not.
    I do that all the time

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    It's nice to be able to live alone and do as you please. A lot of us spend a majority of our time doing for others - sacrificing ourselves to make others happy or comfortable. We do it so often that sometimes we lose sight of ourselves....

    It's time for you, Chris. And I'm glad that you have discovered that. I truly believe that we should find our inner happiness and the true joy within our hearts FIRST, before we are able to give to others. I mean...not saying that we shouldn't do for others, I'm saying that in order to give from the heart it's best if it's done because we have so much to give. Does that make sense? A bitter person who is doing for another person because they HAVE TO or feel obligated to eventually finds resentment.

    Looks like you are having the time of your life, Chris. Enjoy that. Cherish that. Savor that. Love that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Siu Blue Wind View Post
    It's nice to be able to live alone and do as you please. A lot of us spend a majority of our time doing for others - sacrificing ourselves to make others happy or comfortable. We do it so often that sometimes we lose sight of ourselves....

    It's time for you, Chris. And I'm glad that you have discovered that. I truly believe that we should find our inner happiness and the true joy within our hearts FIRST, before we are able to give to others. I mean...not saying that we shouldn't do for others, I'm saying that in order to give from the heart it's best if it's done because we have so much to give. Does that make sense? A bitter person who is doing for another person because they HAVE TO or feel obligated to eventually finds resentment.

    Looks like you are having the time of your life, Chris. Enjoy that. Cherish that. Savor that. Love that.
    +A lot and add that when you are happy and content with yourself by yourself, you will seek a relationship out of wants and not needs.
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    One thing I learned over the years.....

    You must be self contained enough to be happy and secure living alone, to be absolutely happy and secure living with a partner.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MangoPumpkin View Post
    There are lots of great reasons for living alone. Being able to crap without anxiety was one of mine. Also a few of yours.
    Wait. I sense a contradiction here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tom Stormcrowe View Post
    One thing I learned over the years.....

    You must be self contained enough to be happy and secure living alone, to be absolutely happy and secure living with a partner.
    So true. The wife and I dated for 2 years right out of high school and then split for a few years before getting back together. best thing we ever did was live alone for a while to find out who we were and develop that independence.

    While not for me, I completely understand why folks like to live alone (though I am sometimes envious of the freedom ).
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    That graph is missing "being able to leave wet dirty bikes in the middle of the kitchen without anyone *****ing"
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    Thanks for the reminder. When one has had this good for this long, one sometimes forgets.

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    Hey guyz? Guyz? Wait up!! Siu Blue Wind's Avatar
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    If I out live my wife, I will never re-marry! I love her dearly, but I want my freedom when she is gone.

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    I love my time alone (not really alone, but hanging out with my 2 beloved cats), and find I absolutely need it the older I get. I've always loved being alone, even when I was married or partnered, and it seems like only the people who also appreciate their own private time understand this. I haven't a TV in years, and people always assume you have to have 1 and offer me one of theirs - they don't understand how I can be happy to be alone and not have a TV at the same time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tom Stormcrowe View Post
    One thing I learned over the years.....

    You must be self contained enough to be happy and secure living alone, to be absolutely happy and secure living with a partner.
    Especially one you publicly refer to as "Mrs. Crazylady"...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wordbiker View Post
    Well as long as my wife never sees thsi thread I'm OK. I can walk around nude! So it seems I have most of the benefits of living alone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by x136 View Post
    ...And that's sad. Society is so damned determined that the only acceptable situation is to be in a relationship, otherwise you're lonely, sad, and worthy of pity. You know what? I see plenty of people in relationships who are unhappy, or miserable, or are being someone other than themselves in order to be in the relationship in the first place. Being "with someone" isn't a magic bullet, nor is it a happiness switch.
    You're right, but really, you and I aren't really serving the interests of the corporations who control the media and the governments of just about every developed country on Earth. Think about it, I don't need to work 70 hours a week on the minimum wage to try to pay off a debt that I incurred in an attempt to keep a partner happy. If I leave my current employer at some point in the future, I'll have enough money saved to be able to take my time and wait for a suitable offer to come along. There won't be any desperation to support anyone else. Hence the reason we see the media trying to hang crap on anyone who doesn't comply with the "conventional" way of doing things, and the reason governments offer tax breaks for people to get married and have children -- irrespective of the suitability of the tax break recipients to do it.
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